Synopses & Reviews
Psychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship. This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.
You'll also learn:
- More sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage
- Frequent arguing will not lead to divorce
- Financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship
- Wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years
- There is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it
Dr. Gottman tells you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling— and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.
"There's plenty of old-fashioned, helpful, and worthwhile advice here about gender differences, realistic expectations, love, and respect." ---Kirkus
This fascinating new perspective on marriage—based on original scientific research—shatters conventional wisdom and presents invaluable guidelines on how to steer clear of marital "danger zones."
About the Author
John Gottman, Ph.D., is a New York Times bestselling author and professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. With his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, he is the co-founder and co-director of the Gottman Institute, an organization that offers educational materials, therapists' and couples' workshops, and therapy to couples and families. He has published over 190 papers and is the author or coauthor of over two dozen books, including The Marriage Clinic, The Relationship Cure, and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. John has appeared on television programs including Good Morning America and the The Oprah Winfrey Show and has been profiled in such publications as the New York Times, Glamour, People, and Psychology Today. Educated at Juilliard and having performed with orchestras internationally, Paul Costanzo has brought the sensitivity and nuance of a classical music background to the world of voice acting for over twenty-five years. He was chosen by New York Times bestselling author Catherine Coulter to record titles in her FBI series, and AudioFile magazine has called his narration "Superb."