Synopses & Reviews
If you could send a letter back through time to your younger self, what would the letter say?< br=""> < br=""> In this moving collection, < b=""> <> forty-one famous women write letters to the women they once were, filled with advice and insights they wish they had had when they were younger. < br=""> < br=""> < i=""> Today<> show correspondent Ann Curry writes to herself as a rookie reporter in her first job, telling herself not to change so much to fit in, urging her young self, & #8220; It is time to be bold about who you really are.& #8221; Country music superstar Lee Ann Womack reflects on the stressed-out year spent recording her first album and encourages her younger self to enjoy the moment, not just the end result. & #8220; Your hair matters far, far less than you think, & #8221; is the wry advice that begins the letter bestselling mystery writer Lisa Scottoline pens to her twenty-year old self. And Maya Angelou, leaving home at seventeen with a newborn baby in her arms, assures herself she< i=""> will<> succeed on her own, even if she does return home every now and then.< br=""> < br=""> These remarkable women are joined by Madeleine Albright, Queen Noor of Jordan, Cokie Roberts, Naomi Wolf, Eileen Fisher, Jane Kaczmarek, Olympia Dukakis, Macy Gray, and many others. Their letters contain rare glimpses into the personal lives of extraordinary women and powerful wisdom that readers will treasure.< br=""> < br=""> Wisdom from < i=""> What I Know Now<> < br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Don& #8217; t let anybody raise you. You& #8217; ve been raised.& #8221; & #8211; Maya Angelou< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Try morethings. Cross more lines.& #8221; & #8211; Breena Clarke< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Learn how to celebrate.& #8221; & #8211; Olympia Dukakis< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; You don& #8217; t have to be afraid of living alone.& #8221; & #8211; Eileen Fisher< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Please yourself first& #8230; everything else follows.& #8221; & #8211; Macy Gray< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Don& #8217; t be so quick to dismiss another human being.& #8221; & #8211; Barbara Boxer< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Work should not be work.& #8221; & #8211; Mary Matalin< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; You can leave the work world& #8212; and come back on your own terms.& #8221; & #8211; Cokie Roberts< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Laundry will wait very patiently.& #8221; & #8211; Nora Roberts< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Your hair matters far, far less than you think& #8221; & #8211; Lisa Scottoline< br=""> < br=""> & #8220; Speak the truth but ride a fast horse.& #8221; & #8211; Kitty Kelley
In this moving collection, forty-one famous women write letters to the women they once were, filled with advice and insights they wish they had had when they were younger. Their letters contain rare glimpses into the personal lives of extraordinary women and powerful wisdom that readers will treasure.
About the Author
ELLYN SPRAGINS is an editor at large for Fortune Small Business. She wrote the “Love and Money” column in the New York Times business section for three years. She first edited five of these letters for an issue of O, The Oprah Magazine. She lives in Pennington, New Jersey, with her family.
Reading Group Guide
1. If you had the chance to send a letter to a younger version of yourself, how would you approach the task? What moment would you choose, and why?
2. If you discovered that an older version of yourself had sent you a letter, what would you expect it to say?
3. In the introduction, Ellyn Spragins explains her motivation for this project as filling part of the gap left by the loss of her own mother. What do you think of the task itself? Did the motivation strike a chord with you? What other reasons can you see for such an undertaking? What benefit is there to the editor of an anthology like this? How is it similar to what the reader or the letter-writer herself gains from the experience? How does it differ?
4. What do you think motivates the advice in the book? Is there any commonality about how the modern-day women see their younger selves?
5. What themes in the book do you find most striking? Is this the type of advice you expected that accomplished women would want to impart to their younger selves?
6. How do the writers use the letters to themselves--i.e., are they trying to change history, improve their lot, show love? What other ways could a letter such as these be used?
7. Many of the letters in the book encourage the younger selves simply to pay attention to instinct-whether passing up a photo shoot that doesnt feel right or backing out of an engagement thats progressing for all the wrong reasons. Is this good advice for all women? Are there any times in your own life when instinct has led you wrong? Any notable times when instinct has saved you from trouble?
8. One theme that ties together many of the letters in What I Know Now is the struggle of busy, successful women to balance work and family. In this book, the women seem to overwhelmingly resolve that focusing on family is a critical priority, and deserves all the attention it can get. Do you think this resolution is consistent in the book only because these are such driven and ambitious women, or is this a universal truth? Reflecting on your own life, do you have any regrets about having chosen life over work or vice versa?
9. Some of the letter writers, such as Jane Kaczmarek and Macy Gray, use the opportunity of the letter to point out to their younger selves the low point of their life or career so far. Others, such as Picabo Street, encourage their younger selves to simply enjoy the highest points. What do you think of this concept of a life lived between peaks and nadirs? Is it possible to see and recognize these points as theyre happening, or only in retrospect?
10. Discuss the trouble the younger selves seem to have enjoying and appreciating life. Do you think giving up some of lifes joy is a necessary compromise for ambitious people, and women in particular? Why or why not?
11. Since the featured women are writing to their younger selves, the letters are necessarily addressed back in time-sometimes by several decades. Do you think any of the advice in the book is outdated or ahead of the time its addressed to? What, if anything, can it teach us about the evolution of womens place in society and the workplace?
12. The authors realization is that all women have something to teach all other women, that we are all mothers to each other, led her to seek out the women in this book. Do you think this concept can be expanded to include all people, not just women? Is there anyone not included in this book, male or female, whose letter you would like to see? What is it about the female experience in particular that is unique and lends itself to this kind of exercise?
In touching, inspiring, and heartfelt letters, more than 40 of the most notable women in modern history reveal wishes for their younger selves. As one might expect, the letters such driven and ambitious women might write to their younger selves include advice to slow down, to have fun, to appreciate life-advice most modern women could use. But in addition, these remarkable letters give us a frank and penetrating insight into who these women were and are, from the floundering actress that is a young Camryn Manheim, to Kitty Kelley on the brink of releasing her controversial book, The Family
, to a fledgling reporter, Ann Curry, as she attempts to shed her uniqueness to fit in with mainstream media. Stay true to yourself. Dont be afraid to spread your wings. Be smart about the risks you take. The wisdom in these letters is hard won, battle proved, and above all, gifted with love.
The questions below are designed to help guide your discussion of the book.