Synopses & Reviews
Bobby Kipper and Bud Ramey, two best selling authors on youth violence in America, offer you and your children the clear information and tools needed to help navigate the dangerous epidemic of bullying in America.
If your children havent already been affected by bullying, it is very likely on the way.
Published by the National Center for the Prevention of Community Violence, led by career police officer Bobby Kipper, this concise guide is designed to answer the plea heard all over America, “What should I do?”
What should I do when my childs reputation is being destroyed online? What do I do if my child becomes the bully? What do I do when physical confrontation is inevitable? Should I confront the parents of a bully?
Parents and Guardians
Teachers and Coaches
Youth Leaders and Child Advocates
Our children are in danger. Prepare for the eventual encounter with Today's Bully. Make informed and thoughtful decisions on how to handle these encounters.
Ultimately, No BULLIES and its predecessor No COLORS — 100 Ways to Stop Gangs from Taking Over Our Communities, together address “best practices” for making a difference in the civility crisis in our nation that is impacting an entire generation.
Weve all seen bullies in action. Many of us have been the victims. Some of us have been the perpetrator. Thanks to all the attention being focused on bullies and the issues that surround them, most of us are getting the information we need. But if were raising children in this culture of bullying or if were part of the village that helps, we also need some effective and user-friendly tools to go up against the bully. We need some very specific and action-oriented strategies to help every child feel welcomed and valued. And thats the reason why Bud Ramey and Bobby Kipper wrote No BULLIES
Children are bullying each other in frighteningly effective 21st century ways. These are not your fathers bullies. Armed with social media and supported by a culture that seems to glorify bullying throughout a wide spectrum of activities, todays kids experience bullying behavior in every direction they turn.
“Many parents are numb to bullying because they experience it every day at work”
Many parents are either numb to bullying or far less sensitive than they should be because they may experience it every day at work. The bullies of their own childhood have grown up and become their co-workers and supervisors.
Too often it seems that the least compassionate and most domineering get ahead.
Some would say its always been that way, that the media has simply expanded and amplified the nastiness.
Our history lends some truth to that assertion through political campaigns that introduced us to contentious behavior and outright ugly moments shortly after America declared its independence. The earliest days of the republic also saw intimidation and domineering behavior incorporated into military training and discipline.
About the Author
Newport News, VA and Coastal North Carolina
Table of Contents
A Global Crisis-25 Countries
It's Not If, It's When Your Child Will Be Bullied. And Here's What Your Child Shouldn't Do
“Just Tell Me What to Do…”
The Culture of Bullying — What Is It Really About and Why Are So Many Young People Embracing It?
How Bullying Got Out of Control
Lets Dispel the Myths About Bullying
Understand All Five Traditional Forms of Bullying
At What Age Does Bullying Become a Danger to Kids?
Between Meanness and Bullying
What Bullying and Gangs Have in Common
“Just Tell Me What to Do…”
Preparing Our Children For Bullying Encounters
Leave Nothing Unsaid with Your Child: Have Regular “Bully Talks”
Making the Distinction Between Self-Esteem and Selfish Esteem
The Potential Impact of Bullying
Ten Suggestions to Help Your Child Navigate Around the Bullies
The Bully. The Victim. The Bystander. Why Bystanders Have the Power
Rehearse for the Show: Use Role Play to Practice Reactions to Bullying
Kids May Not Love Every Classmate, but They Understand Politeness
Differences and Diversity Are Wonderful, but Avoid Social Isolation
Personality Will Impact How Your Child Responds to a Bullying Situation
Brothers and Sisters Will Have Conflict, Constantly; Minimize the Chaos By Not Buying Into the Provoking Behaviors
Carefully Observe Your Childs Friends
Be Skeptical of Teasing
Watch for Warning Signs of Today's Bully
Is Your Child Becoming a Bully? Be Alert to These Indicators
Your Reaction To Bullying
Important Dos and Donts
It Is a Crime to Assault Another Person. It Is Also a Civil Case.
The Four Things You Should Never Do
Kids Can Be Slow to Reveal Being Bullied: Signs to Watch for
The Five Kinds of Bullies Today
Be Alert for Signs of Self-Harm Risk in a Bullied Child
Social Media Threats
New Digital Dangers That May Be Invisible to Parents
You Are Paying the Bill: Control Your Childs Social Media
When Cyberbullying Becomes a Crime
The Bullying Child
Physical Bullying Is a Boys World
Girl Bullies Use Different Weapons
If Your Child Becomes a Bully, New Ground Rules Are Essential
The Bullied Child
Confronting the Parents
Teach Your Child to Stand Firm
Twelve Things to Consider When Your Child Has Been Bullied
Bullying of Any Kind Can Result in Lifelong Emotional Damage and Why Professional Counseling Should Be Considered
Do Children Grow Out of Bullying?
Get Involved and Monitor Your Childs School Environment
Understand What Your School Should Be Doing When Bullying Occurs
Adult Bully Behavior Needs to Be Challenged
Four Special Promises By You and Your Child
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