Synopses & Reviews
"Our alleged post-racial society isn't all it's supposed to be. That's what author and actress Diane Farr dis-covered when she fell in love with a Korean-American man whose parents didn't want him to marry out-side his culture. Her now-husband's parents had wanted him to marry a Korean, not simply because of ethnicity, but also to keep cultural traditions alive. In this breezily humorous but heartfelt account, she traces her romantic journey from first meeting to altar and navigates the often confusing terrain that many couples of different races, religions, and cultures still face in 21st-century America. She explores the rationale behind what she deems a double standard: families that would never tell children not to as-sociate with friends, neighbors, and colleagues of different races and backgrounds still consider some people off-limits when it comes to marriage. If a few of Farr's own problems don't seem terribly dire (her husband's aunts and uncles shunned her, but both of their immediate families were accepting), the trou-bles faced by some of the other five couples she profiles are painful tales of parental rejection and ma-nipulation. Farr learns that can't please everyone sound advice for any bride-to-be. (May)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
As a journalist I found the reach of Diane's book inspiring and important, but as a wife to someone of a different ethnic backgroundit was like therapy with laughter. A must-read for all Americans.”
Lisa Ling, Oprah correspondent and author of Somewhere Inside
Just because genetic admixture enhances the health of a population doesn't mean it is easy for the human beings who choose to build mixed families to create a sane healthy environment for the children of these unions who themselves must venture in to a world colored by the ancient cultural values of their parents' families and the prejudices of the present day. Diane Farr creates a smart, fun but unblemished look at this reality from the perspective of a woman who has been one of these courageous souls and lives this challenge daily.”
Dr. Drew Pinsky, MD, Celebrity Rehab
Farr has three kids and still found time to write a pee-yourself funny examination of inter-racial love. I hate her.”
Julie Bowen, actress, Modern Family
Diane FarrNumb3rs star, Loveline veteran, and FunnyorDie.com contributoralways took for granted that she could love anybody she chose. But when she, a white woman, fell in love with a Korean-American man, she quickly learned a tough lesson: When it comes to navigating the landscape of interracial love in America today . . . youre going to step on some landmines. At turns introspective and outrageous, Kissing Outside the Lines is Farrs unapologeticoften hilariouslook at the complexities of interracial/ethnic/religious/what-have-you love, told through the lens of her own experience of dating, marrying, and creating a family with someone from a race and culture different from her own. Along the way, she exposes the many ways in which prejudice rears its ugly headwhether subtly or overtlywhen you dare to love outside the lines,” and she shares the stories of other multiracial couples from different corners of the U.S. who have made a similar leap. With sharp wit and deft humor, Farr confronts the fears and reservations that come with loving outside of ones race, and she emerges with a powerful message: Love is love and family is familyno matter what it looks like from the outside.
About the Author
Diane Farr is a television actress, TV and magazine writer, nationally syndicated columnist, and the author of The Girl Code.
She is the female lead on CBSs most-watched Friday night drama, Numb3rs,
starred on the critically acclaimed FX series Rescue Me,
and played a supporting role on Showtime's Californication
in its third season; and she contributes to Glamour, Esquire, GQ, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Jane, Parents, Los Angeles, Gotham, Self,
Farr lives in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and three children.