Synopses & Reviews
THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO MANNERS, REVISED AND UPDATED TO ACCOMODATE TODAY'S HIGH-SPEED LIFESTYLES, SHIFTING VALUES, AND EVER-EVOLVING DEFINITION OF FAMILY. andlt;BRandgt; Letitia Baldrige is universally recognized as the country's leading authority on executive, domestic, and social manners. She began writing on manners and protocol during her diplomatic service in 1949, and she has been hailed on the cover of andlt;Iandgt;Timeandlt;/Iandgt; magazine as "America's leading arbiter of manners." Originally published in 1989, her andlt;Iandgt;Complete Guide to New Mannersandlt;/Iandgt; has now been thoroughly revised and updated to incorporate the changing social conventions and enormous technological advances of the past fifteen years. andlt;BRandgt; Baldrige was the first etiquette writer to advise extensively on the subject of manners in the workplace. With her legendary background in both the government and business worlds, she remains the prime authority on the integration of goals that often seem at odds with one another -- namely, family, work, and pleasure. Baldrige provides fresh guidelines on etiquette at work and in every form of communication, from letters to emails to cell phone calls. andlt;BRandgt; She also updates the way we approach the traditional rites of passage -- weddings, funerals, religious ceremonies, gatherings large and small. Here are authoritative answers to the etiquette questions and issues involved in nontraditional family relationships -- stepfamilies, adult children returning home, elderly parents moving in, gays and lesbians in the family, dating for the newly single, and the myriad complications that spring from divorce. andlt;BRandgt; Through it all, Baldrige does not forget the essence of manners: they are an expression of love and care, and they are under our control. andlt;Iandgt;New Manners for New Timesandlt;/Iandgt; is a comprehensive encyclopedia that will lead readers confidently and correctly through the maze of lifestyles, customs, business, and ways of relating to others in this new, complex millennium. But it is, above all, a very personal statement.
Synopsis
From the bestselling brand name in etiquette comes the essential guide to new manners, revised to accommodate our new world--high-speed lifestyles, non-traditional families, and constant change--but to keep it civilized. Letitia Baldrige is universally recognized as the country's leading authority on executive, domestic, and social manners. She has been hailed on the cover of Time as "America's leading arbiter of manners." Originally published in 1989, her Complete Guide to New Manners has now been thoroughly revised and updated to incorporate the changing social conventions and enormous technological advances of the past fifteen years. Baldrige is an expert on integrating goals that often seem at odds with one another--namely, family, work, and pleasure. Here are authoritative answers to the etiquette questions and issues involved in non-traditional family relationships--stepfamilies, adult children returning home, elderly parents moving in, gay parents, child visitation problems and other complications of divorce. Baldrige also includes important information on how to handle the traditional rites and passages of life--weddings, funerals, religious ceremonies, gatherings large and small--in line with current thinking. And she provides up-to-date guidelines on etiquette at work, and every form of communication, from letters to emails to cell phones. In all, this new volume is a comprehensive encyclopedia that will lead readers confidently and correctly through the maze of lifestyles, customs, business, and ways of relating to others in this new, complex millennium.
About the Author
andlt;Bandgt;Letitia Baldrige,andlt;/Bandgt; a world-famous expert on manners, has written nineteen books, including her bestselling andlt;Iandgt;New Complete Guide to Executive Manners.andlt;/Iandgt; She served as social secretary at the U.S. embassies in Paris and Rome and was chief of staff for Jacqueline Kennedy in the White House. She has run her own company, Letitia Baldrige Enterprises, since 1964. Baldrige and her family live in Washington, D.C.
