Synopses & Reviews
Popular parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham, author of PEACEFUL PARENTS, HAPPY SIBLINGS
, has garnered a large and loyal readership around the world, thanks to her simple, insightful approach that values the emotional bond between parent and child. As any parent of more than one child knows, though, its challenging for even the most engaged parent to maintain harmony and a strong connection when competition, tempers, and irritation run high.
In this highly anticipated guide, Dr. Markham presents simple yet powerful ways to cut through the squabbling and foster a loving, supportive bond between siblings, while giving each child the vital connection that he or she needs.
PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY SIBLINGS includes hands-on, research-based advice on:
- Creating deep connections with each one of your children, so that each truly believes that you couldnt possibly love anyone else more.
- Fostering a loving family culture that encourages laughter and minimizes fighting
- Teaching your children healthy emotional self-management and conflict resolution skillsso that they can work things out with each other, get their own needs met and respect the needs of others
- Helping your kids forge a close lifelong sibling bondas well as the relationship skills they will need for a life of healthy friendships, work relationships, and eventually their own family bonds.
“Having Dr. Laura Markham on your bedside table is like having an angel on your shoulder, whispering useful secrets in your ear. These are the secrets every mother and father needs to know to become a more peaceful and effective parent.”
—Jack Canfield, coauthor, Chicken Soup for the Parents Soul
"Drawing on the latest scientific knowledge about brains and behavior, Dr. Laura shows why forging strong bonds of love and understanding is the springboard to the kind of family life we all want. Even more important, she gives us an arsenal of practical steps and techniques to dial down the pressure so that both parents and kids can be calm, happy and successful.”
—Carl Honoré, author of In Praise of Slow, Under Pressure and The Slow Fix
“Finally, there is a treasure of a book to help guide parents as they welcome a new sibling into their household. Dr. Laura explains, step by step, how parents can promote a positive, loving and respectful bond between siblings. Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings is a must-have for any family with multiple children.”
—Debbie Zeichner, LCSW Parent Coach and Educator
Praise for PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY KIDS:
"Dr. Laura is always tuned in to what kids need so they can thrive, and what moms and dads need so they can parent well. If you want to feel more confident and peaceful as a parent, this is the book. Dr. Laura helps you understand what drives your child's behavior, and gives you the practical tools to change it."
—Elizabeth Pantley, author of twelve parenting books including The No Cry Sleep Solution
“If you want to declare peace in your home, follow Dr. Laura Markham's original and authentic advice. With her emphasis on taking responsibility for our own emotional states as parents and connecting rather than controlling, Dr. Laura offers us suggestions that help us to create strong relationships with our children. If we all followed Dr. Laura's advice, we would indeed change the world."
—Peggy O'Mara, Founder of Mothering.com
“If youre a parent who has been trying hard with your child, with mixed results, read this book. Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids can change your parenting life. Dr. Laura Markham shares an invaluable set of insights that are new to the world of parenting. She will show you how to deliver your love and guidance in a truly nurturing way, and how to avoid parental burn-out in the process.”
—Patty Wipfler, Founder of Hand-in-Hand.org
"The Aha! moment in Dr. Laura Markham's Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids is that attachment isn't just for babies. Attachment provides the foundation for the growing child to learn emotional intelligence, empathy, and responsibility while he masters his environment. Dr. Laura teaches by example, holding parents with compassion as she gives them priceless, easy to use strategies to create a secure, healthy attachment with their child.”
—Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson, Founders of Attachment Parenting International, and authors of Attached at the Heart
"Dr. Laura shows parents how their empathy can wire their child's brain for emotional regulation and happiness -- and a brighter future for humanity. Her understanding and knowledge of the many challenges of raising loving, compassionate children gives parents powerful tools to be the best that they can be. A simple, yet revolutionary, message of love."
—Nancy Samalin, M.S, author of Loving Without Spoiling
“Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids has two important ideas, and one revolutionary idea. Dr. Laura Markhams guidance on fostering connection and coaching instead of controlling are the important ideas, and they can make a huge difference in your life as a parent. Her explanation of why parents need to regulate ourselves first—before we can help regulate our children--is the revolutionary idea. Read it and youll see why she calls her work ‘Aha! Parenting.”
—Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting
“This book delivers hope and help. Laura Markham brilliantly applies her respectful, attuned, limit-setting approach to sibling dynamics. Full of realistic scenarios and scripts for how parents can turn conflict into opportunities to build skills, and turn parental dread into meaningful intervention. Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings
masterfully coaches parents on how to honor each childs experience, set limits, reduce conflict, and build skills for life.”
