Synopses & Reviews
Often we enter into a relationship and say, "I love you," but then wonder, "Now what?" Feeling love for someone is not enough to keep the spark alive. Successful relationships must be based upon a solid foundation that's rooted in a continuous exchange of emotions, ideas, wills, beliefs, actions, reactions, vibrations, thoughts and objectives. Often this can be difficult and complicated to achieve, but I Love You. Now What?
offers easy-to-follow methods for enjoying the benefits of a lasting relationship.
Through exploring why we fall in love, reflecting upon the emotional stages we experience and examining issues that can negatively influence our relationships -- including communication, trust and sex -- Mabel reveals how love can not only survive, but thrive. Mabel's clear and thoughtful advice, her exclusive recipes for great sex and fascinating testimonials from her clients will help readers achieve the ultimate joy in life: long, lasting love.
"I've been really moved. This book is full of tenderness worth enjoying." -- José Antonio Ponseti, programming director, Caracol Radio
"It might be true that to learn the art of love there are no schools, but the pages of this book are as good as a classroom. Iam teaches us that there should be no boundaries to how we express what we feel toward someone else and to how we enjoy a relationship in the fullest way possible." -- Johanna Torres, Editor-in-Chief, Siempre Mujer
"Mabel Iam offers a practical guide for keeping love alive and finding, once and for all, a perfect and harmonious relationship." -- Julio César Paredes, El Diario/La Prensa
"It's without a doubt the best guide I have ever read for real, intimate and long-lasting relationships. Whether you're married, single, with or without love interest, this book is a must." -- Julia Dangond, senior TV and entertainment executive
"Mabel Iam offers a practical guide for keeping love alive and finding, once and for all, a perfect and harmonious relationship."
-- Julio César Paredes, El Diario/La Prensa
"Mabel continues to show us the practical applications of loving and being loved without breaking the magical enchantment of love." -- Lissette Valdés-Valle, journalist
"No need for miraculous pills or phony infomercials. Mabel Iam teaches us with originality, elegance and spice how to make love a daily ritual of understanding, enjoyment and pleasure." -- Walter Larrosa, Ocean Drive en Espanol
"Mabel Iam has found the real pill against heartbreak in the form of a book that doesn't bother telling us what we already know about sex and relationships, revealing instead the secrets we can't afford to be without to be truly happy in love." -- Anjanette Delgado, author of The Heartbreak Pill
About the Author
Mabel Iam is a psychotherapist and relationship expert, as well as the author of several national and international award-winning bestsellers. She often appears on Telemundo and Univision and has a weekly radio show. Visit her website at <>
Table of Contents
Preface Acknowledgments Introduction
PART ONE Love: Now What? Chapter 1: I Love You and I Love Myself The Mystery of Love Should There Be a School for Love? Liberating Ourselves from False Mirrors and Relationships Chapter 2: I Love You and I'm Falling Deeper in Love Romance and Falling in Love Emotions Produced at the Beginning of a Romantic Relationship Don't Be Afraid to Love Anxiety and Falling in Love What Do We Do If Love Really Does Show Up? Chapter 3: I Love You and I Want You to Feel Sure of My Love How Do We Know When It's Love? How Do You Declare Your Love? The Language of Kisses The Fire of Touch Twenty Quotations for Lovers Chapter 4: I Love You a Thousand Ways Relationship Models and Testimonials The Romantic Relationship The Conflictive Relationship How to End Conflictive Relationships Evaluate Your Relationship Personal and Intimate Inventory The Illusionary Relationship The Total Relationship Chapter 5: I Love You and I Want to Live with You The New Couple: Living Together (A New Structure?) Now What? Should We Get Married? Chapter 6: I Love You and I Want to Marry You The True Meaning of Marriage Comments on Marriage Chapter 7: I Love You -- Forever? To Love or Not to Love. Is That the Question? Living Together Tests Love Falling Out of Love Chapter 8: I Love You Because You're My Ideal Mate The Inner Couple How Do We Recognize the Masculine and Feminine Energy in Ourselves? Visualization of the Inner Couple: Feminine and Masculine Energies