Table of Contents
andlt;Bandgt;Contentsandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Acknowledgmentsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Manners from the Heartandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART 1: EVERYDAY RELATIONSHIPS FOR OUR TIMESandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 1: Family Mannersandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Family, Idealistically Speakingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Manners with Those Close to Youandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Courtesies That Hold Your Nuclear Family Togetherandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;With Your Mateandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;With Your Mother- and Father-in-Lawandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;With Your Son and Daughter-in-Law or Daughter and Son-in-Lawandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Roommate Etiquetteandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The New Family Formation: Adults (Hopefully) Living Together Harmoniouslyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;An Adult Child Returns to the Nestandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Parent Lives with Youandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Family Forumandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;You Are Single but Still Part of a Familyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Fighting the Good Fight Against Lonelinessandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Making Friends of your Familyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Reasons to Be Glad You Are Singleandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You Want to Stop Being Singleandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Opportunities for Meeting People Are Endlessandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Complete Turnoff Questions Never to Ask a Single Personandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You Want to Play Matchmakerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Gay and Lesbian Couples -- They Are Families, Tooandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Good Manners Toward Gays and Lesbiansandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Gay Couple Adopts a Childandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Keepers of Your House -- They Are Family, Tooandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Working with Non-English-Speaking Employeesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Before You Employ Someone in Your Homeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Special Recommendations for Your Sitter and Child Caregiverandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Special Training for Workers in Grand Housesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What Should Your Domestic Staff Call You and What Should You Call Them?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The "Character Factor"andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You're Using a Caterer for Your Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 2: The Manners That Make Children Greatandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How a Child Learns to Distinguish Between Right and Wrongandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Example of Her Parentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Moral Lessons a Small Child Gleans from Parents Through Reading and Conversationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Your Child Is Curious About a Disabled Person He Sees in Publicandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Help That Religious Faith Can Giveandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Basic Behavior Rules Your Child of Ten or Older Should Knowandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Basicsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Teenagers Need a Few More Rulesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Twenty-two Common Teenage Examples of a Family's Bad Manners and Oversightsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Household Telephone Rulesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Few Dating Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Making the Rules Easier to Takeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What's a Piece of Furniture?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Your Role in Your Children's Relationshipsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;With Siblingsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Addressing Adultsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Parents Speak to Their Children About Sexandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Mother Speaks to Her Daughterandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Father Speaks to His Sonandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The E-mailing Kids' Generationandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Guarding Your Child Against the Perils of Drugs and Alcoholandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;pardandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Drugs and the Vulnerable Teenagerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Kinds of Drugs Around Usandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Teaching Your Young Child About Alcoholandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Teenage Drinkingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Where to Get Helpandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When Your Children Become Adults: Keep Your Family Togetherandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Nice Ways to Treat Other Family Membersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Everyday Manners Out in the Worldandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 3: Making Friends in a Busy Worldandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The First Step: Meeting People Who May Become Friendsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Become Creative About How You Use Your Leisure Timeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Solidifying a New Friendshipandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Manners and Friendship in the Great Outdoorsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sportsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Making Friends at Workandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Widening Your Horizons Through Volunteer Workandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Choosing a Volunteer Activityandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Way to Get on a Nonprofit Agency Boardandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If Your Volunteer Motives Are Partly Socialandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Words to Use at Difficult Timesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Growing Older with Graceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Middle-Aged Years Should Be and Can Be the Best of Timesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Some Options for Improving the Mindandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Some Options for Improving the Bodyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Some Options for Improving the Heartandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Leave Your Real Legacy Behind Youandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 4: Working Smartandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Commonsense Polite Business Behavior: Good to Know!andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You're New in the Officeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What to Say When You Are Belittled at Workandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;To Be a Well-Liked, Successful Executiveandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Some ABCs of Executive Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Traveling with the Bossandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Meeting Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Receiving a Visitor to Your Officeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Corporate Jet Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If a Member of Senior Management Diesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Corporate Responsibility When Serving Alcoholandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Have to Let Someone Go for Economic Reasonsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Are the One Let Goandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Finding a Job in an Unsympathetic Environmentandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Hunting for a New Jobandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;While You are Still Employedandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Infant Feeding and Breast-Feeding in the Officeandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Tasty Tidbits of Etiquette (for Your Business or Social Life)andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 5: The Manners That Make Travel Easierandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Ensuring a Pleasurable Tripandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Having a Good Time with a Traveling Companionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You're Taking a Planeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Hotel Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Bandamp;B Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Going on a Cruise?andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How to Have a Happy Cruiseandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Remember Your Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Cruise Attireandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Cruise Tippingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Women and Travelandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Men and Women Traveling Together on Businessandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Woman Traveling Aloneandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Some Practical Adviceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Dealing with a Travel Agentandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Wise Move for the Overseas Travelerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 6: The Art of Tippingandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;General Guidelines on Tippingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;At Restaurantsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Valet Parking and Limousine Serviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You're