Synopses & Reviews
Written by a pediatrician and based in proven-effective mindfulness techniques, this book will help you and your child with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) keep calm, flexible, and in control.
If you are a parent of a child with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you probably face many unique daily challenges. Kids with ADHD are often inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsive, since ADHD affects all of self-management and self-regulation. As a result, you might become chronically frustrated or stressed out, which makes caring for ADHD that much harder. In this book, a developmental pediatrician presents a proven-effective program for helping both you and your child with ADHD stay cool and collected while remaining flexible, resilient, and mindful.
Bertin addresses the various symptoms of ADHD using non-technical language and a user-friendly format. In addition, he offers guidelines to help you assess your child's strengths and weaknesses, create plans for building skills and managing specific challenges, lower stress levels for both yourself and your child, communicate effectively, and cultivate balance and harmony at home and at school.
If you are a parent, caregiver, or mental health professional, this book provides a valuable guide.
"You are the parent. If you can change and do what this wonderful book invites you to change and do, then you can give the most precious gift to your childtransforming your child's problem" into a strength. Please accept the gift of this bookfor your child's sake."
Alvin R. Mahrer, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada, and author of The Complete Guide to Experiential Psychotherapy
"Honos-Webb grabbed my scattered attention quickly and held it with this enlightening book, without resorting to drugs. I nervously jumped to sections such as ‘The Medical Model of Disease' and ‘Why Medications May Not Be the Answer' and found them balanced and enlightening. Then I calmed down, read the rest, and learned a lot. You will too . . . if you can pay attention."
—Thomas Greening, professor of psychology at Saybrook Graduate School and editor of the Journal of Humanistic Psychology
"Honos-Webb's book is a healing gift to children with ADHD and their parents, teachers, psychologists, and doctors. Taken to heart, her message could transform the lives of these children, their families, and even the educational system. The Gift of ADHD is a must-read for anyone whose life is touched by the unique children who are given this diagnosis. Even adults with this diagnosis should read this book to find a radically new way of understanding themselves and celebrating their own gifts."
Lane Arye, PhD, author of Unintentional Music: Releasing Your Deepest Creativity and internationally known process-oriented therapist and teacher
This reader-friendly book is a masterful guide for parents. With great gentleness and humility, Mindful Discipline
weaves together the rigor of science, the wisdom of reflection, and decades of clinical experience, offering parents one of the most exceptional road maps on how to raise happy, resilient, and emotionally healthy children.”
Andrew Weil, MD, author of Spontaneous Happiness and Eight Weeks to Optimum Health
If you raise your children with respect for who they are, nourishing compassion, clarity, and wise limits, they will bloom and blossom. The tools for mindfully doing so are here in these pages.”
Jack Kornfield, PhD, author of A Path with Heart
Im deeply impressed and inspired by what [Shapiro and White] are offering the world! It fills such an essential niche, and moves forward our understanding of how to in an important way.”
Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge
This intelligent, tender, and beautifully written book helps parents tap into their inner wisdom and create the optimal emotional environment for their child's growth and development. Loaded with powerful exercises grounded in clinical expertise and scientific theory, this book will help all of us navigate the path of parenting with greater ease, clarity, and grace.”
Kristin Neff, PhD, associate professor of human development and culture at the University of Texas at Austin and author of Self-Compassion
Coming from an expert on mindfulness and a leading pediatrician, this deeply wise book shows parents how to nourish both self-discipline and self-worth inside the children they love. Grounded in research, full of personal examples, and loaded with down-to-earth suggestions, this book is a gem.”
Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Hardwiring Happiness
Shauna Shapiro and Chris White have created a wonderful integration of the power of mindful awareness and the insights from studies of child development and the brain to lovingly guide us to a more rewarding and effective way of being as parents. The science of attachment reveals that the most robust predictor of our childs development is how we have come to make sense of our lives from the inside out. This book beautifully illuminates how the previously independent fields of attachment and of mindfulness actually share common groundthat knowing yourself is the best gift you can give to your children. An effective way of achieving this parental presence is through mindfulness, and the stories, ideas, and exercises of Mindful Discipline
offer a fabulous guide to creating the deep and receptive internal knowing that will empower your children to become resilient, reflective, and compassionate beings themselves. What better gift can you offer of yourself to your child, and the world?”
