Synopses & Reviews
If someone told you that you have low self-esteem, would it cause you to bristle? For many, the very concept of self-esteem has negative connotations, because it calls to mind the comparisons we make between ourselves and others. So how do you build real self-confidence?
In The Power of Self-Compassion, you will learn that focusing on self-compassion, rather than self-esteem, is actually the best way to build true, lasting self-confidence. For too long self-esteem has been based on the idea that if you achieve certain goals you are doing okay. This can lead to comparing yourself with others as a way to build confidence. The skills and behavioral techniques outlined in this book are drawn from the groundbreaking compassion-focused therapy (CFT), which holds that being compassionate to yourselfeven when things are not going wellis central to building real self-confidence.
With compassion-focused therapy, you will adopt an accepting attitude about your strengths and weaknesses, and a commitment to change that doesnt depend on being overly critical of yourself or comparing yourself with others. In addition, you will learn how the concept of self-confidence fits in the context of our evolution, biology, and life experiences.
If you are looking to improve your self-confidence, the behavioral steps provided in this book can help you focus on the areas in your life that need improvement, so that you can build a stronger sense of self-worth and competence.
"This book will help you stop undermining yourself with debilitating self-criticism and start giving yourself the same kindness, encouragement, and support you'd give to a good friend. With straightforward explanations of concepts and dozens of easy and practical exercises to build self-confidence through self-compassion, this book has the power to change your life."
Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion and associate professor, University of Texas at Austin
"Compassionate Mind approaches are one of the most exciting developments in cognitive behavior therapy. Mary Welford has written an easy-to-read interactive book that distils the core features of developing a different relationship with ones mind and paradoxically building ones self-confidence.”
Professor David Veale, Institute of Psychiatry, Kings College London
Hugely approachable, sympathetic, and fun. I'd recommend this book to anyone wanting to improve their self-confidence. Choc-full of brilliant clinical metaphors and creative techniques, it will also be invaluable to any therapist wanting a primer on this fascinating area.”
Sam Cartwright-Hatton, clinical psychologist and NIHR fellow, University of Sussex
This is a wonderful book! Welford has beautifully written a remarkable book that takes us to the heart of building self-confidence through developing self-compassion. This book is based on a robust science of mind that leads directly to sensitive and kind-hearted understanding of how we develop self-critical ways of coping with difficult and stressful life experiences. This book enables you to develop an empathic understanding of the origins of shame and also provides practical skills and techniques in developing a compassionate mind as the basis for self-confidence. This book is a highly accessible and practically useful means of developing and overcoming obstacles to self-compassion.”
Professor Andrew Gumley, University of Glasgow, UK
Mary Welford's book is helpful, informative, and interesting. The book makes you feel very much 'looked after' and the inclusion of personal stories, including her own, gives the reader a sense of not being on their own. The approach is hugely relevant to those wishing to find their compassionate self and build their self-confidence.”
Erica Wakeman, reader
McKay and Fanning recognize the complexity of the human tendency toward self- criticism. Their carefully written, cognitively oriented self-help book wisely avoids simplistic solutions, offering instead a systematic approach to self-eseem development.
—Robert E. Alberti, Ph.D., author of Your Perfect Right
Positive self-esteem is the centerpiece of a healthy personality. McKay and Fanning's new book offers us a valuable storehouse of tactics and strategies for constructing (or renovating) the foundation of our self-esteem.
—Philip G. Zimbardo, Ph.D., author of Shyness
Self-Esteem is truly a very special title. Good writing is especially necessary for self-help titles.... I feel a special enthusiasm in bringing it to the notice of our audience.
—The Midwest Book Review
“The Self-Esteem Workbook is both excellent and practical because it is built on a sound scientific base, offers clear recommendations, and comes from and speaks to the heart.”
—Steven E. Hobfoll, Ph.D., Professor & Director, Applied Psychology Center, Kent State University
“Chock-full of effective and practical strategies for raising self-esteem…helpful for anyone who wishes to end negative thinking and learn to see their true value.”
—Matthew McKay, Ph.D., co-author of best-selling Self-Esteem
“It is impossible to read this book without feeling better about oneself and others. It should be required reading for every living soul.”