Visualizing the Inner Masculine Energy in Both Sexes Exploring Your Instinctive Impulses Deepening the Inner Feminine Energy in Both Sexes Improving Relationships Chapter 9: I Love You and I Am Willing to Transform My Fears Losing Love: Fear and Its Negative Zones Eliminate the Fear of Love from Your Mind Fatal Attraction: Anxiety and Fear What Happens When Anxiety and Fear Come Together? Love's Kingdom Open Your Heart without Fear Chapter 10: I Love You and I Don't Want to Argue with You Arguments Kill Relationships More Confessions Those Who Thrive on Arguments Situations That Contaminate Relationships and Lead to Arguments Why Do Arguments Happen? Chapter 11: I Love You but I Don't Need to Possess You Jealousy: The Shadow of Love The Jealous Lover What Do We Do with Jealousy If It Persists and Doesn't Allow Us to Love? The Roots of Jealousy Chapter 12: I Love You Enough to Overcome My Anger Anger and Its Consequences in Relationships Learn to Breathe and Free Your Anger Verbalizing Anger Calming Volatile Emotions Healing Wounded Relationships Chapter 13: I Love You and Our Communication Is Perfect Assertive Communication The Power of Words Nonverbal Communication Communication without Guilt The Other Side of the Coin Put Yourself in the Other Person's Place Understanding Freedom Be Willing to Reach an Agreement Affection Before, During and After Reconciling with Yourself and with Others Chapter 14: I Love You and I Want You to Humor Me Using Humor to Awaken Our Inner Child A Sense of Humor What Is Your Sense of Humor Profile? Humor: Another Approach to Pleasure The Fascinating Inner Child Characteristics of the Inner Child Pleasing Your Inner Child Connecting with Your Inner Child Healing the Inner Child Chapter 15: I Love You and I Want to Shower You with Tenderness Tenderness: The Recipe for Lasting Love The Tender Embrace Visualization: The Tenderness in You Gestures That Express Tenderness
PART TWO Sexuality: Now What? Chapter 16: I Love You and I Burn with Desire for You Sex after "I Love You" Physical and Spiritual Satisfaction Chapter 17: I Love You and I Love Pleasing Us Both Pleasure Trip: Alone or with Someone? Autoeroticism: Haven't You Ever Tried It? Discovering Your Own Pleasure Autoeroticism, the Female Genital Area and Women's Confessions Women's Erotic Confessions The Male Genital Anatomy Autoeroticism in Men Men's Erotic Confessions Myths about Masturbation Chapter 18: I Love You and I Want to Arouse You through Touch Erotic Massage for Women and Stimulation of the G-Spot Massage as a Means to Male Multiple Orgasms Mutual Masturbation Chapter 19: I Love You and I Want to Kiss You All Over Oral Sex: Pleasure and Taste Oral Pleasure for Women The Signs of Satisfaction in a Woman More Erotic Confessions Fellatio: Oral Pleasure for Men The Taste of Semen Odors, Flavors and Colors Addicted to Semen No Mint, Please Mutual Oral Sex: The World-Famous Sixty-nine Position Chapter 20: I Love You and I Want to Explore Every Part of You Anal Sex Anal Techniques Eight Perfect Positions for Anal Sex Confessions Chapter 21: I Love You and You Fuel My Fantasies Fantasies and Eroticism Fantasies: The Dark Side Common Male Fantasies Women's Sexual Fantasies Experiences with Sexual Fantasies What Blocks Erotic Fantasies? Chapter 22: I Love You and I Want to Make Love with You All the Time Changing the Routine Sex at Different Times Different Places in Which to Make Love Sex Games Sex Toys Chapter 23: I Love You and I Love the Magic of Our Union Erotic Energy and How it Works Elements That Fire Up Sexual Energy Experiences with Sexual Energy How to Keep Erotic Energy Alive Forever Chapter 24: I Love You from the Center of My Being Sex Nourishes the Spirit Ceremonial Sex Experiences with Lasting Love Sexual Wisdom In Conclusion: I Love You and I Want to Love You for the Rest of My Life Make It Your Top Priority to Totally Commit Yourself to Your Partner Spend Time Together Enjoying Different Activities Protect Your Partner's Health Save Money for a Joint Project Express Your Love Frequently and Creatively Don't Be Selfish Plan a Trip Avoid the Usual Preoccupations Work with Your Partner on a Spiritual Level Be Generous with Compliments Learn to Be Friends Renew Your Trust Accept One Another Mutually Nurture Intimacy in the Relationship Be Open to Changes in Your Partner Know How to Forgive Seek Out Moments for Romance Celebrate with Your Partner Practice Greater Trust and Openness Choose Happiness Epilogue Bibliography