Daniel J. Siegel, MD, clinical professor at the University of California, Los Angeles, school of medicine; author of Brainstorm and The Mindful Brain; and coauthor of No-Drama Discipline, Parenting from the Inside Out, and The Whole-Brain Child
should be read by every parent. This book contains the operating instructions for family life that none of us received in school. Twenty-five years ago mindfulness saved my life. Now it informs all of my actions, including the way I am with my children.”
Noah Levine, author of Dharma Punx and Refuge Recovery
This finely and sensitively written book points to the fragility and resilience of a childs soul and demonstrates so clearly how in need each child is of an equally fragile and resilient adults guidance. An adult, however, having been on the Earth much longer, has been able to add experience to the fragility and resilience and thus becomes the author of the childs life until he or she is experienced enough to become the author himself or herself. This beautiful book is a wonderful guide to parents who wish to lovingly, mindfully, and clearly accompany their children at the beginning of their life journey.”
Meinir Davies, management and teaching team coordinator at the New Village School, Sausalito, CA
is the perfect guide for conscious parents and teachers. Grounded in solid neuroscience, it shows how to be loving and remain centered, while teaching children to develop their own internal wisdom and good hearts. This book is a gift!”
James Baraz, cofounder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center and coauthor of Awakening Joy: 10 Steps to Happiness
is an intelligent and creative approach to the omnipresent challenge of parenting: how to be kind and loving yet firm and in control. I was struck by the multiple levels of authority the authors drew upon: deep scholarship, personal struggles with parenting, and hard-earned meditative insight.”
Fred Luskin, PhD, director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project and author of Forgive for Good
“In Mindful Parenting for ADHD
, Mark Bertin provides an essential guide for parents and clinicians. Parents of children with ADHD and clinicians will benefit from Bertin’s relatable writing style, examples, research, and easy-to-accomplish suggestions and recommendations. Most importantly, Bertin gives families and clinicians hope.”
—Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD, NCC, LMHC, psychotherapist and author of five books on ADHD, including 10 Simple Solutions to Adult ADD (www.stephaniesarkis.com)
“Mindful Parenting for ADHD
represents a rare blend: a concise and accurate guide to what ADHD is (and is not), an evidence-based resource for families on behavior management and skill enhancement tools for their children, and an introduction to the kinds of mindful practices (including but not limited to meditation) that both calm and focus parents and model thoughtful strategies for their offspring. Difficult and important issues—the adolescent years, working with schools, and decisions about medication—are addressed head on. Sensitive, easy to read, and profound, this book will resonate with families everywhere who hope for both action and reflection in raising their challenging children.”
—Stephen Hinshaw, PhD, professor of psychology at University of California, Berkeley, professor of psychiatry at University of California, San Francisco, and author of The ADHD Explosion: Myths, Medication, Money, and Today’s Push for Performance
“This innovative book combines the best of what is known about ADHD, its deficits in executive functioning, and the types of science-based management strategies they require, as well as possible medications to combine with them, along with the latest practices for incorporating mindfulness into everyday life situations, such as parenting. Parents of children with ADHD struggle not only with managing their children but also with far higher levels of parenting stress, depression, anxiety, and marital strife than do typical parents. This combination of mindfulness practices with more traditional behavioral and medical treatments for ADHD is likely to prove exceptionally useful for parents for both stress reduction and improved parent-child relationships.”
—Russell A. Barkley, PhD, clinical professor of psychiatry and pediatrics, Medical University of South Carolina
“A practical, hands-on set of tools for parenting kids diagnosed with ADHD, Mark Bertin’s book will be a great support to many. Mark provides clear and simple ways to bring mindfulness practice to bear on navigating the ups and downs of family life. He offers the valuable perspective that, while life cannot, by nature, be perfect, it is possible to do the work of raising your child to live well and happily.”
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness
“At last, a pediatrician who understands ADHD and
can communicate what parents need to manage it effectively. This workbook is like the world’s best office visit—only this time, you can take it home with you and use it when you need it!”