Taking a Taxiandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Are Staying in a Hotelandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You're a Weekend Guest in a Home with a Domestic Staffandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You're at the Hairdresserandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Are in a Railroad Club Carandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tip the Fast-Food Delivererandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Holiday Tippingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tipping the People Who Serve You in Your Homeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Holiday Tipping in Your Staffed Apartment Houseandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Have Your Car in a Private Garageandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Are in a Foreign Countryandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 7: Dressing Appropriatelyandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Propriety and Appropriatenessandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;At Church or Templeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Right Thing to Wear -- Womenandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to a Cocktail Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to a Black Tie Affairandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to a White Tie Affairandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to Someone's Private Clubandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Women at Their Officesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Right Thing to Wear -- Menandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sandal Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Men's Fashion Disastersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Tiesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Jewelryandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to a Black Tie Affairandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What You Wear to a White Tie Affairandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Final Word of Adviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 8: Common Courtesiesandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Common Courtesies Appropriate When You Are Out and Aboutandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;On the Street as Pedestrian or Driverandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;On Public Transportationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;At Movies and in the Theaterandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;In the Supermarketandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;At the Beach or Campingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;At a Poolandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Magical Game Called Golfandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Courtesies to Observe with Those You Encounter During Your Dayandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Manners with the Expert Professionals Who Serve Youandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Manners with Waitersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Manners with Tradespeople and Salespeopleandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Manners with Strangers Encountered Along the Wayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 9: Table Manners That Take You Anywhere: andlt;Iandgt;The Right Thing to Do at Every Kind of Meal -- or, How to Avoid Being a Klutzandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Table Manner Basicsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Body Language at Tableandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;General Rules on Conduct at Tableandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Dilemmas at Mealtimeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Mealtime Decorumandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Saying Graceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Do You Start Eating?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Serving Yourself from a Platterandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Taking Modest Portionsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tasting Other People's Foodandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Diets, Diets, Dietsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You Spill at Tableandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Using Your Flatware Properlyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Napkin Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Finger Bowlsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How to Handle Different -- and Sometimes Difficult -- Foodsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Hors d'Oeuvresandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Breads and Pastriesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Relish Trayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Appetizersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Meatandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Fishandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Lobsterandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Pastaandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Vegetables That Are Difficult to Eatandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Saladandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Fresh Fruit Served at the End of a Mealandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Informal Foodsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART TWO: ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS ABOUT MANNERS YOU THOUGHT THAT NO ONE HAD TO ASK ANYMOREandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 10: New Manners for an Ever-Changing Societyandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Dating Todayandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Asking the Person for the Dateandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Dating Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Who Pays for Whatandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You're Miserable on the Dateandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Give Blind Dates a Chance!andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Sex -- Good, Bad, and Indifferentandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What Do Manners, Compassion, and Character Have to Do with It?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When the Answer Is Yesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When the Answer Is Noandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Woman Is Afraid to Be Alone at Home with a Manandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Bringing Up the Subject of Condomsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Safe Sex and Multiple Partnersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Homosexual Relationshipandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What to Tell the Mate of Someone Who's Playing Aroundandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Pleasures and Pitfalls of the Office Romanceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Sex and Sexism in the Officeandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Watch Your Languageandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Sex Can Create Problems for a Woman Traveling Alone on Businessandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sexual Harassment Is Not Just Against Womenandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Cohabitation Mannersandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Making a Commitment Even Though You Decide Not to Marryandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Romance Is Overandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART THREE: THE RIGHTS OF PASSAGEandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 11: You're Engaged!andlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Telling the World Your Good Newsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Announcing Your Engagement Is Not Necessaryandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Newspaper Announcement of the Engagementandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Engagement Ringandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Celebrating the Engagementandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Engagement Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Engagement Presentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Showers: Feting the Bride-to-Beandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Asking Someone to Marry Youandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Woman Does the Proposingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Your Answer Is "No"andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 12: Weddingsandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Architecture of a Beautiful First Weddingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Homosexual Community's Wedding and Commitment Ceremoniesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Acknowledgments for Commitment Gifts or Baby Presents If the Couple Adopts a Baby andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Your Wedding Invitationsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Who Receives Your Invitations?