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A revolutionary approach to raising girls that combines groundbreaking research with practical parenting advice.
In The Wonder of Girls, as in its predecessor, The Wonder of Boys, Michael Gurian presents radical and enlightening views of parenting. Using as his springboard up-to-date scientific research on female biology, hormones, and brain development and how they shape girls' interests, behavior, and relationships, Gurian offers crucial information for fully understanding girls' basic nature. As such The Wonder of Girls is essential—and riveting—reading for anyone involved in raising daughters.
In a culture caught between traditionalism and feminism, Gurian, himself the father of two girls, debunks long-standing myths about girls and presents a new vision that provides for the equal status of girls and women, yet acknowledges their nature as complex and distinct from men. He explains what is “normal” for girls each year from birth to age twenty; what developmental needs they face in each stage; and how to cope with developmental crises such as early sexuality, eating disorders, parental divorce, and more.
With his scientifically based developmental map of girlhood, Gurian helps parents to get to know their daughters from the inside out. Challenging our culture to embrace this crucial piece of the puzzle, The Wonder of Girls elevates the dialogue on parenthood.
From the author of the bestseller "The Wonder of Boys" comes an innovative approach to raising girls, one that applies the latest research on brain science, biology, and hormones to break down contemporary myths about gifts and girlhood.
This volume's approach applies research on brain science, biology and hormones to break down contemporary myths about girls and girlhood. The author discloses secrets of the female brain and shows how biology, along with socialisation, influences the way girls approach life.
Includes bibliographical references (p. 309-316) and index.
About the Author
Michael Gurian is a marriage and family counselor in private practice, and the New York Times bestselling author of twenty-seven books. Michael cofounded the Gurian Institute, a training and research organization, in 1996 and frequently speaks at and consults with corporations, physicians, hospitals, schools, and other professionals. He has been called “the people’s philosopher” for his ability to combine cutting-edge science with people’s everyday lives.
Table of Contents
Toward a New Logic of Girls' Lives
Why Girls Are the Way They Are
1: BEGINNING OUR SEARCH: A NEW LOGIC OF GIRLS' LIVES
A Moment of Awakening
Looking Beyond Feminism: Old Myths and New Theories
2: HOW HER MIND WORKS: SECRETS OF THE FEMALE BRAIN
Girls and Boys Are Different
A Quick Look at Your Daughter's Brain
The Stages of a Girl's Brain Development
Stage 1: The Child
Stage 2: The Girl
Stage 3: The Adolescent Girl
Stage 4: The Young Woman
The Goal of the Journey
The Intimacy Imperative
The Future of Femininity
3: THE HIDDEN WORLD: THE BIOCHEMISTRY OF GIRLS' LIVES
The Tree of Life: From Mind to Hormones
The Hidden World: A Girl's Hormonal Biology
The Biology of Femininity
The Three-Family System
The New Challenge
What Girls Need
4: THE ARTFUL MOTHER: WHAT GIRLS NEED FROM MOM
A Mother's Love
A Season for Mothering
From Mommy to Mom: Mothering a Daughter
Through Childhood and Adolescence
The Artful Mother in Stage 1: Birth to Five Years Old
The Artful Mother in Stage 2: Six to Ten Years Old
The Artful Mother in Stage 3: Eleven to Fifteen Years Old
The Artful Mother in Stage 4: Sixteen to Twenty Years Old
How to Be an Artful Stepmother
If Your Daughter Were a Parenting Expert...
Looking Back on What Our Mothers Taught Us
5: THE GIFTS OF THE FATHER: WHAT GIRLS NEED FROM DAD
A Father's Love
Gifts of the Father
Helping a Daughter Manage Peer Relationships
Fathers, Daughters, and Divorce
The Stages of "Dad"
6: INNOCENCE AND EXPERIENCE: PROTECTING THE EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT OF OUR GIRLS
Girls and Self-Esteem: A Different View
Protecting Innocence, Guiding Experience
The Malleable Self
Protecting the Bodies of Our Daughters
Harsh Experience: Emotional Crises in Girls' Lives
Emotional Development Touchstones
7: THE HEROINE'S JOURNEY: BUILDING CHARACTER IN OUR DAUGHTERS
The Heroine's Journey
Female Mentors, the Language of the Birds, and the Dance
The Prince Searches for Cinderella
The End of the Story
Looking Forward: The Issue of Women's Roles
8: WOMANISM: GIVING GIRLS A SACRED ROLE IN LIFE
What Is Womanism?
A Sacred Female Role in the New Millennium
APPENDIX: Books and Movies That Help Girls Grow
NOTES AND REFERENCES