Synopses & Reviews
Southwood writes of her experience when her fiancé accepted a jobfilming a reality show about porn stars. Not expecting to have a problem with it, she found herself facing surprising and difficultemotions, ranging from feelings of jealousy and inadequacy in her immediate relationship to deep misgivings about the porn industry,double standards, and its relationship to sexism and misogyny in society. She reflects on feminist arguments against pornography,degrading scenes and the influence on sexual expectations, as well as pornography made for women and the evolution of porn over time.She discusses how this challenging time brought up thoughts and relationship conversations that ultimately improved communication and understanding and strengthened her relationship.Annotation ©2014 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
"When her fiancÃ© Robbie landed a job filming a reality TV show about porn, Southwood, who had just moved to Los Angeles to live with Robbie, unsurprisingly, had conflicted feelings. Southwood skillfully and calmly shares this time of her life, examining how porn both threatened and strengthened their relationship, and how it brought other issues insecurity, lack of communication to light. Southwood also explores her own relationship to porn, placing it in the greater context of today's society, citing what she's learned about different types of porn, porn usage, and exposure. The writing is straightforward, comfortable, and just a bit quirky; the memoir reads like a conversation over cocktails with a close girlfriend possibly because such scenes often recur as Southwood struggles between her desire to be open-minded, and her ingrained moral stance on porn. For those who, like Southwood, are uncomfortable, intimidated, or simply unfamiliar with porn, this book is a fun way to start pushing your own comfort zones. For everyone else, it's a sweet and original examination of the complications of romantic relationships." Publishers Weekly Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.
In a culture obsessed with sex, the era of Dads Playboy
is long gone. Today, endless free porn is a click away and full-frontal photos appear on sites as accessible as Twitter, yet many couples struggle with the underlying issues of pornography.
Emily Southwood considered herself to be sexually liberaluntil her fiancé landed a job filming porn for a network reality TV show and her whole world changed overnight. Once confident in her relationship, she suddenly felt jealous, insecure, and obsessively comparative to the porn stars her fiancé was around everyday. She was forced to confront feelings she didnt even know she had: about the treatment of women in the porn industry, the hush-hush attitude toward women watching pornography, and the unrealistic expectations about sex that are often propagated by porn.
Prude is a humorous memoir that explores why there is so little communication about porn in relationships. Southwood tells the story of her transformation from feeling sexually liberal-minded to realizing she had issues with porn and the industry her fiancé was a part of. She reveals her bizarre journey to conquer her discomfort around pornand how she ends up finding herself (and ultimately fixing her relationship for good) along the way.
About the Author
writes for websites such as Betty Confidential and Huffington Post, and she can be found blogging at imarriedapornographer.com. She has been featured in Canadian newspapers and magazines, including the Montreal Mirror, The Globe and Mail,
and Elle Canada.
Emily received a bachelors degree in Creative Writing and English Literature from Concordia University in Montreal and later completed an MFA in creative non-fiction from the University of British Columbia. In 2008, Emily moved to Los Angeles to be with her fiancé, who was there filming porn stars in action for the reality TV show Webdreams. The experience of planning a wedding while her betrothed witnessed crude encounters inspired this book.
Emily currently divides her time between Montreal and Los Angeles. Without a fixed address, her mainstays are her station wagon, her husband, her son, and a small, white dog.