Synopses & Reviews
Based on the largest-ever survey of sexual fantasies, and drawing on the author's twenty-five years of clinical practice, this anatomy of secret desire does for sexual fantasy what Kinsey did for sexual behavior. However, unlike Kinsey's books, which were almost unreadably dense and data-driven, Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head? features narrative accounts of sexual fantasies and the author's own insightful interpretations of how those fantasies affect our lives. Kahr reveals the astonishing truth behind secrecy, shame and taboo, and demonstrates how sex fantasies exert a more powerful influence on our emotions, behavior, and relationships than we ever imagined. Kahr's insights are liberating. He tells us the story of Margaret, who, in mining early sexual abuse for arousing and satisfying sexual fantasies: succeeded brilliantly in turning a childhood trauma into an adult triumph. He explains how he helped a young man who couldn't get turned on by his beautiful girlfriend but only by dominatrix-themed porn, and how numerous men and women used fantasy to become more intimate with their partners-or to be unfaithful or even cruel to them instead. Ultimately, by unmasking the myths and destroying the guilt and ignorance surrounding sexual fantasy, Kahr offers readers a chance to lead richer and less conflicted lives.
This anatomy of secret desire features narrative accounts of sexual fantasies and the authors insightful interpretations. Ultimately, by unmasking the myths and destroying the guilt and ignorance surrounding sexual fantasy, Kahr offers readers a chance to lead richer and less conflicted lives.
In the largest study ever undertaken on sexual fantasy, world-renowned psychotherapist and researcher Brett Kahr reveals the astonishing truths behind secrecy, shame, and taboo in this groundbreaking book based on surveys of 23,000 men and women from eighteen to ninety years of age. The definitive account of what our fantasies tell us about ourselves, Whos Been Sleeping in Your Head? overturns conventional wisdom about sexuality today.
About the Author
is Senior Clinical Research Fellow in Psychotherapy and Mental Health at the Centre for Child Mental Health in London and is a Visiting Clinician and Lecturer at the famed Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology. He is Chair of the Society of Couple Psychoanalytic Psycho therapists. He lives in London.