Synopses & Reviews
Mira Kirshenbaum (I Love You, But I Don't Trust You), an international bestselling author and world-renowned therapist, draws on years of counseling experience to lead readers through relationship ambivalence. A careful line of 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems. This straightforward and practical advice is designed for newer and older relationships, and presents a plethora of information and experience in a clear, concise manner.
How bad does a relationship have to be before getting out is the only answer? In this book, psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of experience as a counselor--and includes actual case studies--to lead readers from a state of painful ambivalence to a clear sense of knowing what to do.
"Brilliant."--Shere Hite, author of The Hite Report
To make up or break up? Whether you're just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try--or you need to go.
Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:
- What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable?
- Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
- What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
- Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?
Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line--what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship--and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.
"A powerful self-help resource for anyone caught in a web of relationship distress... Excellent."--Christopher L. Hayes, author of Our Turn: Women Who Triumph in the Face of Divorce
"Few have written with such common sense and clarity about how to come out of the trap of ambivalence in marriage. I've recommended the book to colleagues and clients."--Cloe Madanes, co-founder, The Family Therapy Institute
The author draws on years of experience as a counselor to lead readers through relationship ambivalence. A careful line of questions and self-analysisis designed to get to the heart of relationship problems.
About the Author
Mira Kirshenbaum is an individual and family psychotherapist in private practice and the clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Massachusetts. She is the author of four books, including the phenomenally successful Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay (available from Plume), and has appeared on many national television shows, including The Today Show, Maury Povich, Geraldo, Sally Jessy Raphael, and an ABC News special with John Stossel. She is married, has two grown children, and lives in Boston, Massachusetts.