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More American women are childless than ever beforenearly half those of childbearing age dont have children. While our society often assumes these women are childfree by choice,” thats not always true. In reality, many of them expected to marry and have children, but it simply hasnt happened. Wrongly judged as picky or career-obsessed, they make up the Otherhood,” a growing demographic that has gone without definition or visibility until now.
In Otherhood, author Melanie Notkin reveals her own story as well as the honest, poignant, humorous, and occasionally heartbreaking stories of women in her generationwomen who expected love, marriage, and parenthood, but instead found themselves facing a different reality. She addresses the reasons for this shift, the social and emotional impact it has on our collective culture, and how the new normal” will affect our society in the decades to come.
Notkin aims to reassure women that they are not alone and encourages them to find happiness and fulfillment no matter what the future holds. A groundbreaking exploration of an essential contemporary issue, Otherhood inspires thought-provoking conversation and gets at the heart of our cultural assumptions about single women and childlessness.
Author Notkin, whose writing appears in the Huffington Post and TheNew York Times, is best known for her book Savvy Auntie. Here, she goes against the stereotype that childless women choose career overfamily, taking a hard look at the reality that many women desire a family but have not met the right man with whom to have children, anddo not want to raise children alone. The book is part anecdotal storytelling, part reportage, and part manifesto, and draws on the experiences of real women as well as the knowledge of experts.Annotation ©2014 Ringgold, Inc., Portland, OR (protoview.com)
"Notkin (Savvy Auntie) coined the term 'otherhood' to describe 'our misunderstood group of women doing our best to live full and meaningful lives despite the frustrations of some of our most cherished longings': love, marriage, and children. She notes that 'the rise of childless women may be one of the most overlooked and underappreciated social issues of our time.' As a high-powered, attractive New Yorker who, along with many female friends, achieved success through talent, hard work, and perseverance, she sets out to answer how she and girlfriends in their mid-30s and older are, despite efforts and expectations, still single and why they are 'scrutinized so unsympathetically, harassed for sticking by our convictions and invalidated as just plain less than everyone else.' Part sociological study, part memoir, the book explores issues including men's reluctance to plan a date, commit, or marry women their own age; egg-freezing trends; the joys and agonies of relationships with others' children; modern matchmakers; and Notkin's own resolution as she enters 'the other side of fertility.' Heartfelt and frank, the book may be a comfort to other unintentionally single, childless women and a disturbing revelation to their friends, families, and colleagues, although the affluent Manhattan-centricity of the author's cohort may alienate less-privileged readers. (Mar.)" Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
The rising percentage of childless women is one of the most overlooked and underappreciated social issues of our time. Never before have more women lived longer before having their first child or remained childless toward the end of their fertility. Nearly half of North American women of childbearing age are childlessa dramatic rise from 35 percent in 1976yet childless women are still perceived as the exception, not the norm.
In Otherhood, Melanie Notkin explores this modern phenomenon to understand the reasons for this shift, the social and emotional impact of childlessness, and how the new normal” will impact social structures in the decades to come. By turns anecdotal storytelling, inspiration, reportage, and manifesto, Otherhood gets at the heart of our social consciousness around childlessness to trigger thought-provoking conversation. Notkin's intimate take on the trend affecting so many modern women is a groundbreaking exploration of this essential social issue.
About the Author
is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, spokesperson, marketer, and the leading voice of the nearly 50 percent of American women who are childless. Notkin is the founder and creator of the popular Savvy Auntie® lifestyle branda celebration of modern, cosmopolitan aunthood. Notkins book on the subject, Savvy Auntie: The Ultimate Guide for Cool Aunts, Great-Aunts, Godmothers, and All Women Who Love Kids
, was a Wall Street Journal
Notkins writing has appeared in The New York Times and she is a contributor to the Huffington Post and PsychologyToday.com. She lives in New York City.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Modern Women
Chapter 2: Love is Rich
Chapter 3: How to Get Married
Chapter 4: The Dating Bermuda Triangle
Chapter 5: Where Are the Suitable Men?
Chapter 6: From Boys to Men
Chapter 7: Old-Fashioned Dating
Chapter 8: Married Men of Manhattan
Chapter 9: Single, Again
Chapter 10: The Princes and the Poseurs
Chapter 11: Rachel Meets Harrison Black
Chapter 12: Sex in the Otherhood
Chapter 13: Was It Choice or Chance?
Chapter 14: What Choice Do We Have?
Chapter 15: A Date with Destiny
Chapter 16: My Last Chance
Chapter 17: The Vows We Make
Chapter 18: Women and Careers
Chapter 19: The Savvy Aunties
Chapter 20: Izzy Was Robbed
Chapter 21: My Lonely Grief
Chapter 22: Our Nest Eggs
Chapter 23: Mirabelle Is Having a Moment
Chapter 24: Basket Full of Mixed Emotions
Chapter 25: The Next Girls
Chapter 26: We Have a Lot to Celebrate