Synopses & Reviews
Who Doesn't Have a Difficult Relative?
"This book will be a huge help for everyone, and especially for the sensitive people found in all extended families. They are the ones most aware of the value of closeness, most diligent in their efforts to bring harmony, and most miserable around their family's not-so-sensitive, intrusive members. Felder helps us see how to have that cherished dream of family togetherness and our personal boundaries, too." --Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person
"I love this book! Once again, Leonard Felder offers us deep awareness and profound help. When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People is practical, clear, and compelling. There is much wisdom here to help you move out of being victimized by your relatives and into your personal power. I especially appreciate the union of psychology and spirituality."--Margaret Paul, Ph.D., author of Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?
The overly critical mother-in-law. The brother who delights in resurrecting childhood rivalries. The uncle who makes insensitive comments at family gatherings. We all have relatives who push our buttons and make us want to explode. When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People provides specific, easy-to-follow advice on tempering the effects of your most toxic relatives--proving that even if you can't change your family members, you can change how you react to them.
The co-author of the best-selling "Making Peace with Your Parents takes on the challenges of dealing with the rest of the family.
When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People
For every holiday, wedding, funeral, or birth of a child, families gather for what are supposed to be times of celebration or remembrance. But often these gatherings create more stress and conflict than joy and connection. When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People speaks to those who look forward to family gatherings but also dream being around certain relatives. The opinionated aging parent, the bigoted uncle, the brother who drinks too much, the cousin who flaunts her money and status--all of these characters appear in the sometimes humorous but always instructive stories throughout this book. Based on years of researching family conflict, Dr. Felder offers practical advice about how to make the most of your heartfelt connections with the family members you love while staying clear of the toxic ones.
Full of specific recommendations for every kind of family situation, from religious disagreements and sibling rivalries to drug, alcohol, and gambling problems, When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People describes with witty, inspiring examples how to identify when to step in and when to step back, how to avoid feeling like a martyr, and how to stay relaxed in situations that once would have made you cringe.
Includes bibliographical references (p. 293-299).
About the Author
Leonard Felder, Ph.D.
, is a licensed psychologist and coauthor of the best-selling Making Peace with Your Parents. As a recognized national expert on improving difficult family situations, his books have sold more than a million copies and have been translated into fourteen languages. Dr. Felder has appeared on Oprah, NBC News, CNN, CBS' The Early Show, A.M. Canada, National Public Radio, and ABC Talkradio. He lives in Los Angeles.