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How to Be: Contemporary Etiquette for African Americans

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Etiquette is more than knowing which fork to use. Good manners are the rules that let us find our way in today's rapidly changing maze of lifestyles, customs and relationships. And anyone who doesn't know these rules is living and working at a real disadvantage.

Traditionally in the African-American community, practical instruction in the fundamental dos and don'ts of everyday living — manners and etiquette — was given by the extended family in a process called "home training." Today, though, when both parents usually have to work, and the extended family — grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins — is often scattered across the country, it has become very difficult for our children to receive the guidance they need. The result: Many African Americans are growing tap without a clear understanding of how to be, how to behave with others. You may ask: Who can afford the time to worry about etiquette nowadays? The only right response to that question is: Who can afford not to worry? The simple fact is that it doesn't matter how smart or educated or even how rich you are — bad manners will hold you back.

How to Be treats manners as a resource for the empowerment of people of African descent. Needless to say, good manners are not Black, white, brown or any other color of the rainbow, but one's race and culture do affect the content of what are called good manners. And so How to Be offers guidance drawn from the tried-and-true experience and wisdom of our African-American elders as well as from European mainstream traditions. Here you'll find authoritative answers to all your questions about family; the new codes of dating, love and sex; entertaining any number of guests from one to one thousand; workplace issues; and travel. Also, you'll find all the information you need to deal successfully with every one of the familiar riles of passage, from weddings to funerals and from Kwanzaa to Christmas, including religious ceremonies of all kinds; and you'll find proper forms of address and everything you need to know to write appropriate notes or letters for every occasion. In short, How to Be is a treasure trove of advice about the manners you need to succeed.

Fashion and lifestyle editor, author, media-trainer and workshop leader, Harriette Cole has spent her whole life and career preparing to write How to Be. It is a unique work, a guide to real manners for real people in a changing world.


Includes bibliographical references (p. 503-504) and index.

About the Author

Harriette Cole is the author of Jumping the Broom: The African-American Wedding Planner and Jumping the Broom Wedding Workbook. Harriette spent eleven years at Essence magazine, working as both fashion and lifestyle editor during her years there. In 1995, she founded profundities, inc., an image development and production company through which she offers media and presentation training as well as fashion styling. Harriette serves as national spokesperson for L'eggs Products, frequently conducts both fashion and female-empowerment workshops across the country, and has recently launched THE HARRIETTE COLE COLLECTION, a line of culturally inspired stationery and gift items. She is a graduate of Howard University and a member of many organizations, including Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. She lives in Harlem in New York City with her husband, George Chinsee, a fashion photographer.

Table of Contents



Codes of Conduct
Your Spiritual Life
We Are Family
To Be Young
The Dance of Dating
Mirror, Mirror
What You Say?
Beyond Your Doorstep
When You Travel
Breaking Bread
Gifting and Giving Thanks
On the Job
The Almighty Dollar
Political Is Correct

Selected Bibliography
The Creative Team

Product Details

A Guide to Contemporary Living for African Americans
Cole, Harriette
Simon & Schuster
New York, NY :
United states
African American Studies - Lifestyle
African Americans
United States Race relations.
Ethnic Studies - African American Studies - Lifest
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Includes bibliographical references and index.
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9.25 x 6.125 in 27.840 oz

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