Synopses & Reviews
"This fascinating book shows you how to become more influential and persuasive with every person you meet." —BRIAN TRACY, coauthor, The Power of Charm
"The simple techniques presented in this powerful book give you the tools to express your own authentic self and achieve any dream."—MARCIA WIEDER, CEO and founder, Dream University
"As a person who has devoted his life to communication, I stand in awe of Sharon Sayler's brilliant book, What Your Body Says. It reveals essential truths in a very readable way and anyone who reads it will be able to capitalize upon the enlightenment she offers in better understanding and communicating any kinds of messages." —JAY CONRAD LEVINSON, the Father of Guerrilla Marketing, author, Guerrilla Marketing book series
"What Your Body Says gives you the power to nonverbally express your own authentic and confident self."—LORRIE MORGAN-FERRERO, www.redhotcopy.com
"What Your Body Says is all about integrity—aligning your speech and your actions. Having written two books on integrity, I'm delighted to see such careful attention given to this crucial part of communication."—SHEL HOROWITZ, coauthor, Guerrilla Marketing Goes Green, www.guerrillamarketinggoesgreen.com
"What Your Body Says gives you the tools you need to revolutionize your communication. Knowing what nonverbals support your message is truly a dream come true. Sharon Sayler brings together simple, yet very useful, strategies. This practical book will change the way you view communication."—DAVID RIKLAN, founder, SelfGrowth.com
Synopsis
Train your body to communicate with confidence and clarity-have your body match what your mouth says...
The popular phrase "leading from influence" takes for granted that influence derives chiefly from verbal communication. However, communication is about more than words. To get to the next level in your career, you must communicate with your entire self.
What Your Body Says gives you the straight-up "how-to" on unifying what you say with what you do, allowing you to better connect with other people and reach your full leadership potential. It gives you a clear and simple process to follow, all drawn from an intense study of how language impacts people's lives and emotions. Filled with useful tools, strategies, and techniques, this book gives you the key to
- Speak intelligently while looking smart, engaging and real
- Deliver unpleasant messages without pain or guilt
- Having a committee meeting and getting something done
- And more
Written by Sharon Sayler, a highly accomplished expert in marketing, presentations, and body language, What Your Body Says is the only guide you need to achieve the competitive edge in your personal and business communication style.
Synopsis
Your mouth might be saying one thing in meetings, interviews, presentations, and other high-stakes interactions, but what about the rest of you? When you're trying to get a message across, does your body and attitude reflect your enthusiasm or detract from it? If you want your verbal
and nonverbal signals working together seamlessly for maximum impact,
What Your Body Says gives you the tools to fully master your messages.
Laying out simple methods that are easy to use and remember, this helpful guide offers a proven approach based on the author's years of research and practice. You'll get an array of techniques you can use in a variety of situations, allowing you to communicate with more clarity, inspiration, and influence.
What Your Body Says enables you to:
Become aware of the signals you are sending—intentionally and unintentionally—and their effects
Understand and use gestures to convey intention, relationships, information, influence, and expectations
Understand and use your gestures, eyes, tone of voice, and other nonverbals
Combine the different tools into a new, highly effective communication style
True communication goes beyond words, and great communicators use every tool they have to deliver their message. What Your Body Says will get you to the next level in your business and personal communication style. Apply the concepts in this powerful guide, and the results—stronger relationships, influential leadership, and enthusiastic responses—will start coming in loud and clear!
About the Author
Sharon Sayler is the co-owner and founder of Impression Engineers, an award-winning online marketing and design company. As a Certified Group Dynamics and Behavioral Coach, Sharon trains, counsels, and coaches professionals to become stronger, more influential communicators and leaders. Sharon is an active contributor to SelfGrowth.com and has, for the past two and a half years, written the weekly blogs Best Impressions and Beyond Lip Service.
Visit Sharon online at www.SharonSayler.com and www.ImpressionEngineers.com.
Table of Contents
Foreword (
Michael Grinder).
Foreword (Michael Port).
About the Author.
Acknowledgments.
About This Book.
Introduction.
Understanding the Difference between Power, Intimidation and Influence.
How Influence Equals Opportunity.
Items of Note.
1 The Signals You Are Sending.
Good versus Bad Nonverbals.
2 How the Signals Work.
Intentional Gestures Are a Powerful Tool.
When and How the Gesture Happens.
How Long to Hold the Gesture.
“But Wait, There's More…” Connecting Two Ideas Nonverbally.
How to Disconnect Two Ideas Nonverbally.
3 Gestures of Relationship.
How to Attach Yourself to a Message.
How to Create a Visual Placeholder.
4 Gestures of location.
How to Use Locations.
How to Create a Phantom Location.
How to Assign Negatives to a Location.
How to Avoid Cross-Contaminating Your Message.
5 Gestures That Teach.
Keep the Gesture Simple and Familiar.
Verbal and Nonverbal Congruency.
Do I Always Have to Be Congruent?
6 Gestures of Expectation and Influence.
How to Use Your Posture to Show Your Confidence.
Manage the Behavior—Not the Person.
Proactive versus Reactive.
I Expect You to Wait.
Power Gestures.
How to Confirm Others' Perception of the Experience.
7 The Eyes Have It.
Where Do I Put My Eyes?
What Can I Do With My Eyes?
Eyes and Emotion.
How to Manage with Eye Contact.
Pros and Cons of Little or No Eye Contact.
8 How The Signals Sound —The Voice.
Voice Patterns of What We Do and Who We Are.
How to Use the Credible Voice Pattern.
How to Use the Connection Voice Pattern.
Is Your Voice Sabotaging You?
Addicted to the Verbal Pause.
The Need to Breathe.
9 The Unintentional Nonverbals.
Fidget Reboot Button.
The Nonverbal Outburst.
10 The Fine Print In Your Owner's Manual.
The Trick is to Remain Flexible.
Master the Behavior Game.
11 Putting It All To Work.
Feelings Change Facts.
Emotions Motivate.
How to Communicate a Clear Direction.
Observe to Become Self-Aware.
How Context Controls the Message.
Final Thoughts: Master Your Message—Next Steps.
Cheat Sheets.
Resources and Recommended Reading.
Quick Reference Guides.
Index.