Synopses & Reviews
From the author of the classic andlt;Iandgt;Momand#8217;s House, Dadand#8217;s Houseandlt;/Iandgt;, the essential guide for kids on how to stay strong and succeed in life when parents separate, divorce, or get married again.andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Isolina Ricciand#8217;s andlt;Iandgt;Momand#8217;s House, Dadand#8217;s Houseandlt;/Iandgt; has been the gold standard for inspiring and supporting divorcing and remarrying parents for more than twenty-five years. With her new book, Dr. Isa adapts her time-tested advice on maneuvering the emotional, logistical, and legal realities of separation, divorce, and stepfamilies to speak directly to children. Alongside practical ways to cope with big changes she offers older children and their families key resiliency tools that kids can use now and the rest of their lives. Kids and families are encouraged to believe in themselves, to take heart, and to plan for their lives ahead.andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt; andlt;Iandgt;Momand#8217;s House, Dadand#8217;s House for Kidsandlt;/Iandgt; is packed with practical tips, frank answers, easy-to-use lists, and#8220;train your brainand#8221; ideas, reproducible worksheets, and things to try when words just wonand#8217;t come out right. Kids will learn how to:andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt; and#183; Deal with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rulesandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Settle comfortably in one home or twoandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Stay out of the and#8220;miserable middleand#8221; when parents fightandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Manage stress, guilt, change, fear, and other feelingsandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Stay connected with parents, relatives, and the and#8220;rightand#8221; friendsandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Appreciate the gifts (and deal with the gripes) of their new version of familyandlt;BRandgt; and#183; Feel better FAST!andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt; Kids canand#8217;t get their parents back together, but they can help themselves get stronger and go on to succeed in life. This book shows them how.
Synopsis
From the author of the classic Mom's House, Dad's House, the essential guide for kids on how to stay strong and succeed in life when parents separate, divorce, or get married again.
Isolina Ricci's Mom's House, Dad's House has been the gold standard for inspiring and supporting divorcing and remarrying parents for more than twenty-five years. With her new book, Dr. Isa adapts her time-tested advice on maneuvering the emotional, logistical, and legal realities of separation, divorce, and stepfamilies to speak directly to children. Alongside practical ways to cope with big changes she offers older children and their families key resiliency tools that kids can use now and the rest of their lives. Kids and families are encouraged to believe in themselves, to take heart, and to plan for their lives ahead.
Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is packed with practical tips, frank answers, easy-to-use lists, "train your brain" ideas, reproducible worksheets, and things to try when words just won't come out right. Kids will learn how to:
- Deal with parents living apart, schedules, and dueling house rules
- Settle comfortably in one home or two
- Stay out of the "miserable middle" when parents fight
- Manage stress, guilt, change, fear, and other feelings
- Stay connected with parents, relatives, and the "right" friends
- Appreciate the gifts (and deal with the gripes) of their new version of family
- Feel better FAST
Kids can't get their parents back together, but they can help themselves get stronger and go on to succeed in life. This book shows them how.
About the Author
andlt;bandgt;Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.,andlt;/bandgt; whose breakthrough work resulted in andlt;Iandgt;Mom's House, Dad's House,andlt;/iandgt; is an internationally renowned family expert, lecturer, award-winning mediator, and licensed family therapist who divides her time between consulting for family courts and working directly with families. She is the Director of the New Family Center in northern California.
Table of Contents
Contents Meet Dr. Isa
A Message for Parents
Kids -- Read This Page First
Part I Separation and Divorce Territory
Chapter 1 Splitting and Dividing
What's True about Divorce
What's Not True
Your Feelings
Your Parents and Siblings
Whom Can You Talk To?
Are You an Only Child?
Understanding What Your Siblings Are Going Through
Questions and Answers about Separation and Divorce
The Miserable Middle
Chapter 2 Changes and More Changes
Great Ways to Stay Connected
One Home, Two Homes
Friends and School
Parents
The Family Team
Grandparents and Other Relatives
Your Parents' Legal Business
Chapter 3 New Ways
New Ways for Parents
You Can Become an Ace Solution Finder
Parents Going Out and Dating
A New Kind of Normal
Part II Stepfamily Territory
Chapter 4 Coming Together
Quiz: What Do You Know about Stepfamilies?
Your Family Feeling
When Parents Get Married Again
Moving in Together
Chapter 5 Learning to Live Together
Stepfamily Tasks
Ways to Get to Know Each Other Better
Negotiating New Rules
Trouble Among the Parents
Familiar Gripes of Kids in Stepfamilies
Solving a Family Problem
Chapter 6 Moving Forward
A New Baby
Feeling More Like a Family
Chapter 7 Stepparents and Stepsiblings
Stepparents
Stepsiblings
Part III Believe in Yourself
Chapter 8 Take Care of Your Body
How Do I Take Care of My Body?
Chapter 9 Protect Yourself
Some Really Big Problems
Secrets
Promises
How to Get Safe
Remember, You Are Not Your Parent
Chapter 10 Have Dreams and Goals
Power Daydreaming
Learn How to Bounce Back
Get Moving with Your Own Dreams
Chapter 11 What's True about Life
You Are an Original
Thinking Traps Are Gross
You Can Train Your Brain
You Can Make Smart Choices
You Can Repair Bad Choices
You Can Take Care with Your Feelings
You Can Have Someone to Look Up To
Chapter 12 Believe in Yourself
You Can Have Heart
Know You Can Do It!
Part IV Extras
Books
Web Resources
Sample Problem Solvers and Worksheets
More Problem Solvers and Worksheets
Worksheet: Checklist for Taking Stuff to Dad's or Mom's House
Worksheet: Six-Step Solution: David's Too-Long
Commute
Worksheet: Six-Step Solution
Worksheet: Gina's Music Camp: Solving the Puzzle
Worksheet: The Prize Puzzle Pieces
Thank You
Index