Synopses & Reviews
In this groundbreaking new look at rape edited by writer and activist Jaclyn Freidman and Full Frontal Feminism
and Hes A Stud, Shes A Slut
author Jessica Valenti, the way we view rape in our culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure. Feminist, political, and activist writers alike will present their ideas for a paradigm shift from the No Means No” modelan approach that while necessary for where we were in 1974, needs an overhaul today.
Yes Means Yes will bring to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently, and ending rape. Yes Means Yes aims to have radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished. With commentary on public sex education, pornography, mass media, Yes Means Yes is a powerful and revolutionary anthology.
"Activists and writers Friedman and Valenti (He's a Stud, She's a Slut) deliver an extraordinary essay compilation focusing on the struggle to stop rape in the U.S. and the importance of sexual identity and ownership. Early on, Thomas MacAulay Millar and Rachel Kramer Bussel explain how the 'no means no' concept (sexual consent equals the absence of no) must be rejected in favor of a 'yes means yes' mentality: the idea that consent means affirmative participation in the act itself, a broader definition that better protects women while encouraging power over-not fear of-personal sexual identity. Other topics include body image and self-esteem issues as well as incest, the dangers faced by female immigrants and the public perception of rape; in 'Trial by Media,' Samhita Mukhopadhyay looks at the Duke Lacrosse rape case and finds the media acting in the tradition of slavery by commodifying the young, female African-American body. Though surprisingly entertaining throughout, with no shortage of wit or humor, unexpected topics (Friedman on enjoying sex, transsexual writer Julia Serano on the mixed cultural messages that lead 'nice guys' to sexual aggression) keep the book dynamic. Sure to empower and inform, this is an important and inspiring read for assault survivors, educators, activists, experts and those on a path to self discovery." Publishers Weekly (Starred Review) (Copyright Reed Business Information, Inc.)
"Of all the arguments out there that propose how to end rape, embracing womens sexual pleasure may not sound like a likely solution. But Yes Means Yes
argues otherwise. By investigating the myriad ways the sexual choices of women can take shape, this anthology argues, not only should women know what they dont want, but they also should seize their freedom to explore what they do want. By challenging blanket claims, like that all males are sexual aggressors, and taking the shame away from females who are bona fide sexual submissives, Yes Means Yes
says the conscious decisions we make about sex in its many forms are the best medicine for the illness that is rape culture."
"Utopian novels have grappled with the idea of a world without rape, but what would the path to that world look like? The controversial essays that make up Yes Means Yes! light the way along this very rough road and, not surprisingly, offer no easy solutions…The authors in this collection speak with authority and, unfortunately for some, from personal experience."
In this groundbreaking work--edited by writer and activist Friedman and "Full Frontal Feminism" author Valenti--the way society views rape in this culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure.
Read exclusive essays by Jessica Valenti from 2009