Synopses & Reviews
The relationship between a mother and daughter is often fraught-but never so much as during the preparations for a daughter's wedding. Who better to offer a fresh perspective on weddings than the mother of the bride? And who better to describe it -- the agony and the ecstasy -- than Ilene "Gingy" Beckerman, who's married off three daughters and remembers it all very clearly.
--The high cost of wedding cakes: "I could have had a lifetime supply of Entenmann's chocolate doughnuts!"
--Bridesmaid dresses: "What do five girls-one short, one tall, one buxom, one flat, one who gave birth a month ago-have in common? A bridesmaid's dress they hate."
--Mother-of-the-bride dresses: "I tried on green velvet. A Rodney Dangerfield line came to me: 'If that dress had pockets, you'd look like a pool table.' The dress had pockets."
--And, finally, the sight of her daughter walking down the aisle: "My daughter was Cinderella, Snow White, Grace Kelly, Audrey Hepburn, and Jacqueline Kennedy. But better."
Gingy looks at the bride-to-be and sees the teenager who wanted Bo Derek braids, the little girl she taught to dance to the tune of "Me and My Shadow," the beautiful baby, the miracle she gave birth to decades earlier. And now, en route to the aisle, their relationship is tested in ways Gingy never imagined.
Beckerman simply and brilliantly describes the highs and lows of life with an adult daughter. What emerges is a poignant and telling story.
In this illustrated memoir, the bestselling author of "Love, Loss, and What I Wore" affectionately explains why childbirth is less painful than planning a daughter's wedding. Full color.
From the author of LOVE, LOSS AND WHAT I WORE and WHAT WE DO FOR LOVE.
What do five girls--one short, one tall, one buxom, one flat, one who gave birth a month ago--have in common? A bridesmaid's dress they all hate.
When Ilene Beckerman told us the story of her clothes in Love, Loss, and What I Wore, she captivated women of all ages. Her story moved people to tears and made us laugh out loud, too. Ilene--"Gingy," as she's known--showed us ourselves.
Now Gingy looks at one of life's happiest (and most stressful) events: the planning of a daughter's wedding. Once again this Everywoman takes us lovingly, and hilariously, through another passage in a woman's life. Whether it's searching for a mother-of-the-bride dress that doesn't look like something Mrs. Khrushchev would have worn, or choosing hors d'oeuvres that won't give the guests indigestion, Gingy offers a fresh look at a subject that needs a fresh look. She describes a year of agony and ecstasy--and along the way shares with us a mother's love and expectations for her daughter.
“An account that is sweetly sentimental and brutally honest, touching and witty—in short, a true gem.” —Publishers Weekly
, starred review
“A work that adds great luster to an already golden event.” — The Memphis Commercial Appeal
“Her prose is spare, but rich with meaning and always very honest.” — The Cleveland Plain Dealer
“Pithy wit and cute drawings sketch the happy tears, bittersweet memories and flares of anxiety that a daughters wedding elicits.” — The Dallas Morning News
The relationship between a mother and daughter is often fraught— but never so much as during the preparations for that walk down the aisle. Ilene Beckerman has taken that walk with three daughters and tells us—with great wisdom and wit—why childbirth is less painful than planning a wedding.
About the Author
Ilene Beckerman was nearly sixty when she began her writing career. Her articles have appeared in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and Ladies' Home Journal. She has judged People's "Best and Worst Dressed" issue and has traveled the country, speaking to women's groups. "Sometimes," she says, "i feel like Grandma Moses--she didn't start until later in life either--but i try not to look like her."