After empowering millions of women through her ground-breaking Simple Abundance and its companion volumes, Sarah Ban Breathnach was deluged by requests that she also create "a Rosetta stone for understanding men." The long-awaited result is A Man's Journey to Simple Abundance, a celebration of what it means to be a man today.
Organized into sections that examine the departures, crossroads, and destinations that occur in every man's life, this volume is a candid collection of more than 50 essays written by men from a wide array of experience. From Sting, who speaks honestly about risk, to essayist Rick Bass, who explores men's grief, the essays in this book provide a celebration of what it means to be a man today.
The Authentic Journey Continues -- for Women to Understand Men, and for Men to Understand Themselves.
Includes bibliographical references (p. 423-428) and index.
A MAN'S JOURNEY TO SIMPLE ABUNDANCE
By Sarah Ban Breathnach and Friends
Edited by Michael Segell
Working Table of Contents
PART ONE: LATITUDE AND LONGITUDE
FATHERS: The Family Album by Christopher Dickey Chris Dickey reminisces about his father, James Dickey, and the indestructibility of the father-son bond.
MOTHERS: Prodigy and Son by Mark Winegardner A mother's keenness to write, using the Famous Writers' School, is one legacy she passed to her grateful son.
GRATITUDE: Love in All the Right Places by Roger Evans Roger Evans has watched his wife survive breast cancer and a brain tumor and in the process has come to understand true gratitude.
DAUGHTERS: Like Father, Like Daughter by Geoffrey Norman To share one of his enthusiasms, a father takes his two daughters, 13 and 10, on a risky deep-sea "wall dive" in the Bahamas.
SONS: Separate and Shared Agenda by Michael Segell A stepfather cannot replace a father in a stepson's eyes, but the two can learn from each other in unexpected ways.
SIBLINGS: Mirror Image by Richard Bausch In 1966, Bausch and his identical twin were in the Army when one of their fellow draftees committed suicide -- which propelled Dick to a deeper understanding of brotherhood.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Things I Wish I'd Said to My Father by Greg Bestick
PART TWO: PRIVATE PILGRIMAGES
SIMPLICITY: As It Is by Roshi Jakusho Kwong The abbot of the Sonoma Mountain Zen Center on simplifying one's vision to experience the world unencumbered by preconceptions.
VULNERABILITY: A BROKEN HEART by Charles Siebert A son remembers the courage a father exhibited when facing heart problems.
THERAPY: Vision Quest by Daniel Menaker The surprising insights -- and benefits -- that can come from seeing a psychiatrist.
BALLS: You Only Need One by Gallagher Polyn A survivor of testicular cancer writes about a man's most private part.
FEAR: The Bravest Thing I Ever Did by Tim Cahill Man's greatest fear can appear in the unlikeliest of places -- in Tim Cahill's case, a television studio.
VANITY: A Man and His Hair by Richard Liebman-Smith When a man loses his hair, he loses part of his self-image, but gains some understanding of how others think of him.
MOOD: The Tyranny of Gloom by Robert Johnson Understanding a man's moods is part of how he matures -- and how he grows.
CONSCIENCE: The Agony of Victory, the Pain of Defeat by Greg Marinovich The Pulitzer Prize-winning photographer writes movingly about the anguish of being only a witness.
MEDITATION: Everyday Life: The Question of Zen by Jim Harrison When one forgets who he is, he can begin to truly see, says Jim Harrison.
SOLITUDE: The Hermit by Jake Jacobsen Living by oneself doesn't mean that one is alone -- or unhappy.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Things Every Man Worth His Salt Should Know How to Do by Jake Morrissey
PART THREE: RULES OF THE ROAD
ORDER: How Things Work by Charles Somonyi As co-Chief Architect (along with Bill Gates) of Microsoft, Charles Simonyi is preoccupied with how things are put together -- a fascination shared by men everywhere.
PATRIOTISM: A Higher Calling by Gen. James Jones True patriotism, says a four-star Marine general, lies in a man's private belief that a sense of duty is a noble calling.
HEROES: The Chief by Larry Brown A hero is not about the flash or the sizzle, but about consistency, discipline, and commitment, as this firefighter makes clear.
RISK: Let Your Soul Be Your Bookie by Sting There is joy in risk, in the unknown, because it forces you to grow emotionally and spiritually.
RESILIENCE: Love Among the Ruins by William Klaber When your house burns to the ground, the best way to recover is to look for the nuggets of preserved goodness in the ashes of its memory.
FAITH: My Problem with Prayer by Burt Visotzky Prayer isn't perfect, nor is our response to it, but there is nevertheless value in it.
COURAGE: To Thine Own Self by Mel White A former ghostwriter for Christian leaders, who is now openly gay, has come to see that only "the soul force" will bring understanding to all.
