Synopses & Reviews
Psychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship.
This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.
You'll also learn that more sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage, frequent arguing will not lead to divorce, financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship, wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years and there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it.
Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and—Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.
This fascinating new perspective on marriage--based on original scientific research--shatters conventional wisdom and presents invaluable guidelines on how to steer clear of marital "danger zones".
About the Author
John Gottman, PhD has written numerous academic articles and is the author or coauthor of forty books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His breakthrough research on marriage and parenting that has earned him numerous major awards, including four National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards. Currently a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, Gottman lives on Orcas Island, Washington.
Table of Contents
ONE What Makes Marriage Work?
TWO Marriage Styles: The Good, The Bad, and the Volatile
THREE The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Warning Signs
FOUR Your Private Thoughts Become Cast in Stone
FIVE The Two Marriages: His and Hers
SIX Your Marriage: The Diagnosis
SEVEN The Four Keys to Improving Your Marriage
EIGHT Strengthening the Foundations