Synopses & Reviews
The New York Times
bestseller and one of the 100 Most Notable Books of 2005. In the tradition of This Boy's Life
and The Liar's Club
, a raucous, poignant, luminously written memoir about a boy striving to become a man, and his romance with a bar.
J.R. Moehringer grew up captivated by a voice. It was the voice of his father, a New York City disc jockey who vanished before J.R. spoke his first word. Sitting on the stoop, pressing an ear to the radio, J.R. would strain to hear in that plummy baritone the secrets of masculinity and identity. Though J.R.'s mother was his world, his rock, he craved something more, something faintly and hauntingly audible only in The Voice. At eight years old, suddenly unable to find The Voice on the radio, J.R. turned in desperation to the bar on the corner, where he found a rousing chorus of new voices. The alphas along the bar--including J.R.'s Uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike; and Joey D, a softhearted brawler--took J.R. to the beach, to ballgames, and ultimately into their circle. They taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fathering-by-committee. Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak--and eventually from reality.
In the grand tradition of landmark memoirs, THE TENDER BAR is suspenseful, wrenching, and achingly funny. A classic American story of self-invention and escape, of the fierce love between a single mother and an only son, it's also a moving portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and an unforgettable depiction of how men remain, at heart, lost boys.
"[Signature] Reviewed by Terry Golway You needn't be a writer to appreciate the romance of the corner tavern or, for that matter, of the local dive in a suburban strip mall. But perhaps it does take a writer to explain the appeal of these places that ought to offend us on any number of levels they often smell bad, the decor generally is best viewed through bloodshot eyes and, by night's end, they usually do not offer an uplifting vision of the human condition.Ah, but what would we do without them, and what would we do without the companionship of fellow pilgrims whose journey through life requires the assistance of a drop or two?J.R. Moehringer, a Pulitzer Prize winning writer for the Los Angeles Times, has written a memoir that explains it all, and then some. The Tender Bar is the story of a young man who knows his father only as 'The Voice,' of a single mother struggling to make a better life for her son, and of a riotously dysfunctional family from Long Island. But more than anything else, Moehringer's book is a homage to the culture of the local pub. That's where young J.R. seeks out the companionship of male role models in place of his absent father, where he receives an education that has served him well in his career and where, inevitably, he looks for love, bemoans its absence and mourns its loss.Moehringer grew up in Manhasset, a place, he writes, that 'believed in booze.' At a young age, he became a regular not a drinker, of course, for he was far too young. But while still tender of years, he was introduced to the culture, to the companionship and yes to the romance of it all. 'Everyone has a holy place, a refuge, where their heart is purer, their mind clearer, where they feel close to God or love or truth or whatever it is they happen to worship,' he writes. For young J.R., that place was a gin mill on Plandome Road where his Uncle Charlie was a bartender and a patron.The Tender Bar's emotional climax comes after its native son has found success as a journalist for the Los Angeles Times. On September 11, 2001, almost 50 souls who lived and loved in Moehringer's home town of Manhasset were killed in the terrorist attack on the World Trade Center. One was a bartender we've met along the way. Another was one of the author's cousins.Moehringer drove from Denver, where he was based as a correspondent for the Times, to New York to mourn and comfort old friends. He describes his cousin's mother, Charlene Byrne, as she grieved: 'Charlene was crying, the kind of crying I could tell would last for years.'And so it has, in Manhasset and so many other Long Island commuter towns. Moehringer's lovely evocation of an ordinary place filled with ordinary people gives dignity and meaning to those lost lives, and to his own. Agent, Mort Janklow. (Sept.) Terry Golway is city editor at the New York Observer. He is also the author of the recently published Washington's General (Holt), a biography of Nathanael Greene." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
"[O]utstanding....Moehringer has hours and hours of stories that any bar hound worth his stool would bend both ears to drink in. Thankfully, the writer has opted to put them down on paper. (Grade: A-)" Entertainment Weekly
"Funny, honest, and insightful, The Tender Bar finds universal themes in an unusual upbringing and declares a real love of barroom life without romanticizing it too much." Booklist (Starred Review)
"Simply a wonderful book about a heaven of a life that had everything going against it except intense love..." James Salter, author of Burning the Days
"The Tender Bar
will make you thirsty for that life its camaraderie, its hilarity, its seductive, dangerous wisdom." Richard Russo, author of Empire Falls
"The Tender Bar, a lovely coming-of-age memoir, begins as a celebration of a saloon....It ends as a richer, more complex story of growing up and sobering up and remembering the lesson of an old-timer at the bar." USA Today
"In his gimlet-eyed memoir, The Tender Bar, J. R. Moehringer lovingly and affectingly toasts a boyhood spent on a barstool." Vanity Fair
"A straight-up account of masculinity, maturity and memory that leaves a smile on the face and an ache in the heart." Kirkus Reviews
"[A]n aching torch song of a memoir." Los Angeles Times
"[A] wonderful read....Anyone who has ever played on a tavern softball team or spent enough time at a favorite watering hole to learn the quirks of its bowling machine will raise a glass to its clear-eyed and tough sentiment." Cleveland Plain Dealer
"The best memoirist of his kind since Mary Karr wrote The Liar's Club." Janet Maslin, The New York Times
"The only thing wrong with this terrific debut is that there has to be a closing time." Malcolm Jones, Newsweek
"A vital, honest, and arresting account of one flawed runnerand#8217;s emotional and spiritual renewal with each step toward the finish line."
