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Praise for You've Got to be kidding!
"Nan DeMars defines the new integrity in our time. Media coverage of 'corporate' greed and irresponsibility in the midst of a global economic crisis that personally impacted so many people will result in new law, new regulation, and new accountability for everyone in the workplace. Nan takes us all there now and prepares us for who we must be, as corporate employees (at all levels of responsibility), if we are to repair and enhance the corporate reputations of tomorrow."
—Scott B. Baucum, Global Ethics Director, Monsanto
"For many years, I have enjoyed watching Nan DeMars fine-tune the workplace ethics issue so that employees no longer have to take the blame for things their bosses asked them to do or be reprimanded for doing the ethical and right thing! You've Got to Be Kidding! transforms how employers and employees view their responsibilities today—to the benefit of all."
—United States Vice President Walter Mondale
"Little exists to prepare employees today for the exercise of moral courage. Nan DeMars sets about remedying this discrepancy, engaging readers with thought-provoking examples from the business world. You've Got to Be Kidding! leads a discussion that forms the basis of ethical decision-making and, thereby, encourages readers to practice for the exercise of moral courage before they find themselves in the type of situation where it is required."
—Colleen Rowley, 2003 Time Magazine Woman of the Year, attorney-at-law, former FBI agent and whistleblower
"Nan DeMars is internationally known for her take on personal and professional ethics. She takes the nebulous world of ethics and brings it down to a level you can not only understand but also relate to. She provides you with guidelines on how to respond when you find yourself in an awkward and often potentially damaging situation so that you can maintain integrity and still keep your job, your credibility, and your optimism (much less keep you out of court, hot water, and harm's way)."
—Susan Fenner, PhD, Education/Professional Development Manager, International Association of Administrative Professionals
What to do when you're caught in the middle of an ethical dilemma at work
In today's super-stressed workplace, an ethical dilemma can come at you when you least expect it. Here's how to do the right thing without losing your integrity?or your job. You've GOT To Be Kidding will help you create an ethics-based workplace that's a joy to work in. This isn't the usual top-down, executive-only manual, but an approach to workplace ethics that's as relevant and accessible to employees as it is to managers and executives. From renowned workplace educator and author of You Want Me To Do What?, this book is filled with recognizable examples ripped from today's headlines that put ethical principles in concrete terms.
- Filled with recognizable examples that put ethical principles in concrete terms
- Covers such topics as topics as loyalty, confidentiality, security, office romance, harassment, social networking at work, harassment, workplace bullying, lying for your boss, and even Internet mischief
- A practical manual for assessing, discussing, and resolving ethical dilemmas in the workplace
With employees at all levels being held more accountable than ever before, You've GOT To Be Kidding gives businesses of all types and sizes a winning set of principles and practices to do business at the highest ethical level and serves as a guide for anyone who wants to do the right thing without losing their integrity or their job.
Have you ever found yourself with only two horrific choices: Resign your job, or resign yourself to "living a lie" at work as a person with conflicted ethical standards? Ethical dilemmas come on a daily basis, and they cause too much stress.
The best companies to work for–and the companies that are the most profitable–have a distinct ethical culture. These companies have a strategic competitive advantage. But this does not come easily. As an employee today, you cannot pretend your decisions about right and wrong do not matter. You can no longer say, "I did it to keep my job." We are all the new "corporate conscience keepers."
Say good-bye to the stress of an unethical workplace! Here is your guidebook to building an Ethical Office, where you manage your work life so that it is aligned with your authentic morals and ethics. Packed with real-world examples and advice from experienced peers, you will learn how to:
Extinguish harassment, gossip, and lies
Balance loyalty to your boss versus company loyalty
Steer your career with Nan's Ethical Priority Compass
Be smart about handling cupid's arrows in the workplace
Think before you blow the whistle
Deal with "ethically challenged" vendors
Participate in events without hangovers or regrets
Build a culture of confidentiality
Keep your boss (and others) ethical with Nan's 12-Step Program
Recover from a mistake that leaves you embarrassed and ashamed
In You've Got to Be Kidding!, ethics expert Nan DeMars presents her easy, step-by-step techniques for dealing with ethical dilemmas. This handbook picks up where the law leaves off and offers detailed guidance on virtually every workplace ethics issue. Both you and your company are tested by ethical dilemmas, and your choices frame who you are and what you stand for. You've Got to Be Kidding! prepares you for these tests and helps you build a more ethical office that reinforces your natural desire to do the right thing.
About the Author
Nan DeMars is an internationally recognized office ethics keynote speaker, seminar leader, author, and columnist. She is President of Executary Services, a consulting firm providing workplace ethics training and C-Suite assistant search. Her office ethics columns for OfficePro magazine are its most read feature. She has also served as international president of the International Association of Administrative Professionals (IAAP), for which she authored its first-ever Code of Ethics.
Table of Contents
Introduction Why Do We Care about Ethics in the Workplace?: Are We Really That Vulnerable? More than Ever Today!
PART I: Take Care of Yourself.
1 When Morals Become Ethics: Your Beliefs Become Your Behaviors.
2 The Age of Accountability: The "My Boss Told Me to Do It" Defense Is No Defense!
3 The Twin Faces of Loyalty: The "New Loyalty" at Work Is a Two-Way Street.
4 True Myths? It Depends!: Let's See Things as They Really Are—Not as WeWant Them to Be!
5 Mea Culpa—I Screwed Up!: How to Recover from a Major Goof-Up!
PART II: Take Care of Your Organization.
6 Zip It!: A Culture of Confidentiality Is Your Goal!
7 Security Is Your Problem (Like It or Not)!: You Are the Gatekeeper of Company Assets.
8 Gossip Over the Cubicle Fence: Gossip Can Tear Apart the Ethical Office.
9 Cupid in the Cubicle: Dangers of the "Triple R".
10 Party Up—or Party Down?: The Worst Hangover May Come with a Lawsuit!
11 Trick or Treat: Vendors Can Be Tricksters, and They Wear Many Masks.
12 Copyright or Copy Wrong?: There Are Boundaries around Intellectual Property.
13 To Blow or Not to Blow: If You Blow the Whistle, Blow Wisely!!
PART III: Take Care of Your Supervisor.
14 The Trouble with the Boss—Is the Boss!
15 The Dog Ate My Laptop: Lies, Lies—and More Lies!
16 The XXX Files: The Workplace Is No Place for Porn!
17 Abuse in the Workplace: If It Hurts, It's Abuse—and If It Happens More than Once, It's Harassment!
PART IV: You Can Keep Your Integrity and Your Job.
18 Raises, Not Roses!: Today’s Professional Assistant Has New Respect!
19 The Ethics of Job Hunting: How to Look for a Job While on the Job!
20 Start Talking!: Everyone Chooses the Ethics of Their Office—Not Just Upper Management and Obvious Victims.
21 Doing the Right Thing Never Looked So Right!: At the End of the Day, You Go Home with Yourself!
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