Synopses & Reviews
One of the worldand#8217;s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of marital infidelityand#8212;from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Youand#8217;re right to be cautious when you hear these words: and#8220;Iand#8217;m telling you, weand#8217;re just friends.and#8221;andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt; Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for and#8220;friendshipsand#8221; that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
Peggy Vaughan Host of DearPeggy.com and author of The Monogamy Myth This is the most comprehensive book on affairs that I have ever read and the only one that completely reflects the reality of affairs. No matter how many other books you have read on this subject, read this one. It is absolutely wonderful!
John M. Gottman, Ph.D. Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure In this long-awaited, breakthrough book, Dr. Glass has provided practical advice with a scientific basis and profoundly sensitive clinical experience about the highly destructive problem of infidelity. She alerts us to the new crisis of infidelity and shows us how to safeguard our most precious relationships from this danger.
Pat Love, Ed.D. Author of The Truth about Love and Hot Monogamy I love this book and loaned it to a friend whose husband was "not just friends" with a coworker. They believe it prevented a serious breach from forming in their marriage. A must-read for anyone who ever hopes to be happy in a long-term relationship.
Frank Pittman, M.D. Author of Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy I treasure Dr. Shirley Glass, and I treasure this book. No one understands affairs better than she does. She offers her traumatized readers compassion, wisdom, and unshakeable common sense.
Ira Glass Host of National Public Radio's This American Life It's a relief my mom wrote a great book so I can be totally honest on the jacket cover. NOT "Just Friends" offers one surprising, radical insight after another, including: Infidelity doesn't start the first time your partner sleeps with someone else; it begins when your partner becomes closer to someone else than to you.
Michele Weiner-Davis author of andlt;Iandgt;The Sex-Starved Marriageandlt;/Iandgt; So illuminating, instructive, down-to-earth, and inspiring that it truly transforms lives. Since no marriage -- including yours -- is immune to infidelity, this book is a godsend.
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. author of andlt;Iandgt;Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couplesandlt;/Iandgt; andlt;Iandgt;NOT ' Just Friends'andlt;/Iandgt; puts a new face on infidelity. The author, using clinical experience and current research, broadens its definition, causes, and means of resolution. I recommend it for anyone considering an affair, in an affair, or recovering from an affair.
Pat Love, Ed.D. author of andlt;Iandgt;The Truth About Loveandlt;/Iandgt; and andlt;Iandgt;Hot Monogamyandlt;/Iandgt; A must-read for anyone whoever hopes to be happy in long-term relationship.
The controversial book that caused a media storm on three continents with its straight-talking "perceptive, blunt, and accessibly written" (Booksense.com) revelations about the new crisis of infidelity.andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt;According to Dr. Shirley Glass, "the godmother of infidelity" ( andlt;Iandgt;The New York Timesandlt;/Iandgt; ), people today are cheating on their spouses more than ever before--especially in the workplace. Dispelling common myths with compelling new research and case studies, andlt;Iandgt;NOT "Just Friends"andlt;/Iandgt; is a groundbreaking chronicle of what occurs before, during, and after an affair: the danger signs, the vulnerabilities of even good marriages, and the step-by-step road to healing and protecting monogamy in the aftermath.
About the Author
andlt;Bandgt;Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D.,andlt;/Bandgt; one of the world's leading experts on infidelity, draws on more than two decades of original research and hundreds of clinical cases to provide a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity -- from suspicion and revelation to healing. In addition to offering concrete advice about how to tell, what to tell, and when to tell, Dr. Glass presents eye-opening quizzes that will help you ensure safe friendships and secure marriages by exploring the vulnerabilities in your relationship and any outside influences that may put it at risk. With her profound, practical guidance, you can prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.
Table of Contents
I'm telling you, we're just friends -- Crossing into a double life -- Reaching the moment of revelation -- In the wake of discovery -- Should you pick up the pieces or throw in the towel? -- How to cope with obsessing and flashbacks -- Repairing the couple and building goodwill -- Story of the affair -- Story of your marriage -- Your individual stories -- Story of outside influences -- Story of the affair partner -- Healing together -- Forgiving and moving forward -- Healing alone -- Afterword: mini-guide to safe friendships and a secure marriage.