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A groundbreaking guide to dealing with difficult bosses by two bestselling experts
In their bestseller Working with You Is Killing Me, Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster taught readers how to free themselves from emotional traps created by difficult colleagues. Now they apply their research and insights to the challenges of toxic bosses. Sooner or later, we all work for someone we can't stand. When that happens, some people quit, some suffer in silence, and others cope by sulking, obsessing, avoiding, or retaliating. But it's better to take control by applying the four-step process in this book:
-- Detect: Am I crazy or is my boss driving me crazy?
-- Detach: Accept that you can't change your boss, but you can take back your power.
-- Depersonalize: Learn to take your supervisor's behavior less personally.
-- Deal: Devise a plan to get what you need, manage your boss, and move your career forward.
Filled with concrete examples, this book will help readers take back their power from even the most challenging bad bosses- chronic critics, yellers, unconscious discriminators, control freaks, pathological liars, and more.
"'It's one thing to have a difficult job. It's another thing to have a boss who makes it difficult for you to succeed,' begin Crowley and Elster (coauthors of Working with You Is Killing Me) in their second exploration of how to deal with dysfunctional workplace relationships. For anyone who struggles with an inept, unsupportive or even hostile manager, the descriptions of bad boss behavior will likely sound familiar, as will the employee's probable pattern of reaction (e.g., self-doubt, avoidance, sulking, ardently wishing for your boss's demise). Crowley and Elster taxonomize offenders into 20 types ('The Chronic Critic,' 'Liar, Liar,' 'The Unconscious Discriminator') and offer practical advice for finding productive ways of coping with each personality through 'detecting, detaching, depersonalizing and dealing.' Because the tactics are fairly similar, the work when read as a whole becomes repetitive; readers are advised to seek out his or her own situation and use the chapter as a self-help exercise rather than wading through advice for every type of bad boss." Publishers Weekly (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
In their bestseller "Working with You Is Killing Me," Crowley and Elster taught readers how to free themselves from emotional traps created by difficult colleagues. Now they apply their research and insights to the challenges of toxic bosses.
The guide for anyone who deals with difficult authority figures at work.
Sooner or later, we all have to work for someone we can't stand-whether it's an inept supervisor, an undermining department head, or an overly demanding client. When that happens, some people quit, some suffer in silence, and others cope by sulking, obsessing, or retaliating.
But you can take charge of this crucial workplace relationship. In this book, Katherine Crowley and Kathi Elster, authors of the bestseller Working for You Is Killing Me, offer concrete examples of bad boss scenarios and a proven four-step program for improving each situation:
•Detect - Identify how this person drives you crazy.
•Detach - Discover concrete actions you can take to reclaim your power.
•Depersonalize - Learn how to take a boss's actions less personally.
•Deal - Devise a plan to get what you need and move your career forward.
About the Author
Katherine Crowley (right) and Kathi Elster (left) are the coauthors of the New York Times bestseller Working with You Is Killing Me and the founders of the consulting firm K Squared Enterprises. Crowley is a Harvardtrained psychotherapist, and Elster is a business strategist. Both are speakers and consultants on workplace relationships.