Synopses & Reviews
It’s not easy to be a teen girl, and it’s definitely not easy parenting one. Parents everywhere struggle to respond appropriately to challenging behavior, hit-or-miss communication, and fluctuating moods commonly exhibited by teenage girls. More than previous generations, today’s teen girls face a daunting range of stressors that put them at risk for a range of serious issues, including self-harming behaviors, substance abuse, eating disorders, anxiety, and depression. Is it any wonder that parents are overwhelmed?
Parenting a Teen Girl is a guide for busy parents who want bottom-line information and tips that make sense—and work. It also offers scripts to improve communication, and exercises to navigate stressful interactions with skill and compassion. Whether your teen girl is struggling with academic pressure, social difficulties, physical self-care, or technology overload, this book offers practical advice to help you connect with your teen girl. Parents and teens alike can enjoy a positive connection once common parent-teen pitfalls are replaced with solid understanding and strategies that work. In this book, you will learn how to:
- Maximize your teen’s healthy development
- Understand what underlies her moods and behavior
- Implement strategies for positive results
- Communicate effectively about difficult issues
- Enjoy and appreciate time with your teen daughter
This is such an important book! Patrick M. Duffy has translated research and clinical knowledge into workable steps to help parents turn behavior around at home before turning to professionals for help. This book empowers parents to have confidence in themselves and gives them the knowledge and tools to help their children by focusing on reestablishing a good parent/child relationship. The examples throughout the book will help parents recognize they are not alone in dealing with these problems. Every family service, school advisor, and family doctor should have a copy of this bookand encourage parents to read it!”
Bernadette Christensen is clinical director at The Norwegian Center for Child Behavioral Development and teaches in the psychology department at the University of Oslo, Norway
How terrific that Patrick M. Duffy has made available to parents the practical and effective strategies that have been developed through almost twenty years of research. With this readable and immediately useful handbook, a parent of a youth who has persistent problems with self-regulation and non-compliance will be able to access intervention strategies utilized in approaches like multisystemic therapythe most comprehensively researched, evidence-based intervention for teenagers whose behaviors lead them down a pathway into the juvenile justice system. Parents and behavioral health clinicians can take the pragmatic ideas and straightforward practices currently only accessible to a small number of families and put them immediately into practice. More importantly, they will likely see positive results in the behavior of their teenager! Yes, it requires a parent to alter his or her current parenting stylenot an easy taskbut the outcome in terms of youth success and family harmony are well worth the effort.”
Eric W. Trupin, PhD, professor and vice chairman at the University of Washington School of Medicine
Patrick Duffy's book provides the kind of real-world guidance that is distinctly pragmatic and direct. While he clearly conveys empathy for parents of very troubled youth, he simultaneously reinforces the goal of striving for warmth and control as the critical element of the parent-child relationship. Duffy draws on both research and his considerable experience with this population of youth and their families. The breadth and diversity of the stories, strategies, and techniques contained in this volume should provide many parents with some of the tools they need to achieve a more positive relationship with their child, and find a sense of hope in sustaining it. While Duffy does not eschew professional guidance as needed, his focus is on helping parents gain confidence and skills in effectively managing their childrens behavior. This is a significant resource for parents whose teens are on the edge ofor inthe red zone, and without effective intervention face terribly negative and cascading consequences.”
Patrick J. Kanary, director at the Center for Innovative Practices at the Institute for the Study and Prevention of Violence at Kent State University
The author of this book is witty, wise, and happily, very practical. Using her own experience with her daughter, as well as her training as a psychologist, she guides us through the shoals of parenting and reassures us that while parenting a daughter is not smooth sailing, it is possible with a little helpand this book is quite helpful. For example, almost all parents of teenagers are going to get carved up by their child from time to time, and it's nice to know that the constant criticism is part of the teen's passage rather than one's own terminal defects. Also welcome are the many chapter tips, including the ones that help us understand obsessive behavior with phones and texting. The book is not only extremely sensible, it's terrifically readable. You get to laugh at yourself, and learn valuable information at the same time.”
