Synopses & Reviews
Why am I still single?”
If youre single and searching, theres no end to other peoples explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you havent found a partner:
Youre too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and youll be fine.”
Youre too desperate. If men think you need them, theyll run scared.”
Youre too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.”
You have low self-esteem. You cant love someone else until youve learned to love yourself.”
Youre too needy. You cant be happy in a relationship until youve learned to be happy on your own.”
Based on her popular Modern Love column, Sara Eckels Its Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that theres no one reason why youre singleyou just are.
Reissued in conjunction with Harmony's publication of her latest book, If We're So In Love, Why Aren't We Happy?, Susan Page's first bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies.
At the heart of this book are Page's famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book's down-to-earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.
Susan Page, who holds a Masters of Divinity degree, founded and directed the first university-based human sexuality program at the University of California at Berkeley. Since 1980 she has devoted herself full-time to writing about relationships and working with both couples and singles. She is the author of three other books, including the recently published follow-up If Were So In Love, Why Arent We Happy? Susan Page lives in Berkeley, California.
About the Author
Sara Eckel has been a freelance writer for more than fifteen years. Her essays and reported pieces on personal growth and mental wellness have appeared in The New York Times, Salon, Nerve, Glamour, Self, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Martha Stewart Living, The Village Voice, Time Out New York, and many other publications. Her short fiction has been published in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. For five years, she wrote a nationally syndicated opinion column on political issues that appeared in more than 200 daily newspapers. She has been awarded writing residencies at the Ucross Foundation, the Millay Colony for the Arts, and the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts, as well as grants from The Hershey Family Foundation and the Jerome Foundation.