Synopses & Reviews
“Detachment” has been the standard message of most addiction literature for the last twenty years. The conventional wisdom offered to an addicts loved ones has been to let the addict “hit bottom” before intervening. Now intervention specialist Debra Jay challenges this belief and offers a bold new approach to treating addiction that provides a practical and spiritual lifeline to families struggling with alcohol or drug abuse.
In No More Letting Go, Jay argues that the traditional advice of “letting go” too often destroys both the addict and the family physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Jay contends that addiction is everybodys business-not just the addicts-and addiction doesnt have the right to trump the welfare of a family.
In short, highly accessible chapters written with warmth, understanding, and compassion, Jay weaves together philosophical and religious thought; new science on the brain function of an addict; the physical and psychological impact of addiction on family members; and poignant, real-life family stories.
No More Letting Go is a powerful, informative guide that provides comfort, hope, and practical advice to anyone affected by a family members addiction.
"Addiction counselors have typically assumed several things: recovery can occur only when the addict decides he or she needs help; this happens only when the addict hits 'rock bottom'; until then, the addict's loved ones should detach emotionally. But Jay, an intervention specialist and author of Love First, believes that untreated addiction is unacceptable because it wrecks families and destroys lives. She outlines a plan to help families get assistance for their addicted loved one without waiting for 'rock bottom.' Intriguingly, Jay also casts the battle against addiction as a kind of spiritual war: she redefines detachment as 'a spiritual quality that makes action possible,' and describes such action as an act of faith. A fascinating section entitled 'What We Know Now,' details current genetic and neuroscientific research into people's varying susceptibilities to addiction. (May) " Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
An intervention specialist offers a bold new approach to treating addiction that provides a practical and spiritual lifeline to families struggling with alcohol or drug abuse.
About the Author
DEBRA JAY is the co-author of the Hazelden Guidebooks, Love First: A New Approach to Intervention, and Aging and Addiction. A graduate of the Hazelden Addiction Professional Training Program, she currently provides private intervention consultation to families throughout the United States and Canada. Debra appears regularly on Oprah, has been featured in Prevention Magazine and More Magazine, and is a national speaker and workshop leader. She resides in Grosse Pointe, Michigan, with her husband, Jeff Jay, where she writes a regular advice column for The Grosse Pointe News.