Synopses & Reviews
Ever wonder how the great flirts do it? How they manage to attract a man's attention, even in the distracting setting of a crowded bar? And then, once they've got it, how they keep him focused? The people standing behind the bar watch this game play out night after night. Now, two of the best in the business, Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas, are ready to spill all the secrets of the hookup game. In this groundbreaking book, they tell women everything they need to know to pick up men (the
right men).
A good bartender doesn't just know how to mix drinks -- he knows how to read people, too. Dushan and Jason have witnessed every kind of hookup (and screwup) you can imagine. They know who is going to send over a drink before he even thinks of it. They can tell if a man's a bully, a loser, or gay as soon as he walks in the door. Most of all, they know what women have to do to make guys want to get their number.
Drawing on their own observations as well as surveys of their patrons, Dushan and Jason show women what men are really thinking and how to use that information to their advantage. They provide step-by-step advice on everything from how to approach a guy to how to tell if he's worth it, and how to make an exit if he's not.
Filled with street smarts, bar lore, and, of course, delicious cocktail recipes, You Didn't Hear It from Us is ultimately about more than dating -- it's about learning how to present the best parts of yourself, thus making the world your martini glass.
Review
"You Didn't Hear It from Us is a cool, refreshing dating book with a twist. Bartenders really do see it all when it comes to dating, and Dushan and Jason are willing to share the inside scoop -- everything that a guy is thinking when he meets you but he won't tell you! (And you'll learn to make a mean martini, too.)" -- Nancy Slotnick, Love Coach of Cablight.com and author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less
Review
"A fun, witty, and refreshingly honest read about the never-ending battle of the sexes, allowing female readers to spy on the opposition. I recommend it over a Long Island Iced Tea!" -- Sherry Argov, author of the New York Times bestseller Why Men Marry Bitches
Synopsis
Two legendary bartenders tell women what their girlfriends can't and what their brothers, fathers, and shrinks won't: the truth about men, making an impression, and getting what they want most of life.
About the Author
Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas have almost thirty years of bartending experience between them. They are the owners of Employees Only, the hottest classic cocktail bar in Manhattan's West Village, and the founders of C
Table of Contents
Contents
Introduction
TRUTH ONE
You Can Use Your Insecurity to Your Advantage
TRUTH TWO
Honesty with Yourself Is the Only Policy
TRUTH THREE
Typecast Yourself First and No One Else Can
TRUTH FOUR
You Have to Know What You Want in Order to Get It
TRUTH FIVE
A Wingman Can Be Your Best Accessory
TRUTH SIX
Dressing for Success Doesn't Mean Dressing in Less
TRUTH SEVEN
Your Destination Informs Your Destiny
TRUTH EIGHT
They're Called "Dream" Men for a Reason
TRUTH NINE
Being Fluent in Body Language Can Ease Your Journey
TRUTH TEN
Mama Was Right: Manners Matter
TRUTH ELEVEN
Listen Up -- to Yourself
TRUTH TWELVE
To Err Is Human, to Flirt Divine
TRUTH THIRTEEN
Some Signs Point to Go!
TRUTH FOURTEEN
It's Never Bad to Call It a Night
TRUTH FIFTEEN
A Man Can Say "No" Without Saying a Word
TRUTH SIXTEEN
You Don't Need a Home Run to Win the Game
TRUTH SEVENTEEN
You Are the Mistress of the Bar and All You Survey
Acknowledgments