Synopses & Reviews
It’s a hunger never satisfied for some of us: the allure of singles’ bars and strip clubs, party lines and X-rated Internet sites that can show us whatever we want to see. An uncontrollable need for sexual gratification, just like an addiction to alcohol or drugs, can cause serious problems for anyone. If you believe you’re struggling with a serious sexual disorder or just wish you could more easily manage sexual behaviors that interfere with your life, you’ve found, in this book, a real chance to radically transform your life.
This is not a book that makes a lot of black and white, right and wrong judgments about sexual behavior. Despite what you might have heard—or even believe—it is possible to have problems with sexual self-control and still be a good person and a valuable member of your family and community. Without taking a strong moral position on all sexual behaviors, the scientifically-based techniques in this book guide you to making better sexual choices that are in line with your own values. Using the book’s evaluation worksheets, assess the level of your sexual self-control problem. Utilize its exercises to modify the thoughts and behaviors associated with sexual patterns you want to change. Support your goals with relapse prevention techniques that stress self-acceptance. By following the program in this book, privately and whenever you choose, you will learn how to lead a sexually fulfilling life that still promises you security, stability, and peace of mind.
"This is a excellent book. It speaks directly to individuals with sexual addiction problems in a down-to-earth and respectful manner. The easy style does not disguise the fact that sexual addiction problems are serious and damaging both to victims and the individuals themselves. The quality of the psychological knowledge contained in the book is first rate and the book is beautifully written. It is obvious that Sbraga and O'Donohue have total mastery of their subject matter and are compassionate yet challenging therapists. This book would be an ideal adjunct to therapy or a valuable treatment resource for individuals wanting to work on sexual addiction problems on their own. I am sure it will become a classic."
—Tony Ward, Ph.D., clinical director of the School of Psychology, Victoria University of Wellington, New Zealand, and coauthor of Sexual Deviance: Issues and Controversies and Remaking Relapse Prevention with Sex Offenders
Proven strategies to help you regain control of your life.
It's a hunger never satisfied for some of us--the allure of singles' bars, party lines, and Internet sites that can show us whatever we want to see. But the longing for sexual gratification can function like an addiction to drugs or alcohol, masking deeper psychological problems like shame or low self-esteem. A lack of sexual control can lead to heartbreak, disease, and destitution if it is allowed to rage unchecked. This book first helps you assess the degree of your sexual self-control problem. Then it teaches you to set goals and assess the functionality of your life choices. A second section of the book explores cognitive restructuring that can produce positive change, helping you examine you need for immediate or risky gratification. The book addresses relapse prevention in a third section, which also counsels you to be more accepting of yourself and aware of the impact your behaviors have on the ones you love.
Some people use sex to medicate their feelings and to cope with stress much in the same way as others would use alcohol or drugs. Lack of sexual self-control can manifest itself in the form of excessive use of porn sites, phone sex, and strip bars; it can lead to multiple infidelities, risky sexual behavior, bankruptcy, or the loss of a job due to their out-of-control behaviors. Rooted in shame and low self-esteem, these sexual activities afford the sex addict little pleasure and rarely result in intimacy or emotional connection. This book is addressed to anyone with a lack of sexual self-control who feels their behavior is interfering with their relationship, job, and reputation.
Use this book to assess your level of sexual-self control problems. Learn relapse prevention methods and increase motivation and commitment to change. Set goals and assess your daily choices. The second section of the book delves into the cognitive restructuring necessary to produce lasting change, helping you to examine your behaviors, decision-making processes, and cognitive distortions, like the need for immediate gratification or deviant sexual fantasizing. In the third section, youíll learn to deal with the impact of your emotions on your behaviors, With your new set of self-control tools, achieve greater self-acceptance, which can increase your intimacy with your partner and promote greater balance in your life.
Foreword by John Bancroft, MD Director, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction Morrison Hall 313 Indiana University 1165 E, Third Street Bloomington, IN 47405-2501 812 337 8194 (h) 812 855 8277 (w) email@example.com www.kinseyinstitute.org
Written by two clinical psychologists specializing in the treatment of sexual self control, offer the first workbook to use proven CBT strategies to help sex addicts who risk their jobs, intimate relationships, reputations, and even their lives for a quick sexual fix find strategies to help them overcome their addiction.
About the Author
Tamara Penix Sbraga, PhD, is assistant professor of clinical psychology at Central Michigan University. She specializes in the research and treatment of sexual self-control problems. She is a member of the Association for the Advancement of Behavior Therapy, Association for Behavior Analysis, the Society for the Science of Clinical Psychology, and the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers.William T. O'Donohue, PhD, is Nicholas Cummings Professor of Organized Behavioral Healthcare Delivery, adjunct professor of philosophy, and adjunct professor of psychiatry at the University of Nevada, Reno.
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