Synopses & Reviews
Prate Marshbanks proposed to his future wife on a muggy July night at Pete's Drive-in back in '52. "She said yes to me between bites of a slaw burger all-the-way." A college graduate and daughter of a prominent lawyer, Irene was an unlikely match for Prate, a high school dropout. He lived his married life aware of the question on people's minds: How in the world did a tall, thin, fair-skinned beauty and one of the most respected high school English teachers in all of Greenville County, in all of South Carolina for that matter, wind up married to a short, dark, fat-faced, jug-eared house painter? That their marriage not only survived for fifty years, but flourished, is a source of constant wonder to Prate. Now he faces a new challenge with Irene.
From the author of In The Family Way, a novel the Atlanta Constitution called "an instant classic" and the Charlotte Observer praised as "a lovely, moving book," comes a powerful story of hard-earned hope. The Pleasure Was Mine takes place during a critical summer in the life of Prate Marshbanks, when he retires to care for his wife, who is gradually slipping away. To complicate things, Prate's son, Newell, a recently widowed single father, asks Prate to keep nine-year-old Jackson for the summer. Though Prate is irritated by the presence of his moody grandson, during the summer Jackson helps tend his grandmother, and grandfather and grandson form a bond. As Irene's memory fades, Prate, a hardworking man who has kept to himself most of his life, has little choice but to get to know his family.
With elegance and skillful economy of language, Tommy Hays renders an unforgettable character in Prate Marshbanks. The Pleasure Was Mine is at once a quietly wrenching portrayal of grief, a magical and romantic story about the power of love, and an unexpectedly moving take on the resilience of family.
"'My wife has gone. I can't say that I blame her. ... She had probably had enough of my temper, my dark moods, my foul mouth, my all-around disagreeable self. ... She had probably had enough of what most everybody wondered and some, over the years, were rude enough to ask: How in the world did a tall, thin, fair-skinned beauty and one of the most respected high school English teachers ... in all of South Carolina ... wind up married to a short, dark, fat-faced, jug-eared house painter?' That pithy summary sounds like the prelude to a typical novel about divorce and infidelity, but for Hays it serves as a setup for the transformation of a family in which an older man cares for his wife during her descent into Alzheimer's. The transformation begins when Prate Marshbanks, the remarkable, curmudgeonly protagonist, gets a visitor for the summer: his nine-year-old grandson, Jackson, whose mother died in a car accident several years before. But, despite Jackson's grieving presence, Marshbanks remains preoccupied with his own battle to ensure compassionate care for his wife, whom he has had to place in a nursing home. Hays's elegiac, penetrating description of Prate's marriage frames the landscape of this brilliant novel about love, loss, marriage and family. He offers a grim but hopeful treatment of a difficult subject, and his elegant writing and sharp, tender portraits of the Marshbanks make a potent combination." Publishers Weekly (Starred Review) (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
"...Hays beautifully captures a husband's grief as he watches his beloved wife slip into Alzheimer's. ...Colloquial in tone, braced by its narrator's stoic, plainspoken candor, Hays's latest outing feels timely and true. ...An intimate, loving portrait of a dreaded disease's devastating effects."
- Kirkus Reviews (starred review)
"This beautifully written, bitter-sweet story is quintessentially Southern, but, like the best of Southern fiction, speaks to the heart of the human condition."
--Walter Edgar, South Carolina Public Radio
"(A) folksy, heartfelt paean to the deep love of a long marriage."
--Sara Isaac, The Orlando Sentinel
"Hays's elegiac, penetrating description of Prate's marriage frames the landscape of this brilliant novel about love, loss, marriage and family."
--Publisher's Weekly (starred review)
"Tommy Hays writes beautifully. Better yet, he is heart-true...His subject matter, his sense of the South and Southerners, his ability to reflect on the deep in the ordinary are reminiscent of James Agee's "A Death in the Family" and Eudora Welty's "Delta Wedding."
--Claudia Smith Brinson, The State (Columbia, SC)
"Most notable of all is the love with which Hays weaves his tale. Many of his characters create art to find affirmation of life in the face of devastating pain. Hays, who has lost a loved one to Alzheimer's himself, has surely done the same with this lovely novel."
--Frank Reiss, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
"(C)aptivating, wise and even romantic. ... This deceptively simple story aptly reminds us that love and family can endure and carry people through difficult times. ...Read this novel; the pleasure will be yours."