and#8212;Publishers Weekly "Daniloffand#8217;s raw descriptions of his alcohol and drug abuse...are some of the most compelling parts of the book. They harshly illustrate the destruction of addiction and the courage it takes to walk away and build a new life."
and#8212;Booklist "In an engaging voice, the author brings the courses alive for readers. He replicates the physical demands of running such courses and the barriers, mental and physical, that need to be broken through to get to the finishing line. He interweaves the story of each race with memories and dialogue from the past, and he is candid about his childhood problems and his competition with his marathon-running father. Confidence in the future lends appeal to this deeply personal memoir."
and#8212;Kirkus Reviews "Daniloffand#8217;s unblinking, ultimately triumphant account of his journey from mean, hopeless drunk back to humanity and himselfand#8212;through distance running. Itand#8217;s a searing tale of spiritual redemptionand#8212;one marathon, one mile, one brave, difficult step at a time."
and#8212;Steve Friedman, co-author of New York Times bestseller, Eat and Run: My Unlikely Path to Ultramarathon Greatness "Caleb Daniloff once poured everything he had into his drinking, and it nearly killed him. Then he poured everything into his running, and he was saved. Now he pours everything into writing about both, and we are graced by the result. Running Ransom Road is a brave, necessary, and uncompromising book."
and#8212;John Brant, author of Duel in the Sun: Alberto Salazar, Dick Beardsley, and Americaand#8217;s Greatest Marathon
The author's vivid memoir about a boy striving to become a man, and his romance with a grand old New York saloon that was sanctuary for all types of men cops and poets, actors and lawyers, gamblers and stumblebums is told with heart, drama, and exquisite comic timing.
A moving, vividly told memoir full of heart, drama, and exquisite comic timing, about a boy striving to become a man, and his romance with a bar.
J.R. Moehringer grew up listening for a voice: It was the sound of his missing father, a disc jockey who disappeared before J.R. spoke his first words. As a boy, J.R. would press his ear to a clock radio, straining to hear in that resonant voice the secrets of masculinity, and the keys to his own identity. J.R.'s mother was his world, his anchor, but he needed something else, something more, something he couldn't name. So he turned to the bar on the corner, a grand old New York saloon that was a sanctuary for all types of men cops and poets, actors and lawyers, gamblers and stumblebums. The flamboyant characters along the bar including J.R.'s Uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike; Joey D, a soft-hearted brawler; and Cager, a war hero who raised handicapping horses to an art taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood by committee. When the time came for J.R. to leave home, the bar became a way station from his entrance to Yale, where he floundered as a scholarship student way out of his element; to his introduction to tragic romance with a woman way out of his league; to his stint as a copy boy at the New York Times, where he was a faulty cog in a vast machine way out of his control. Through it all, the bar offered shelter from failure, from rejection, and eventually from reality until at last the bar turned J.R. away.
Riveting, moving, and achingly funny, The Tender Bar is at once an evocative portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and a touching depiction of how some men remain lost boys.
In this searing and inspiring memoir, a runner, now 13 years sober, confronts his past in a bib number and pair of running shoes, completing seven marathons in a year's time
The monikers drunk
, and boozehound
were Caleb Daniloffandrsquo;s for fifteen years. Now, the introduction that fits him best is My name is Caleb and I am a runner
In Running Ransom Road, Daniloff, many years sober, confronts his past by setting out, over the course of eighteen months, to run marathons in the cities where he once lived and wreaked havoc. Competing from Boston to New York, Vermont to Moscow, Daniloff explores the sobering and inspiring effects of running as he traverses the trails of his former self, lined with dark bars, ratty apartments, lost loves, and lost chances. With each race he comes to understand who he is, and by extension who he was, and he finds he is not alone. There are countless souls in sneakers running away from something, or better, running past and through whatever it is that haunts them.
In this powerful story of ruin, running, and redemption, Daniloff illuminates the connection between running and addiction and shows that the road to recovery is an arduous but conquerable one. Strapping on a pair of Nikes won't banish all your demons, but it can play an important role in maintaining a clean life. For Daniloff, sweat, strained lungs, and searing muscles are among the paving stones of empowerment, and, if he's lucky, perhaps even self-forgiveness.
About the Author
J.R. Moehringer, winner of the Pulitzer Prize for feature writing in 2000, is a national correspondent for the Los Angeles Times and a former Niemann Fellow at Harvard University. He lives in Denver, Colorado.
Table of Contents
Prologue: Longfellow Bridge Loopand#8195;xiii
Cambridge, Massachusetts and#8226; March 2008
1. 113th Boston Marathonand#8195;3
Boston, Massachusetts and#8226; Monday, April 20, 2009
2. 21st KeyBank Vermont City Marathon
and Marathon Relayand#8195;35
Burlington, Vermont and#8226; Sunday, May 24, 2009
3. 29th Asics Moscow International
Peace Marathon and 10Kand#8195;61
Moscow, Russia and#8226; Sunday, September 13, 2009
4. 119th Bemis-Forslund Pie Race (4.3 Miles)and#8195;119
Gill, Massachusetts and#8226; Sunday, October 18, 2009
5. 40th ING New York City Marathonand#8195;145
New York, New York and#8226; Sunday, November 1, 2009
6. 2nd Middlebury Maple Run (Half Marathon)and#8195;173
Middlebury, Vermont and#8226; Sunday, April 25, 2010
7. 35th Marine Corps Marathonand#8195;201
Washington, DC and#8226; Sunday, October 31, 2010
Epilogue: Arsenal Bridge Routeand#8195;225
Cambridge, Massachusetts and#8226; June 24, 2011