Synopses & Reviews
This is a hands-on guide for parents on what their children need from each of them from the moment of divorce through young adulthood from the acknowledged expert on the subject. Large Paperback Audience: Consumers, who include the soon-to-be and just divorced, but also those who have been divorced for years and find that their children still struggle to adjust, will want this book in paperback. Bestselling Author: Judith Wallerstein is the author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, which appeared on The New York Times, San Francisco Chronicle and Denver Post bestseller lists, and has over 150,000 copies in print. Follow up Advice: Every parent who read The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, is a potential buyer for this book. This book will give those parents just the advice they've been clamoring for to ensure their children's future. The Voice of Authority: Like Dr. Spock or T. Berry Brazelton, Wallerstein is the voice of information and experience that every one trusts on the subject of divorce. She has the credentials and experience. In her follow up to her highly successful The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, Judith Wallerstein counsels parents specifically on the needs of the children from the very beginning of a divorce through early adulthood. What About the Kinds? gives specific advice and includes scenarios, alternatives, likely outcomes and surprises. The sections are as follows: 1) The Break Up: This section focuses on the adult in crisis, instructs what to tell the children--words that will be remembered for a lifetime--how to get them right. 2) Parent-to-Parent: How to be good parents while living separate lives. 3) The Post-Divorce Family: Troublesome behavior, morality ontrial, your child's future relationships and much more. 4) Second Marriages: Preparing a child for new relationships--what are the children most afraid of? How to be a step parent; why second marriages succeed or fail. 5) Conversations For a Lifetime: Adult children of divorce and how they relate to their parents--the two way street.
From the co-authors of the bestselling "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce" comes this groundbreaking guide for parents on how to help their children at the time of the breakup and in the many years that follow within the post-divorce and remarried family.
Now in paperback--a groundbreaking guide that tells parents how to help their children at the time of the breakup and in the many years that follow within the post-divorce and remarried family--from the New York Times
bestselling author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce
In the tradition of the best parenting guidebooks comes a new work by the renowned child psychologist Judith Wallerstein on a subject that vexes millions of American moms and dads: How can you genuinely protect your children during and after divorce? Wallerstein answers this important question based on 30 years of in-depth interviews with children of divorce and their parents.
Divorce is not a single event but a lifelong trajectory of changed circumstances that demand a different kind of parenting than we have ever known. In What About the Kids? Wallerstein shows parents how to create a new family with compassion and wisdom. It covers issues that arise at the time of divorce as well as suggestions for talking to your children months and years after the event.
Eminent psychologist Judith S. Wallerstein shares her unique insight and advice in What About the Kids?--the first comprehensive guide to easing the impact of divorce on your children--including:
- The best and worst ages for children to experience their parents' divorce
- Right and wrong ways to explain divorce to your children
- Choosing a custody arrangement that's best for your child
- How to involve the grandparents--a major resource?
- Getting the children on your side when you form new relationships
- The positive effects of divorce on children (believe it or not)
- How divorce can actually make you a better parent
- Raising children who grow up able to form lasting relationships
About the Author
Judith S. Wallerstein is the founder and executive director of the Center for the Family in Transition. She is senior lecturer emerita at the School of Social Welfare at the University of California at Berkeley, where she has taught for twenty-six years. She has spoken with more divorced families than anyone in the nation, and lectured to thousands of family court judges, attorneys, mental health professionals, mediators, and educators. She has appeared on Oprah, the Today show, and Good Morning America, among others. She is the author, with Sandra Blakeslee, of the national bestsellers The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts and Second Chances: Men, Women, and Children a Decade After Divorce; with Blakeslee and Julia M. Lewis of the bestseller The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25-Year Landmark Study; and, with Dr. Joan Berlin Kelly, of Surviving the Breakup: How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce. She lives in Belvedere, California.
Sandra Blakeslee is an award-winning science writer who contributes regularly to the New York Times. She lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico.