Synopses & Reviews
Some of us are just naturals when it comes to parenting. But the rest of us wish that parenting came with operating instructions.
Now it does. The result of thirty years of scientific research, Alan Kazdin’s The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will guide you through every developmental stage—from toddler to teenager—and make you a more relaxed, confident, and competent parent. The rigorously tested strategies in this book will not only help change your child’s behavior, they will also decrease the stress in family relations, increase your joy in parenting, and help build a more nurturing home life that can directly improve children's mental and physical health and school success.
You won’t find abstract philosophy here. You’ll see every point, every strategy, illustrated with real-life examples. From toilet training to teaching a child to accept “no” without a tantrum all the way up to struggles over cellphones and curfew; from swiftly and gently correcting problem behaviors to fostering positive character qualities like respect for others, honesty, good friendships, or altruism, The Everyday Parenting Toolkit will surprise you time and again with counterintuitive advice that works.
For years parents have been coming to Dr. Kazdin’s Parenting Center at Yale University for help with the challenges, large and small, of child rearing. With the publication of this book, every reader can gain access to that advice and to parenting know-how that transforms families.
For the first time since its 1970 publication, Dr. Gordon has revised and updated his bestselling classic guide. This 30th anniversary edition includes contemporary examples throughout and a new Introduction.
P.E.T., or Parent Effectiveness Training
, began almost forty years ago as the first national parent-training program to teach parents how to communicate more effectively with kids and offer step-by-step advice to resolving family conflicts so everybody wins. This beloved classic is the most studied, highly praised, and proven parenting program in the world -- and it will work for you. Now revised for the first time since its initial publication, this groundbreaking guide will show you:
How to avoid being a permissive parent
How to listen so kids will talk to you and talk so kids will listen to you
How to teach your children to "own" their problems and to solve them
How to use the "No-Lose" method to resolve conflicts
Using the timeless methods of P.E.T. will have immediate results: less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies, no need for punishment. Whether you have a toddler striking out for independence or a teenager who has already started rebelling, you'll find P.E.T. a compassionate, effective way to instill responsibility and create a nurturing family environment in which your child will thrive.
Effective strategies for everyday child-rearing challenges from Dr. Alan Kazdin, director of the Yale Parenting Center—world-renown as the gold-standard for distilling the most useful parenting research from recent years into simple strategies that really work.
About the Author
Alan E. Kazdin, Ph.D., is the John M. Musser Professor of Psychology and Child Psychiatry at Yale University and Director of the Yale Parenting Center. His work on parenting and childrearing has been featured on NPR, PBS, the BBC, and he has appeared on the Today Show, Good Morning America, ABC News, 20/20, and Dr. Phil. He frequently lectures to parents, educators, and business groups interested in learning the latest research and techniques of childrearing.
Carlo Rotella writes regularly for the New York Times Magazine, and he is a columnist for the Boston Globe. His work has also appeared in the New Yorker, Harper's, Slate, and The Best American Essays, and on WGBH. He is director of American Studies and professor of English at Boston College.
Table of Contents
1. Laying the Groundwork for Good Behavior: A for Antecedents 1
2. What You Want to Change: B for Behavior 24
3. Reinforcing Good Behavior: C for Consequences 50
4. Decreasing Misbehavior: More on Consequences 78
5. The Routines of Family Life: Creating the Context for Success 113
6. The Kazdin Method: In Real Life 142
Additional Resources 180