Synopses & Reviews
We’ve all said things we lived to regret. But what if we communicated mindfully instead, stopping first to consider how our words might hurt rather than help—or if we need to voice them at all? In What Would Buddha Say?, best-selling author Barbara Ann Kipfer offers 1,501 reminders for staying on the path of positive communication. Based on ancient Buddhist teachings, this portable guide will provide inspiration and tips on how to speak clearly, truthfully, and with lovingkindness.
In our modern world, it seems we’re always in a hurry—usually running on autopilot, and all too quick to make that comment or send that message. But when we communicate without first considering the impact it may have—especially if it’s idle gossip or false speech—we can create unnecessary conflicts and far-reaching negative consequences. With poor communication at the heart of most misunderstandings and arguments, learning to practice mindful communication, including good listening skills, is key to speaking—or not speaking—with better results in every area of your life.
In What Would Buddha Say?, you’ll find hundreds of instantly accessible and compulsively readable communication tips on giving thoughtful attention to your words so you’re more likely to be understood, and less likely to damage your relationships. Based on the concept of Right Speech, an important element of Buddhism’s Noble Eightfold Path, these mindful essentials—inspirational quotes and sayings, short essays, and meditation suggestions—will guide you away from harmful speech and into a state of mindfulness from which you can gently speak your truth.
There is always room for improvement in terms of communication, and with practice, we can learn to speak mindfully—to say only what is beneficial and true with a kind heart at the right time. Packed with Buddhist wisdom and full of inspiration, What Would Buddha Say? will help you maximize the good in your speech as you take steps toward a more peaceful way of being.
With the goal of explaining "how you are not your thoughts but also how you are what you think" Kipfer (How Would Buddha Act?) a lexicographer and prolific author of list based self help books provides guidance to Buddhist practitioners and anyone seeking a calmer mind and more skillful actions. Kipfer bases her approach on Right Intention one aspect of Buddhism's Noble Eightfold Path noting that "Each word and every action begins with a thought." Offering readers a variety of tools to reduce repetitive or negative thoughts the book comprises a long bulleted list of teachings in aphorism form brief discussions of relevant topics such as anxiety and compassion and targeted meditations. Kipfer doesn't impose any organization on the central list which includes explanations advice and practices with some repetition and clichés along with the astute reminders; the subsequent short essays are stronger clearly explaining how key Buddhist concepts can improve wellbeing. By shining a focused light on the central—and frustrating—topic of thoughts Kipfer provides a helpful reference guide for those seeking to change harmful mental patterns. (July) " Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved."
Our words can harm or heal, notes Barbara Ann Kipfer in this comprehensive guide to Right Speech, one of the elements in Buddhas Eightfold Path to enlightenment. With wisdom, wit, and sensitivity, she offers hundreds of simple, practical teachings designed to make the transformative practice of mindful communication a habitin the old-fashioned way, through conversation, as well as in the modern world of texting, emails, and social media.”
Carol Krucoff, E-RYT, yoga therapist at Duke Integrative Medicine and author of several books, including Yoga Sparks
What Would Buddha Say?
provides a fantastic blueprint for speaking to others with kindness, compassion, consideration, and respect. If we all followed Barbara Ann Kipfers advice, wed hurt each other less, help each other more, and say fewer things we regret.”
Lori Deschene, founder of tinybuddha.com and author of Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Lifes Hard Questions and Tiny Buddhas Guide to Loving Yourself
"Kipfer brings us a companion brimming with reminders to speak authentically and from the heart, as if we had a tiny friend in our pocket who occasionally pulled at our sleeve to ask, What Would Buddha Say?
In these days, when we cannot trust so much of what our eyes show us or the words that reach our ears, her book presses the reset button, reminding us the truth begins first in how we speak to ourselves.”
Kimber Simpkins, yoga teacher and author of Full
“Even a cursory glance at this quality material and application of some of the sayings would make for a more peaceful planet.”
—Library Journal Xpress Review
What if everyone gave their full, thoughtful attention to the words they saidor texted, or emailed? In What Would Buddha Say?, best-selling author Barbara Ann Kipfer presents 1,501 mindful communication tips based on the Buddhist concept of Right Speecha belief that what you say can greatly affect your happiness. Readers will learn to speak their truth and say what they really mean, improve all of their relationships, and choose their words wisely and conscientiously in every situation.
What if you gave your full, thoughtful attention to the words you saidor texted, or emailed? In What Would Buddha Say?, best-selling author Barbara Ann Kipfer presents 1,501 mindful communication tips based on the Buddhist concept of Right Speecha belief that what you say can greatly affect your happiness.
Poor communication lies at the heart of most relationship problems. Everyone wants to be heard, to be understood, and to be treated with respect. But in our digital age of texting and social media, its easy to distance ourselves from the words we put out into the world, and many times, we may not be aware of the negative impact our words can have on people, whether they are our friends, family, or coworkers.
This is where the concept of Right Speech comes in. An important part of the Buddhist Noble Eightfold Path, Right Speech is the philosophy that what you say can positively or negatively impact your life, as well as the lives of those around you. Speech to avoid includes divisive speech, abusive speech, lies, and idle gossip. In addition, most of what we say fails to convey what we really mean in our hearts.
With this book as your guide, youll learn thousands of tips to help you speak your truth, say what you really mean in your heart, improve all of your relationships, and choose your words wisely and conscientiously in every situation.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.”
Every word and every action begins with a thought. Negative thoughts based in jealousy, greed, or hatred may seem harmless on the surface. After all, they’re only thoughts, right? But while thoughts are only in our head, they often betray our intentions, and can directly shape our actions. So, how can you overcome internal negativity and live more consciously?
In How Would Buddha Think?, best-selling author of 14,000 Things to Be Happy About, Barbara Ann Kipfer offers an insightful, modern take on the ancient teaching of Right Intention—an important tenet of the Buddhist Eightfold Path focused on the belief that our intentions drive our actions.
With this book as your guide, you’ll learn how to move past negative thoughts or ill will toward others and instead focus on altruism, purpose, and self-actualization—qualities needed to help you live a truly happy life.
About the Author
Barbara Ann Kipfer, PhD
, is a lexicographer who has authored more than fifty books, including 14,000 Things to be Happy About
, The Wish List
, Instant Karma
, 8,789 Words of Wisdom,
. Barbara has an MPhil and PhD in Linguistics, a PhD in Archaeology, and an MA and PhD in Buddhist Studies.
Foreword writer Marc Lesser is the CEO of the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (http://siyli.org). He is author of Know Yourself, Forget Yourself and Less: Accomplishing More by Doing Less.