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Various Ways of Inviting Guests to the Weddingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Formal Traditional Wedding Invitationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Addressing and Mailing the Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Correct Wording on Wedding Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Etiquette of Names on Wedding Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Separate Reception Invitation Cardandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Ceremony Cardandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Soliciting a Reply to an Invitationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;"At Home" Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Pew Cardandlt;BRandgt;Admission Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Other Enclosures, Such as Maps and Special Parking Instructionsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Wedding Announcementsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Announcement Textandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How Much Will It Cost and Who Will Pay?andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;First, the Budgetandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Paying for Itandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Planning for a Perfect Wedding Dayandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Choosing the Time for the Religious Ceremonyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Choosing the Place for the Wedding Serviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Options That Make for a Happy Dayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Keep Track of Important Details with a Wedding Plannerandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Invitation Listandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Wedding Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Wedding Ceremonyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Reception Planner for a Large Weddingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Transportation Arrangementsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Working with the Catererandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Food at the Receptionandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Planning the Menuandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Presentation Is Importantandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Wedding Cakeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Flowersandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Bridesmaids' Bouquetsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Boutonnieresandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Photography Requirementsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Bride's Portraitandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Candid Photographerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Musicandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Transportationandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Wedding Attendantsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Bride's Attendantsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Groom's Attendantsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Rehearsalandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Rehearsal Dinnerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Wedding Day Arrives!andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Getting to the Churchandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Meanwhile, Inside the Churchandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Seating in the Front Pew on the Bride's Sideandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Wedding Serviceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Music for the Ceremonyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Service Is About to Beginandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Processional Beginsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Role of the Bride's Attendantsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Variations on Who Acts as the Father of the Brideandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Giving the Bride Awayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Weddingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Ring Is Placed on the Fingerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Recitation of the Vowsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Kissandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Recessionalandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;A Double Wedding Ceremonyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Pregnant Brideandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;A Small or Big Wedding at Homeandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tenting Your Yard or Gardenandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Receptionandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When the Wedding and Reception Place Are Combinedandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Guest Bookandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Receiving Lineandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Seating the Tables at the Receptionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wedding Toastsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Bride's First Danceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Weddings in the Jewish Traditionandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Preparation for the Wedding Dayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The andlt;Iandgt;Chuppaandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Processionalandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Ceremonyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Recessionalandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Receptionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Interfaith Marriagesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Ecumenical Wedding Serviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Another Option: Two Ceremoniesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Wedding Apparelandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Bridal Attendants' Dressesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Apparel of the Groomsmenandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How the Guests Should Dressandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Wedding Ringandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Announcement in the Newspaperandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Last-Minute Wedding Disastersandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Giftsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wedding Gift Record Bookandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Exchange of Gifts Within the Wedding Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Gifts from Family and Friends to the Bride and Groomandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Bridal Registryandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Gift of Moneyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Returning and Exchanging Giftsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Thank-you Notesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Postponing the Weddingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Calling Off the Weddingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Prenuptial Agreementsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Marry More Than Onceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Who Does the Inviting?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Changes in the Ritualandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How the Bride Dressesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Ceremonyandlt;BRandgt;Parties and the Second Weddingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Gifts the Second Time Aroundandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Stepchildren, Stepparents, and Grandparentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 13: Pregnancy, Birth, and Other Rites of Passage That Welcome a Child into the Worldandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Happiest Event of All: The Birth of a Babyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Polite Pregnancy at Workandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Returning to Work After the Baby Is Bornandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Nursing the Babyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Birth Announcementandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How to React to a Birth Announcementandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Extending Congratulations for the New Babyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Presents for the Parentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Presents for the Babyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Studio Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Letters of Congratulationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Traditional Christian Ceremonies Marking the Child's andlt;BRandgt;Arrival and Maturationandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Christeningandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;First Communionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Confirmation in the Protestant and Catholic Faithsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Traditional Jewish Ceremonies Marking the Child's Arrival and Maturationandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Brith Milahandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Bar and Bat Mitzvahandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Confirmationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Special Birthdays for Girlsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Quinceaand#241;eraandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sweet Sixteen Partiesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Debutantesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 14: The Last Rite of Passage: Funeralsandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Taking Charge of the Arrangementsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Preparing the Obituaryandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Proprieties in Connection with a Funeralandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What Do You Say?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sending Flowersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Attire for Funeralsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Ceremonies for or Honoring the Deceasedandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Viewing or Wakeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Christian Funeral Serviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Cremationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Jewish Servicesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Memorial Serviceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;After the Funeral or Memorialandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Survivor Writes a Thank-Youandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Showing Continuing Supportandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART FOUR: THE ART OF ENTERTAININGandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 15: Entertaining Today's Wayandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How Entertaining Brings Friends into Your Lifeandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;pardandlt;Iandgt;The Kinds of Entertaining People Loveandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Extending Invitationsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Far Ahead Do You Extend an Invitation?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Save-the-Date Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Parts of a Formal Invitationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Who Does the Inviting?