Synopses & Reviews
Asking for help is a universally dreaded prospect. We’re afraid of seeming weak. We think it’s an admission of failure. We simply don’t know how. So, instead, we continue to struggle on alone with day-to-day burdens and serious crises. We make things harder on ourselves by not reaching out. Mayday! Asking for Help in Times of Need shows how to make the intimidating but potentially rewarding process of asking for help far less daunting. Using an inviting conversational style sprinkled with humor and personal stories, Klaver first delves deeply into exactly why we don’t ask for help — the social and psychological factors that keep us in isolation. She then lays out a straightforward process for cultivating a mindset that will accept and invite help, and shows how to figure out what to ask for, who to ask, how to ask, and when and where to ask. Besides making our lives easier, Klaver shows that asking others for help can be an emotionally and spiritually enriching experience. Mayday! is the first book to fully integrate the body, mind, and emotions in a truly effective step-by-step approach to getting the help we need and deserve.
"First time author Klaver begins this self-help with a search for archetypes that sets up her refreshing, Jungian take on the emotional potholes that make asking for help a difficult-at times impossible-task. Thoughtful exercises and vignettes guide readers toward an understanding of help as an opportunity 'not only to get my needs met but... to be touched by another soul.' As such, she looks at what makes asking for help 'a universally dreaded endeavor' ('We were never taught how,' 'We have few models,' 'We love our independence') and then goes a step further to address the roots of these excuses: fear of surrender, shame and separation. The bulk of the work looks to build confidence in readers by examining each step of the asking process: recognizing the need, getting motivated, formulating the question and going easy on yourself, to name a few. Klaver encourages readers to separate and examine various emotional states, and call on 'applied virtues' like self-compassion and faith to transform body, mind and behavior. With lyric, accessible prose, Klaver fleshes out a seemingly narrow topic to provide an unusual angle on human interaction and emotion." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
You don't have to do it alone. In this engaging guide to understanding and conquering the personal and professional fears that keep us from turning to others in times of need, coach Nora Klaver offers readers compelling insights on why we don't ask for help, why we should, and how to do it.
Klaver shows how to make the intimidating but potentially rewarding process of asking for help far less daunting. This book fully integrates the body, mind, and emotions in a truly effective step-by-step approach to getting the help many need and deserve.