--Linda Brinson, The Winston-Salem Journal
--Steve Whitton, The Anniston Star
"So many of us have experienced the slow loss of a family member to Alzheimer's. We've yearned for help in preserving the dignity of our afflicted loved one. We've needed a book that tells our story with respect and love. Tommy Hays has written that book for us in The Pleasure Was Mine."
--D.G. Martin, Bookwatch, UNC-TV
"Prate grapples doggedly with the daily heartaches and frustrations of a caregiver desperately trying to do it all before it's too late.... Prate's widowed son, Newell; solemn young grandson, Jackson; and neighbor, Billie - each of them with their own emptiness to overcome - help transform Prate's life, and the broken group recasts itself into a new whole, molded by Irene's tragedy and their own love and resilience."
--Janet Pittard, Our State
"(Q)uietly elegant and touching.... (A) moving story of the way that love shifts and grows and finds new ways to express itself, even in loss."
--Gretchen Holbrook Gerzina, The Book Show, Northeast Public Radio
"(T)he story of family relationships, how they are formed and how they grow, what they mean to us all. In spite of the sadness of the situation, the reader is left with the light of hope and the warmth of love."
--Reese Danley-Kilgo, The Huntsville Times
"The Pleasure Was Mine serves to remind us that what we often perceive as the end of something can be the beginning of something else...Prate begins his story thinking that his own story is at its end...yet throughout the story we witness him awakening again to life, finding strength in his memories of his earlier life with Irene, discovering an unexpected source of deep affection in his regard for his sad little grandson, and arriving at a better understanding of his son."
--Jeff Minick, Smoky Mountain News
"Hays is a fantastically gifted writer, one who can portray beauty in the midst of almost unbearable pain...The Pleasure Was Mine is an incredible book that is destined to become a classic."
--Susan Farrington, The Sanford Herald
The Pleasure Was Mine is a completely engaging, authentic portrayal of a family's encounter with Alzheimer's disease. Beautifully crafted, poignantly funny, and astonishingly insightful, it navigates through a journey that will become increasingly common for our aging population. Tommy Hays probes the meaning of memory and its impact upon our most intimate relationships and leaves us hopeful, inspired, and wiser for the reading.
--Margaret A. Noel, M.D., Director, MemoryCare
"Irene's early changes are described with poignant accuracy, but it is Prate's resilience, steadfast confidence in what he learns through experience and delightful capacity to surprise himself that is the soul of this story. Prate's extraordinary ordinariness allows him to tell an authentic Alzheimer's family story almost lyrically."
--Lisa P. Gwyther, Bryan Alzheimer's Disease Research Center, Duke University
"The Pleasure Was Mine is an experience to be savored, to share with those you love, and to remember."
--Curtis Edmonds, Bookreporter.com
"The Pleasure Was Mine is enriched by a depth of lightly-worn wisdom and unexpected wit as it surveys the grave problems that can face enduring marriages and can complicate the relations of children with their aging parents....I learned more than most novels tell me; and I was profoundly moved."-- Reynolds Price
"Tragic and funny, The Pleasure Was Mine proves that Tommy Hays knows his way around the human heart. Here, Prate Marshbanks, his grown son Newell, and his grandson Jackson navigate clearly through their respective storms. But in the end, Prate's one-love Irene may prove to be this family's true rudder. The Pleasure Was Mine is a brilliant novel."--George Singleton
"Tommy Hays has the talent and empathy to do what few writers would attempt, much less accomplish--create a novel of wonder and affirmation out of Alzheimer's devastating impact on a family. The Pleasure Was Mine is a work filled with beautiful writing, convincing characters, pathos and humor. My life is enriched from having read this book."--Ron Rash
"A tender and gentle story about long-term love and kinship, The Pleasure Was Mine illuminates one of the toughest challenges a family may face. With his deft touch for humor and a generous sympathy for his characters, Tommy Hays reveals the chance for fresh starts where we thought there were only endings."--Josephine Humphreys
"Tommy Hays tells stories about real people caught up in all the large and small moments of life. He writes with warmth, wit, and deep insight. The Pleasure Was Mine is a moving account of how an irascible man named Prate Marshbanks endures the slow loss of his beloved wife, and finds his way back to life. It is a wonderful story about the meaning of family and the power of love. I was instantly reminded of Anne Tyler's Breathing Lessons."--Karl Ackerman
"Once in a blessed while, in this era of edgy, postmodern fiction, you come across a novel that is old-fashioned in the best sense. ...The Pleasure Was Mine is just that sort of novel - charming, unpretentious, easy to read but deeply engaging. ...It's a tender, affecting story, simply but powerfully told."
