Synopses & Reviews
One of the worldand#8217;s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of marital infidelityand#8212;from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Youand#8217;re right to be cautious when you hear these words: and#8220;Iand#8217;m telling you, weand#8217;re just friends.and#8221;andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt; Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for and#8220;friendshipsand#8221; that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.
The controversial book that caused a media storm on three continents with its straight-talking "perceptive, blunt, and accessibly written" (Booksense.com) revelations about the new crisis of infidelity.andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt; andlt;BRandgt;According to Dr. Shirley Glass, "the godmother of infidelity" ( andlt;Iandgt;The New York Timesandlt;/Iandgt; ), people today are cheating on their spouses more than ever before--especially in the workplace. Dispelling common myths with compelling new research and case studies, andlt;Iandgt;NOT "Just Friends"andlt;/Iandgt; is a groundbreaking chronicle of what occurs before, during, and after an affair: the danger signs, the vulnerabilities of even good marriages, and the step-by-step road to healing and protecting monogamy in the aftermath.
About the Author
andlt;Bandgt;Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D.,andlt;/Bandgt; one of the world's leading experts on infidelity, draws on more than two decades of original research and hundreds of clinical cases to provide a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity -- from suspicion and revelation to healing. In addition to offering concrete advice about how to tell, what to tell, and when to tell, Dr. Glass presents eye-opening quizzes that will help you ensure safe friendships and secure marriages by exploring the vulnerabilities in your relationship and any outside influences that may put it at risk. With her profound, practical guidance, you can prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.
Table of Contents
I'm telling you, we're just friends -- Crossing into a double life -- Reaching the moment of revelation -- In the wake of discovery -- Should you pick up the pieces or throw in the towel? -- How to cope with obsessing and flashbacks -- Repairing the couple and building goodwill -- Story of the affair -- Story of your marriage -- Your individual stories -- Story of outside influences -- Story of the affair partner -- Healing together -- Forgiving and moving forward -- Healing alone -- Afterword: mini-guide to safe friendships and a secure marriage.