Synopses & Reviews
Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these "persuasive blamers" leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.
Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.
Turn to this guide to help you:
- Predict what your spouse may do or say in court
- Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking
- Choose a lawyer who understands your case
- Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you
"Splitting provides concise, clear, and invaluable advice for strategically navigating a divorce from someone who has narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. Following the suggestions laid out in this book will greatly increase the [listeners'] odds of having a successful marital dissolution under these difficult circumstances." ---Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, author of Contemplating Divorce
An essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder.
About the Author
Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, is cofounder and president of High Conflict Institute, LLC, in San Diego, California, and Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego, California. Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California with over fifteen years' experience representing clients in family court. Prior to becoming an attorney, he worked as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He is also the author of several books, including High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, Biff, and It's All Your Fault!. Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with borderline personality disorder to an international forefront through her Web site, www.bpdcentral.com, and the Welcome to Oz online support community. She offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials and was instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Randi is the author of The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally. Ever since his first play at thirteen (his mother still has the bellhop costume), Jeffrey Kafer has been an avid performer on the stage and in voice-overs. He has narrated over one hundred books spanning all genres and won the 2008 Voicey Award for Best New Voice. He currently lives in Seattle with his family.