Pepper Schwartz, PhD, American sociologist and sexologist, professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, WA, and author of 201 Questions to Ask Your Kids
“In Parenting a Teen Girl, Lucie Hemmen brings expertise, common sense, and a no-drama approach to the challenge of raising girls with respect and love. Her ideas are clear, realistic, and powerful, and her steady guidance will help you bring confidence and skill to your dealings with teen girls or, for that matter, with anyone. Her teachings are so universal and wise that we could all do well to learn from them, no matter the age or gender of the people we interact with.”
—Frank Andrews, PhD, professor at the University of California, Santa Cruz and author of The Art and Practice of Loving
“Parenting a Teen Girl busts through many myths and helps parents stop catastrophizing and start connecting with their teen girls. Face your fears head-on and learn concrete steps to tackle common problems such as oversharing in social media and moodiness. You can learn to stop complaining about your teen girl and starting connecting to her."
—Lara Honos-Webb, PhD, author of The Gift of Adult ADD and Listening to Depression
“This is the instruction book we always wished our children came with. Hemmen provides straight talk, practical tips, and an empathetic understanding of the challenges that teen girls and parents face today.”
—Lisa M. Schab, LCSW, author of The Anxiety Workbook for Teens and Beyond the Blues
Parenting a Teen Girl will help parents understand their daughters behavior and experiences and create healthier connections with them. Through real-life examples and reflective exercises, Hemmen encourages parents to increase their self-awareness and teaches them to choose their responses rather than react to the chaos that life with a teen daughter can create.”
Sheri Van Dijk, MSW, RSW, psychotherapist and author of Dont Let Your Emotions Run Your Life for Teens, The Bipolar Workbook for Teens, and Calming the Emotional Storm
“As an Internet expert, educator of teens and parents, and mother of two girls, I appreciate Hemmen's coverage of the issues most relevant to raising teen girls in today's world. The book hits all the most important targets without lapsing into long, academically dense discourse. Readers won't get that overwhelmed and hopeless feeling regarding the state of today's teenage girls! In fact, the book energizes as it informs. I love that the book offers practical tips parents can plug in immediately—especially regarding how to guide teens in the tech world. Hemmen's compassion, understanding, and humor make the book a quick and valuable read.”
—Lori Getz, Internet safety expert and founder of Cyber Education Consultants
Teens who are out-of-control may participate in a number of troubling behaviors, including drinking, taking drugs, skipping school, or even fighting. For parents who are at their wits end, a clinical psychologist and expert in treating children with behavior issues presents Parenting your Delinquent, Defiant, or Out-of-Control Teen. This book utilizes skills and exercises based in effective strategies such as functional family therapy, multidimensional treatment foster care and multisystemic therapy, to help parents whose teens are on the verge of getting (or have already gotten) in trouble in school or with the law.
Teens who are out-of-control may participate in a number of troubling behaviors, including drinking, taking drugs, skipping school, or even fighting. If youve tried to discipline your teen to no avail, you may feel emotionally exhausted. But you also know that the consequences of not taking action now could greatly affect their future. For parents who are at their wits end, clinical psychologist and expert in treating children with behavior issues Patrick M. Duffy presents Parenting your Delinquent, Defiant, or Out-of-Control Teen
. This book utilizes effective strategies common among proven effective programssuch as functional family therapy, multidimensional treatment foster care, and multisystemic therapyand is designed for use by parents whose teens are on the verge of (or have already gotten in) trouble in school or with the law. If youve reached the boiling point and feel helpless when it comes to your teen, you need help now, rather than later. With this book as your guide, youll learn practical and effective skills for parenting your difficult child, no matter how hard they try to push you away.
Parenting a Teen Girl offers parents effective tips and strategies for understanding the dramatic, confusing highs and lows of adolescence and improving communication with their teenage daughters. Drawn from positive psychology, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and the author’s years of experience, the skills in this workbook will help parents guide their daughters past the challenges of adolescence and toward healthier and more productive behaviors.
About the Author
Patrick M. Duffy, Jr., PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist who has specialized in working with children and families with significant behavioral challenges since 1993. After working in various programs, including a community mental health center, psychiatric hospital, childrens home, and outpatient centers, he began using the evidence-based practice, multisystemic therapy (MST). Through his years of experience, he has served as a therapist, consultant, speaker, and trainer of therapists across seventeen states and in seven countries outside of the United States. Duffy is an annual presenter at multiple conferences that attract an international audience of professionals, and has presented at several conferences across the US and Canada.