Synopses & Reviews
Lynn Toler was, if anything, an achiever. At thirty-three, after Harvard, Penn Law School, and a decade as a successful lawyer, she was elected to a municipal judgeship-a black woman in a mostly white community, in a district where the opposing party held a 5:1 majority. Once on the bench, responsible for adjudicating the countless minor squabbles and foibles to be found among her town's residents, she realized that the teachings of one person in particular helped her when dealing with those offenders. That person was her mother, a woman who possessed remarkable grace, strength, and simple insight.
Toni Toler's "rules"for life were forged in growing up the daughter of a poor teen mother, and through a long marriage to a husband who suffered mental illness and alcoholism. The story of how she transcended these circumstances, and raised Lynn and her equally successful sister, provide the grounding for Lynn's story of her life, her family, and her career. The worldview that shaped these rules is based on learning how to conquer anger and become immune to insult. Lynn shows how the mindset of "a black woman who knew how to make things work"taught her the power of knowing how to manage one's emotional business-lessons that this book offers in wrenching stories written in spare and graceful prose. My Mother's Rulesis an unforgettable memoir that will captivate readers with its illustrations of how to rise above the most difficult circumstances and find peace and success in life.
"Easy-reading prose and a no-nonsense approach will carry readers through this collection of anecdotes and rules for healthier living from first time author and Divorce Court star/judge Toler. As the title implies, Toler draws heavily on lessons learned from her mother, some of which, such as the revelation that Toler's mother 'lies, both often and well, if she feels the truth will get in someone's way,' will surprise. And while the stories of Toler's upbringing have their merit, the book's strength lies in the sober, no-nonsense advice: 'The Peanut Gallery Rule' asks whether 'you would still be doing what you're doing if other folks could see,' while Toler's suggestion to 'Globalize Your Pain Quotient' makes most quotidian frustrations seem petty. The rules, many of which are accompanied by their own mini-vignette, are explained at the end of each thematic chapter and are all re-listed at the end of the book for easy browsing. Readers looking for real-world direction could do much worse." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
"Autobiography of Judge Lynn Toler describing her sometimes difficult upbringing and the life-lessons she learned from her mother"--Provided by publisher.
Toler shows how the mindset of her mother, "a black woman who knew how to make things work," taught her the power of knowing how to manage one's emotional business--lessons that this book offers in wrenching stories written in spare and graceful prose.
In this unique, profoundly inspirational memoir, Divorce Court star Judge Lynn Toler shares her mothers wisdom for learning to conquer anger and become immune to insult. Toler credits her mothers rules” for life a life that saw her grow up the daughter of a poor teen mother and endure a husband who suffered mental illness and alcoholism with providing the grounding for her own success and happiness. Toler shows how the mindset of a black woman who knew how to make things work” taught her the power of knowing how to manage ones emotional businesslessons that this book offers in wrenching stories written in spare and graceful prose. My Mothers Rules is an unforgettable book that will captivate readers with its illustrations of how to rise above the most difficult circumstances and find peace and success in life.
About the Author
Lynn Toler received her BA from Harvard and her JD from the University of Pennsylvania before spending ten years as a practicing attorney, and then seven years as administrative judge of Cleveland Heights Municipal Court. In 2001, she hosted the TV show Power of Attorney, and beginning September 2006, she is the new star of the syndicated hit Divorce Court.