LOYALTY: Coffee and Sympathy by Peter D. Kramer Why are we so willing to overlook loyalty in marriage?
PROTECTING: Fathers to the Community by Eddie Staton The director of MAD-DADS reminisces about a father's responsibilities to his children and his community.
MENTORING: In Loco Parentis by Keith Johnson Being a successful mentor isn't about biology or sexuality, Keith Johnson says. It's about guiding someone to form his own independent identity.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Things I Hope My Kids Learn Sooner Than I Did by Greg Bestick
PART FOUR: ISLANDS OF FAME AND FORTUNE
HARMONY: Making Perfect Dirt, or Composting as Spiritual Practice by Huston Smith Tending a compost pile -- creating "perfect dirt" -- is as much a replenishment to the spirit as it is to the land.
MONEY: You Can Never Lose Enough by Nelson W. Aldrich, Jr. What can the concept of "family money" teach us, asks the editor of The American Benefactor? For one thing, to be careless.
RECRUITMENT: A Teacher for all Seasons by Bob Bell Teaching can be enormously gratifying, as long as one can learn along the way.
WORK: Blood, Sweat, and Cheers by Elwood Reid A former professional football player understands that it's the combination of the rigorous exercise of body and mind that keeps him focused -- and content.
LISTENING: Find Your Calling by Bruce Main The founder of Urban Promise in Camden, N.J., explains why he had the courage to find his calling: He couldn't turn away.
CHANCE: A Planned Life Can Only Be Endured by Millard Fuller For some, success comes only after failure: a failed marriage, failing health. Millard Fuller, founder of Habitat for Humanity International, had to endure pain before he could embrace joy.
FAILURE: To Err Greatly by Stephens Millard To appreciate success truly, one must understand failure completely, as entrepreneur Stephens Millard has done.
REWARDS: A Lucky Choice by Reynolds Price Reynolds Price has chosen to make his avocation his vocation, and that has made all the difference.
FREEDOM: The Wild Blue Yonder by Bruce Rodger Flying a plane can tell you a lot about yourself and what you hold dear.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Questions a Man Should Know the Answer to by Jake Morrissey
PART FIVE: DIVERSIONS AND DETOURS
BEAUTY: Eye of the Beholder by Benjamin Cheever What in a man's eyes constitutes beauty? Novelist Ben Cheever spent some time thinking about this, and was surprised at what he discovered.
HUMOR: Accustomed to Her Laughter by Garry Marshall The writer-director explains that laughter has been at the heart of his 37-year marriage, and that has taught him to how to make women beautiful and funny.
THE WEDDING: The Great Groomal Expo by Roy Blount, Jr. Weddings aren't designed for men, Roy Blount says. We'd just ruin them.
COMPANIONS: Heartworks of the Running Dog by Rick Bass Grief is a beast that is easy to ignore, but disregard it at your peril. Rich Bass faced it, challenged it, and emerged a changed man.
CARS: Hers Is a Lush Situation by Bill Morris A man's relationship with his car is a complex one -- and can be one of the most satisfying in his life, as Bill Morris admits.
FANS: They Killed Our Fathers and Grandfathers and Now the Sonsabitches Are Coming for Us by Jim Shepard Some men -- and boys -- will go to any lengths for their team. In Jim Shepard's case, that devotion took on a brutal, hilarious physicality.
HUNTING: Basic Instinct by Anthony Dyer The true hunter is not someone who does it glibly, unthinkingly. He understands that it is a covenant, a bargain between the civilized and the free.
ICONS: Some Real Good Men by Harold Evans The cowboy may be an American archetype, but there are still lessons to be learned from him.
LIFESTYLE: In the Tube by Corky Carroll Surfing is a literal and metaphorical balancing act, and in that effort dwells happiness.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Things I Want My Lover/Partner/Wife to Know by Greg Bestick
PART SIX: True North by Thomas Moore
AUTHENTIC SUCCESS: Hero to His Children by Shmuley Boteach The more success the author of Kosher Sex experienced, the more disconnected he became from his children. It took a troubled comment from one of his daughters to make him reassess his priorities.
SOULMATES: First Love, Again by Terrence Deacon Men never forget their first loves, and in the case of Terry Deacon, the torch burns brighter the second time around.
REDEMPTION: The Love of a Good Woman by John Tierney A homeless man is transformed by the power of love.
DEATH: Beyond the Chrysalis by Adin Steinsaltz The irreversibility of death frightens us, but can seem frivolous when compared with the possibilities of paradise.
JOY: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love by Thomas Moore Sex and the spirit are linked, says the author of Care of the Soul; celebrating that connection can enhance our lives.
THOUGHTS FOR THE ROAD: Ten Things Every Man Should Keep in Mind at All Times by Jake Morrissey