—Robert L. Bunnell, M.S., PA-C, marketing coordinator, University of Utah Physician Assistant Program; Executive Director, Utah Academy of Physician Assistants
"This book is excellent. We are already using it in our self-esteem presentations. It's one of the first and finest self-esteem resource guide books that offers in-depth information in a grounded, useful way."
—Jaqueline Miller, Maryland Governor's Task Force on Self-Esteem
“Leads participants on a purposeful journey that can result in a future of better mental health and well-being.”
—Sharlene M. Weiss, Ph.D., Founder & Former Director of Psychosocial Oncology, University of Miami Sylvester Comprehensive Cancer Center; Associate Professor of Medicine, Psychiatry, and Psychology, University of Miami School of Medicine
The Power of Self-Compassion is based on the groundbreaking new compassion-focused therapy (CFT), developed by foreword writer Paul Gilbert. This book helps readers move beyond traditional ideas about self-esteem, and gives them the tools needed to overcome shame, self-criticism, and self-doubt, so that they can build self-confidence and improve the overall quality of their lives.
This classic guide offering proven cognitive techniques for establishing and maintaining sense of self-worth has been revised to include a new chapter on setting and achieving personal goals.
Self-esteem is essential for our survival. Without some measure of self-worth, life can be enormously painful, with many basic needs going unmet.
One of the main factors differentiating humans from other animals is the awareness of self: the ability to form an identity and then attach a value to it. In other words, you have the capacity to define who you are and then decide if you like that identity or not. The problem of self-esteem is this human capacity for judgment. Its one thing to dislike certain colors, noises, shapes, or sensations. But when you reject parts of your self, you greatly damage the psycho logical structures that literally keep you alive. Judging and rejecting your self causes enormous pain.
Since its first publication in 1987, Self-Esteem has become the first choice of therapists and savvy readers looking for a comprehensive, self-care approach to improving self-image, increasing personal power, and defining core values. More than 600,000 copies of this book have helped literally millions of readers feel better about themselves, achieve greater success, and enjoy their lives to the fullest.
You can do it, too!
This companion to Self-Esteem, by Matthew Mckay and Patrick Fanning, is designed with an easy-to-use format and presents a course in self-esteem based on new research. Includes checklists, fill-ins, and exercises that show readers how thoughts, emotions, physica health, and behavior impact their self-esteem. Illustrations.
Every now and then, we all second-guess ourselves. If you have low self-esteem, or are constantly comparing your successes and failures with those of the people around you, it's time to take a step back and re-evaluate how you treat you.
The Self-Esteem Workbook is based on the author's original new research, which has shown that self-esteem can be significantly improved through the use of self-help materials. Now psychologist and health educator Glenn Schiraldi has shaped these tested resources into a comprehensive, self-directed program that guides readers through twenty essential skill-building activities, each focused on developing a crucial component of healthy self-esteem.
This classic is still the most comprehensive guide on the subject and the only book that offers proven techniques for talking back to your self-critical voice. Learn step-by-step techniques to help you:
- Handle your mistakes and respond well to criticism
- Foster compassion for yourself and others
- Set up and achieve goals that will enrich your life
- Use visualization for self-acceptance
If you are ready to stop being hard on yourself, and start showing compassion and understanding, this workbook can help you get started.
About the Author
Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD, has served on the stress management faculties at the Pentagon, the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation, and the University of Maryland, where he received the Outstanding Teaching Award and other teaching/service awards. His books on stress-related topics have been translated into nine foreign languages. Glenn's writing excellence has been recognized by various scholarly and popular sources, including the Washington Post, American Journal of Health Promotion, the Mind/Body Health Review, and the International Stress and Tension Control Society Newsletter.
Glenn's special passion is presenting skills-based resilience training to high-risk groups, such as the military, police, firefighters, and their families. The goal of such training is to optimize mental fitness and performance, while preventing, and facilitating recovery from, stress-related conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder. His resilience courses at the University of Maryland have been found to improve resilience, optimism, self-esteem, happiness, curiosity, depression, anxiety, and anger.