Synopses & Reviews
This comprehensive volume was created specifically to help today's cops and their loved ones, and will enhance the work of mental health professionals who encounter this population.
Will police work change the person you love? Are police marriages destined to fail? What are the chances of your loved one being killed in the line of duty? Separating fact from myth, Dr. Ellen Kirschman answers these and other critical questions in the first comprehensive self-help book created specifically for today's police families. In information-filled chapters, readers will go behind the scenes with other police families as they discuss the benefits and pitfalls of police work; learn how to manage the effects of organizational stress and the pressures of unpredictable schedules, long hours and loneliness; gain awareness of the emotional, physical, and behavioral warning signs which can lead to such extreme situations as posttraumatic stress, alcoholism, suicide and domestic violence; find out where families can go for help and counseling; and get an inside look at cop couples and the special challenges facing women, minorities, and gays and lesbians on the force.
Nothing worth doing is easy--and that includes loving a cop. Being a member of the law enforcement community is a source of pride for officers and families alike. But long hours, unpredictable shifts, and the crisis-driven nature of the profession can turn life on the home front into an emotional roller coaster. Dr. Ellen Kirschman, a psychologist who's worked with police officers for more than 30 years, gives you practical ways to deal with the challenges that come with the territory. Packed with stories from cops and their significant others, this book explains how to reduce spillover from on-the-job stress and cope with loneliness or worry during extended deployments. Dr. Kirschman acknowledges the tough realities of 21st-century law enforcement and offers frank, realistic suggestions for handling serious issues like alcohol abuse and domestic violence. She also covers special topics for women and minorities on the force. Whether you read it from cover to cover or reach for it when problems arise, I Love a Cop
is an indispensable tool that everyone in your family can depend on.
Mental health professionals, see also Counseling Cops: What Clinicians Need to Know, by Ellen Kirschman, Mark Kamena, and Joel Fay.
Includes bibliographical references (p. 265-284) and index.
About the Author
Ellen Kirschman, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and consultant who works with peace officers and their families. She is sought after as a speaker and seminar leader and is the coauthor of Counseling Cops
. Dr. Kirschman has been an invited guest at the FBI Academy, is a member of the Psychological Services Section of the International Association of Chiefs of Police, and was named Woman of Distinction by the Police Chiefs Spouses Worldwide. She lives in Redwood City, California. Her website is www.ellenkirschman.com.
Table of Contents
I. Hi Honey, I'm Home
1. The Way It Is: Givens and Realities of Policework
2. The Police Officer's Paradox
3. Growing Old in a Young Person's Profession: How Officers Change With Time
4. Organizational Stress: Looking For Love in All the Wrong Places
II. Remarkable Events
5. Critical Incidents, Stress, and Trauma
6. From Victim to Survivor: Working Through Trauma
7. From Battlefront to Homefront: Families and Trauma
8. Kids and Trauma
9. Domestic Abuse: The Best Kept Secret Shame of Policing
10. Alcohol Abuse and Suicide
11. Getting the Help You Need When You Need It
III. Special Families, Special Issues
12. Swimming Upstream: Special Challenges Facing Women, Minorities, Lesbians, and Gay Men in Law Enforcement
13. Cop Couples
IV. Summing Up
14. Success Stories