--Polly Paddock, The Charlotte Observer
About the Author
is executive director of the Great Smokies Writing Program at the University of North Carolina at Asheville and creative writing chair for the Academy at the South Carolina Governor's School for the Arts and Humanities. His novel In The Family Way
received the Thomas Wolfe Memorial Literary Award in 2000 and was a choice of the Book-of-the-Month Club. He is a graduate of Furman University and the MFA Program for Writers at Warren Wilson College. He lives in Asheville, North Carolina, with his wife and two children.
Reading Group Guide
1) The Pleasure Was Mine is in part about Irene Marshbanks and how her Alzheimers shapes or reshapes the lives around her. What are some of the changes her illness brings about in her husband Prate, her son Newell and her grandson Jackson? In your own family, has an illness reconfigured how your family members interact? Has it brought out some surprising strengths or weaknesses in your family members? 2) Every story has to have a disturbance to the pattern of its characters lives, something that makes this particular time in its characters lives worth telling the reader about. Irenes long illness is part of that, but the specific event that precipitates the novel is Jackson coming to spend the summer with Prate, who has gotten used to living alone. How does Jacksons presence over the summer challenge Prate? Have you ever ended up spending a long period of time with a family member you really didnt want to spend time with? Did it bring you closer or drive you further apart? 3) One of the dangers in writing about a character with a debilitating illness like Alzheimers is that the illness becomes bigger than the character. The illness obscures the characters qualities, and the character becomes a kind of walking symptom. Do you think the writer was able to get across Irenes deeper self even as he portrayed her illness? If so, what were some of the ways he accomplished this? 4) This story is told in first person through Prate Marshbankss eyes. One of the hardest things about writing a story in first person is getting across a sense of the narrator. We hear what the narrator chooses to tell us, but thats usually not enough to give the reader a deeper sense of the narrator. What are some ways that the writer conveys Prates true nature besides what Prate tells the reader about himself? Does your perception of Prate change over the course of the novel? 5) Prate never attended college, didnt even finish high school for that matter. He came from a poor family. His father was a butcher. Yet he married Irene, a very educated woman, from a very educated family. Does this seem believable? If so, what qualities of Prate and Irene make it believable? Have you known couples who came from drastically different social classes yet sustained a long and fruitful relationship? 6) Do you have a loved one or a close friend who has Alzheimers? How did the disease change them? What about them remained the same? And their caretakers. Taking care of someone with Alzheimers can be overwhelming. How did the disease affect their caretakers? Were they as stubborn as Prate in trying to care for their loved one at home? Did they ultimately have to hire a nurse or put their loved one in a nursing home? 7) What kind of son is Newell? Is he selfish to ask his father to keep Jackson for the summer? Or does he deserve a break from his fatherly duties to pursue his art? When Newell loses his temper with Jackson early on in the book how does that make you feel about him? Can you relate to his frustration or do you feel his anger is unjustified or a little of both? 8) A good title is one that the reader finds herself referring back to as she reads the book, a kind of touchstone. What are some ways that the title The Pleasure Was Mine is inhabited over the course of the novel? 9) When Irene goes missing at Penland, Prate blames himself. Is he right to? Is it poor judgment to bring her along? Or is it worth the risk to get her out of the nursing home? Is his motivation in taking her to Penland, at least in part, the hope that something might happen between him and Irene? When something does happen, are you surprised? Is Prate right to sleep with Irene? Or does he take advantage of her? 10) If you had to have one of the characters in The Pleasure Was Mine move in with you for a week, who would you choose? Who would you choose to move in with your worst enemy? 11) Toward the end of the book Prate says, …the thought flit through my head that Irenes gradual mental departure from us might allow Newell and me to grow a little closer… In other words, Irenes illness provided an opportunity for father and son to get to know each other in a new way. The same might be said for grandfather and grandson. What other new opportunities does Irenes absence, physical and mental, provide for the characters around her? 12) What kind of feeling does the ending leave with you with? Hopeful? Sad? A little of both? 13) If you were to write one more chapter, what or who would you write about? How much time do Irene and Prate have left before shes totally lost to Alzheimers? What does Prate do with himself then? Does he start visiting Newell and Jackson in Asheville? Do Newell and Billie ultimately end up together? 14) What images from The Pleasure Was Mine have stayed with you? © 2006 — Tommy Hays