—Elaine Taylor-Klaus, CPCC, PCC, parenting coach, parent educator, and cofounder of ImpactADHD.com
“Mark Bertin offers a compassionate guide for parents to navigate the challenging journey of raising a child or teen with ADHD. He reminds them to start by taking care of themselves with mindfulness and compassion, which then allows them to share their full wisdom and loving presence for the benefit of their children. I will be wholeheartedly recommending this book to all of the families in my practice who are living with ADHD, so that they can do more than ‘just live with it,’ but thrive!”
—Dzung X. Vo, MD, pediatrician and adolescent medicine specialist, author of The Mindful Teen
“Mindful Parenting for ADHD
is a gift to lost and overwhelmed parents. Bertin offers a clear, compassionate, comprehensive, and practical guide to parents struggling to find the calm within the seeming chaos of life with a child with ADHD, along with succinct tools for managing it.”
—Christopher Willard, PsyD, author of Child’s Mind and Growing Up Mindful, Cambridge Health Alliance/Harvard Medical School
“This book is the ultimate gold mine of understanding your child with ADHD in a new and insightful way. Bertin explains how practicing mindfulness changes the way you as a parent see your child through the lens of truly understanding the ADHD experience. You will learn to act instead of react, understand instead of judge, and stay calm instead of banging your head against the wall. Best of all, Bertin gives you specific, easy-to-follow tools for dealing with challenging behaviors. It all comes down to being mindful, and understanding the ADHD brain and the behaviors that are borne from that. A fabulous book for parents looking for a better way to manage their challenging children, as well as for professionals working with these children. I’ll be recommending this one to my clients!”
—Terry Matlen, ACSW, director of www.ADDconsults.com, and author of The Queen of Distraction and Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD
“As the parent of a child with ADHD, and as a holistic physician and mindfulness coach who supports many children and families living with ADHD, I find this book an invaluable resource. Every chapter offers simple, doable, and transformative mindfulness practices; practical, achievable action items; grounded perspective; a long-term view; and most importantly, hope and compassion for children and parents living with ADHD.”
—Amy Saltzman, MD, director of the Association for Mindfulness in Education and author of A Still Quiet Place
“Having ADHD can not only be difficult for the child who suffers the consequences of his or her behaviors, but can also place great stress on the family. Parents don’t understand why their child acts the way he does, and because they are unsure, they often react in a way that may not always be helpful. That’s where Mark Bertin’s new book Mindful Parenting for ADHD
comes in! Within its pages, parents will grow to better understand ADHD and find the tools necessary to respond to their child’s behaviors with compassion, as well as structure, using a focused, mindful approach. Mindful Parenting for ADHD
underscores the need for parents to take care of themselves in order to meet the challenges of parenting a child with ADHD with calm, kindness, and consistency. Written in a reassuring style and filled with easy-to-use worksheets that cover a myriad of topics from setting limits to improving communication or making the most of homework, I wish all parents of children with ADHD could receive the gifts offered in this wonderful book! They and their children would all be the better for it!”
—Patricia O. Quinn, MD, developmental pediatrician, Washington, DC, coauthor of Putting on the Brakes: Understanding and Taking Control of Your ADD or ADHD and Understanding Girls with ADHD,andauthor of Attention, Girls! A Guide to Learn All About Your AD/HD
In the second edition of The Gift of ADHD, Lara Honos-Webb offers strategies for shifting parents' understanding of their child's attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) to focus on the positive traits of this diagnosis. The book also provides step-by-step cognitive behavioral exercises for helping children function effectively and improving the parent-child relationship.
As a parent, you already know that your child has many gifts. What you may not know is that attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) related symptomsthe very qualities that lead him or her to act out and distract othersmay be among them.
This second edition of The Gift of ADHD includes compelling new research indicating that the impulses that lead your child to act exuberantly may correspond with unusual levels of creativity and a heightened capacity for insight into the feelings and emotions of others. Could it be that ADHD is not a hindrance, but an asset in our fast-paced digital age?