--Tina Payne Bryson, PhD, co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline
“Parents need all the help they can get to be the kind of parent they want to be, and to use parenting skills that influence their children to be good citizens of the world. Dr. Lauras book is filled with this kind of help—practical, inspiring, and encouraging though real-life examples. It would have helped me a lot when I was raising my children.”
--Dr. Jane Nelsen, author and co-author of the Positive Discipline series
“Finally, a book that answers your questions around sibling rivalry! In this insightful book, Dr. Markham draws on scientific research to craft smart strategies that any parent can use to help their children resolve their conflicts with empathy, mindfulness and peace. A must-read for every parent.”
--Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and Out of Control
“Adding a child to the family creates a cascade of challenges. Dr. Laura Markham shows parents how to avoid common sibling difficulties, and how to convey their love, even in stressful situations, so children truly feel supported. Open this book, and you'll find clarity, wisdom, workable ideas, and generous helpings of respect for parents and children.”
--Patty Wipfler, founder, Hand in Hand Parenting
"Refreshingly positive and respectful in its tone, Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings lovingly guides parents by using scripts and practical examples, essential tools for any parent with more than one child. Dr. Laura's compassionate approach is empowering for parents, and liberating for children."
--Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson, Founders of Attachment Parenting International, and authors of Attached at the Heart
“Brothers and sisters rejoice! Here's a family roadmap to transform bickering kids into a connected sibling team. One third of kids have a warm caring relationship with their siblings. Read this book and your family can join the ranks.”
--Heather Shumaker, author of It's Okay Not to Share
“A phenomenal book for parents with multiple children! Dr. Markham addresses all of the common sibling issues with sensible solutions to bring peace and foster healthy relationships between siblings. This book will be my constant companion for years to come.”
--Rebecca Eanes, author of Lasting Bonds: Building Connected Families Through Positive Parenting
“Whether you are just beginning to contemplate having a second child or you are already frustrated by nonstop sibling fighting, this book is for you. I marveled at the amount of wisdom, compassion, and practical ideas packed into its pages. The wisdom begins with her gentle reminder that we have to start with ourselves if we want to make meaningful changes in our childrens relationships with each other. The compassion is in Dr. Lauras empathy for everyone in the mix—including angry and worried parents. And the ideas arent just practical and usable—many of them are downright fun. Youll laugh out loud just reading them, and everyone will laugh when you try them out. Wouldnt that be a nice change from bickering and clobbering?”
--Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting
“As a parenting coach, I know that sibling struggles can be heart-wrenching for parents. Dr. Laura's strategies are right on the money to help today's parents create more peaceful homes - and stronger sibling relationships. Great work!”
--Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time and The “Me, Me, Me” Epidemic
“This book walks parents through sibling scenarios - even ones for very intense children - and breaks down the specifics of how to approach common struggles, without making parents feel guilty or overwhelmed. It is a wonderful resource that gives parents the tools to not only help our children while in the midst of conflict, but also helps us to teach our children how to be the loving, kind and respectful brothers and sisters we know they can be.”
— Gina Osher, The Twin Coach
“If you are the parent of more than one child, this is the book for you. Laura Markham begins at the beginning - the how and when to tell your child that they are about to become a big brother or sister -- and then offers concrete suggestions to help you lay down the foundation for a healthy sibling relationship throughout your childrens lives. I know that I will highly recommend this book to all my clients.”
--Rev. Susan Nason parent educator
" Dr. Laura's examples and coaching-based methodology make parenting siblings far less daunting....Her book reassures us that doing our best with the right tools, including self-regulation, connection, and coaching, can build a much happier and more peaceful family."
--Nancy Peplinsky, Founder and Executive Director of Holistic Moms Network
Already best-selling authors with , Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish turned their minds to the battle of the siblings. Parents themselves, they were determined to figure out how to help their children get along. The result was . This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding--much gained from raising their own children--Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Updated to incorporate fresh thoughts after years of conducting workshops for parents and professionals, this edition also includes a new afterword.
The #1 best-selling guide to reducing hostility ?and generating goodwill between siblings.
About the Author
Dr. Laura Markham
is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
, published by Perigee in November 2012. It ships an average of 1500 copies each month, and has established itself as one of the most influential parenting books of the decade.
Dr. Markham earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at Columbia University in New York. Her clinical practice is entirely devoted to coaching parents, with clients from New York to Australia (via Skype). She monitors the pulse of parents needs through her very active social network, including her own web site, AhaParenting.com. She speaks frequently with reporters for press as diverse as CNN and Parents Magazine and makes regular TV appearances. Dr. Markham lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn, with her familyand considers her kids a daughter graduating from high school and a son graduating from an Ivy League universityto be proof that her parenting approach produces responsible, self-disciplined, considerate and happy kids who achieve in the world and stay deeply connected to their parents.