Synopses & Reviews
Thanks to advances in science and medicine, our parents are living longer than ever before. But our health-care system doesn't perform as well when decline eventually sets in. We want to do our best as our loved ones face new complications—more diseases and disabilities—demanding further need for support and careful judgment, but the choices we have to make can seem overwhelming.
Family doctor and geriatrician Dennis McCullough recommends a new approach: Slow Medicine. Shaped by common sense and kindness, it advocates for careful anticipatory "attending" to an elder's changing needs rather than waiting for crises that force acute medical interventions—thereby improving the quality of elders' extended late lives without bankrupting their families financially or emotionally. This is not a plan for preparing for death; it is a plan for understanding, for caring, and for helping those you love live well during their final years.
“A valuable book, chilling and comforting in equal measure. A similar book directed at fast doctors, fast hospital administrators and fast insurers might be the next welcome stride backward down the path.” New York Times
“McCulloughs concept of ‘slow medicine is an example of that ethic of care in action…recommended for public libraries.” Library Journal
“Appreciation of...My Mother, Your Mother...will, I think, depend on where you are on lifes highway. If...your parents are still living, this geriatricians guide to stepping in as escort, caregiver and advocate for your parents final journey will probably be comforting in its compassion and detail.” St. Petersburg Times
“Full of advice on how to get involved in [your parents] care, and the kind of conversations you should have with their doctors. Its also a warning about the medical professions alarming tendency toward ‘poly-pharmacy.” Maclean's
“As valuable a resource as any Ive found.” Jane Gross, New York Times
Geriatrician Dennis McCullough has spent his life helping families to cope with aging, experiences he faced with his own mother. In this comforting and much needed book he recommends a new approach, Slow Medicine. Shaped by common sense and kindness, grounded in traditional medicine yet receptive to alternative therapies, Slow Medicine advocates for careful anticipatory "attending" to an elder's changing needs rather than waiting for crises that force medical interventions--an approach that improves the quality of elders' extended late lives without bankrupting their families financially or emotionally.
Although taking care of those who have always cared for us is not an easy reversal, "My Mother, Your Mother" will help your family to prepare for this complex journey. This is not a plan for getting ready to die; it is a plan for understanding, for caring, and for helping a family live better during an elder's final years.
About the Author
Dennis McCullough, M.D., has been a family physician and geriatrician for thirty years. He is the co-author of The Little Black Book of Geriatrics, and he lives with his wife, the poet Pamela Harrison, in Norwich, Vermont.