Synopses & Reviews
A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond.In this wise, accessible, and practical book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor Dr. John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love: Where does it come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade?
Famous for his “Love Lab” at the University of Washington and for being profiled in Malcolm Gladwell’s mega-bestseller Blink, Dr. Gottman has spent thirty-five years deciphering the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. Now, he applies his surprising findings to one crucial component: trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple’s loyalty level. The results determine a relationship’s likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. Filled with diagnostic tests, prescriptive advice, and simple exercises, this book shows you how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate betrayal—both sexual and non-sexual—and provides the tools for engaging in constructive conflict and building trust.
With a gift for translating complex scientific ideas into insightful advice, Dr. Gottman has written an essential book that guides couples through an empirically tested, confidence-boosting program. What Makes Love Last? will help you reach new levels of trust to build a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship.
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"In an easy-to-understand format full of anecdotes, imaginary dialogues, and analogies to game theory, Gottman explains lack of trust in a relationship ...
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"Instructional and enlightening..."—Kirkus Reviews
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“In What Makes Love Last? (Simon & Schuster), John Gottman and Nan Silver address a broad spectrum of betrayals beyond bed hopping and backstabbing, from emotional cheating to absenteeism. For couples who are ready to heal (and open to having sex), they offer methods meant to help the brokenhearted and distrustful evaluate the current state of their marriage, pull a damaged relationship out of the fire, and, one hopes, preempt future bad behavior.” < -="" b="" -=""> - Vanity Fair - < -="" -="">
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"In an easy-to-understand format full of anecdotes, imaginary dialogues, and analogies to game theory, Gottman explains lack of trust in a relationship ...
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"Instructional and enlightening..."—Kirkus Reviews
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“In an easy-to-understand format full of anecdotes, imaginary dialogues, and analogies to game theory, Gottman explains lack of trust in a relationship … The practical tools to evaluate current relationships and step-by-step methods for avoiding betrayal, repairing relationships heading toward crisis, or healing a relationship after a crisis will be useful to couples who want to look honestly at healing chronic hurts and improving the state of their relationship, and are ready for a system to help them.”—Publishers Weekly
Synopsis
In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous “Love Lab”: Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.
About the Author
John Gottman, PhD has written numerous academic articles and is the author or coauthor of forty books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His breakthrough research on marriage and parenting that has earned him numerous major awards, including four National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards. Currently a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, Gottman lives on Orcas Island, Washington.