ADHD expert Lara Honos-Webb presents the evidence for this revolutionary concept and explains how you can help your child develop control over inattentive, hyperactive behavior and enhance the five gifts of ADHD: creativity, attunement to nature, interpersonal intuition, energetic enthusiasm, and emotional sensitivity. Filled with easy skill-building activities you and your child can do together, this book will help your child transform problematic symptoms into strengths, then build the self-esteem they need to let those gifts shine.
Parents of children with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) face many unique daily challenges. Kids with ADHD are often inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsiveand as a result, parents can become frustrated or stressed out. In Mindful Parenting for ADHD, a pediatrician presents a proven-effective program for helping both parents and kids with ADHD stay calm in the present moment. Parents will also learn how to let go of judgments, reasonably assess their child's strengths and weaknesses, lower stress levels for both themselves and their child, communicate effectively, and cultivate balance and harmony at home and at school.
Kids need both love and limits in order to thrive. In Mindful Discipline, a pediatrician and an internationally recognized mindfulness expert offer parents simple yet powerful tools for raising mindful, respectful, and responsible children. Grounded in mindfulness and the latest research in neuroscience, this book will teach readers how to foster their child's emotional intelligence and self-esteem while also encouraging genuine cooperation. With simple practices, such as honoring a child's strengths, setting limits, and setting a positive example, parents can teach their child the self-discipline and resilience they will need to thrive in life.
Raising happy, compassionate, and responsible children requires both love and limits. In Mindful Discipline, internationally recognized mindfulness expert Shauna Shapiro and pediatrician Chris White weave together ancient wisdom and modern science to provide new perspectives on parenting and discipline.
Grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience, this pioneering book redefines discipline and outlines the five essential elements necessary for children to thrive: unconditional love, space for children to be themselves, mentorship, healthy boundaries, and mis-takes that create learning and growth opportunities. In this book, you will also discover parenting practices such as setting limits with love, working with difficult emotions, and forgiveness and compassion meditations that place discipline within a context of mindfulness. This relationship-centered approach will restore your confidence as a parent and support your children in developing emotional intelligence, self-discipline, and resiliencequalities they need for living an authentic and meaningful life.
About the Author
Shauna Shapiro, PhD
, is a professor at Santa Clara University, a clinical psychologist, an internationally recognized expert in mindfulness, and a mother. With twenty years of meditation experience studying in Thailand and Nepal, as well as in the West, Shapiro brings an embodied sense of mindfulness to her scientific work. She has published over one hundred journal articles and chapters, and coauthored the critically acclaimed book, The Art and Science of Mindfulness
. Shapiro is the recipient of the American Council of Learned Societies teaching award, acknowledging her outstanding contributions to education, and has been invited to lecture for the King of Thailand, the Danish government, and the World Council for Psychotherapy in Beijing, China. Her work has been featured in Wired, USA Today, Oxygen, The Yoga Journal
, and the American Psychologist
. Shapiro lives in Mill Valley, California, with her eight-year-old son, Jackson.
Chris White, MD, is a board-certified pediatrician, parent educator, certified life coach, and father. He is the creator and director of Essential Parenting, an organization that supports the psycho-emotional development of children and their parents. His writing has been featured in Pathways to Family Wellness and the PBS series This Emotional Life blog. White lives with his two boys, Kai and Bodhi, and the love of his life, Kari, in the San Francisco Bay Area.
Foreword writer Christine Carter, PhD, is a happiness expert, sociologist, and the author of Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents. Carter has helped thousands of people find more joy in their lives through her books, online classes, coaching, and speaking engagements. She teaches happiness classes online throughout the year to a global audience on her website www.christinecarter.com.
Foreword writer Dean Ornish, MD, is the founder and president of the non-profit Preventive Medicine Research Institute and clinical professor of medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. Ornish received his MD from the Baylor College of Medicine, was a clinical fellow in medicine at Harvard Medical School, and completed an internship and residency in internal medicine at the Massachusetts General Hospital. He is the author of six books, all national bestsellers, including: Dr. Dean Ornish's Program for Reversing Heart Disease; Eat More, Weigh Less; Love and Survival; and his most recent book, The Spectrum.