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Language of Invitations ("Invitationese")andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Reminder Cardsandlt;BRandgt;Kinds of Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Requesting a Replyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;"No Gifts" on Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;An Invitation from the White Houseandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Reply to an Invitationandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sending a Formal Written Replyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Get Yourself Organizedandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Basics of Good Entertaining Planningandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Working with the Catererandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sample Party Plans -- A Potluck Mealandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Sample Plans for a Small Dinnerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Logistics of Planning a Large Dinnerandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Cocktail Partyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Social Aspects of Alcoholandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Many Bars, How Much Help, and What Supplies Are Neededandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Cocktail Buffetandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Cocktail Party Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;An Invitation to Teaandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Making an Effort: Set an Attractive Tableandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Role of Linens in Table Settingsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Decorating the Tablesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Place Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Menu Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Note About Today's Menusandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Knowing the Rules for Contemporary Table Settingsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What's on the Table at the Start of the Meal?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Salad Plates and the Service of Saladandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Using the Right Flatwareandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Table Accoutrements You Should Have for Entertaining Todayandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Buying Your Chinaandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Buying Table Linensandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Buying Flatwareandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Buying Glasswareandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Service of the Seated Meal -- With or Without Helpandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Who Is Served First?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Does the Waiter or Waitress Serve?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Serving a Dinner Party of Six Without Helpandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Training Young People to Wait on Tableandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Advice to Waitstaff on Serving a Typical Three-Course Mealandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Art of the Service of Wineandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tips on the Service of Wineandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Major Categories of Wine and Their Proper Serving Temperaturesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Champagne Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;After-Dinner Drinksandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How to Open a Wine Bottleandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tasting the Wine at Homeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tasting the Wine in a Good Restaurantandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wineglassesandlt;BRandgt;How Much Wine to Buyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wine Stainsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wine and Champagne Saversandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Storing Your Wineandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Serving Memorable Foodandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Ways to Interest Yourself in Cooking for Guestsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Many Courses Should You Serve?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Advice for Making Entertaining Easy, Attractive -- and Memorableandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Alternative Party Ideasandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Garage Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Parties Around Games That Require Using Your Witsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;An Exercise Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Entertaining Out and Aboutandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Personal Touchandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Things to Rememberandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Restaurant Mannersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Music Makes the World Go Roundandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Background Musicandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Dance Musicandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Hiring a Musician or Any Kind of Performerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Using Recorded Musicandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Protocol for You, Not Just for Royaltyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How to Receive Your Guestsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Name Badgesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Signing the Guest Bookandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Seating Arrangementsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Script for an Official Social Functionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Toasting Is an Art and an Important Part of Protocolandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Short Toastsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;What Prompts a Toast?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Do You Toast?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Loving Care of the Weekend Houseguestandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Whom to Inviteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Not to Invite Houseguestsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Getting Yourself Organizedandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Preparing the Houseandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How to Plan the Foodandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Necessary Attributes in an Accomplished Weekend Hostandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Houseguest Who Is Always Invited Backandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Houseguest with a Present Is More Welcome Than One Withoutandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Not to Forget: The Thank-you Letterandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Remember This About the Entire Subject of Entertainingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Most Prestigious Invitation of Them All: Dinner at the White Houseandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 16: Gifts That Show You Careandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Send Flowersandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When a Wedding Is in the Offingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Many Showers Are Too Many?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Bar Showerandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Wedding Presentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Bride's Dilemma: To Return or Not to Return Giftsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Presents for the Holidaysandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Organizing the Listandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Baking and Making Your Own Giftsandlt;BRandgt;and#160;andlt;BRandgt;Organizing Your Own Family's Christmas Dayandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Thank-you's for Holiday Giftsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Business Holiday Giftsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Hanukkah Presentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Gift Suggestions for Other People and Other Occasionsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Baby Presents and Christening Presentsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Suggestions for Gifts to Give Teenage Children on Any Occasionandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Gifts for the Elderlyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;For Someone Who Is Seriously Ill or Injuredandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Houseguest's Present for the Hostandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Gifts for a Housewarmingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;A Little Adviceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART 5: DIFFICULT TIMES: HEALING YOURSELF AND OTHERS WHEN TROUBLE STRIKESandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 17: How to Help Someone Deal with the Loss of a Spouseandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Dealing with a Divorceandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Should You Behave When You Have Divorced?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How Should People Behave When Their Friends Divorce?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You Are Widowedandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Dating Again and Remarriageandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When You're on Your Own Againandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Task of Healing Yourselfandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Real Friendandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;There Is a Difference Between Alone and Lonelyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Newly Single Woman's Nameandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 18: When Someone Is Ill or Injuredandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Minding Your Manners in the Hospitalandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When a Good Friend Develops a Life-Threatening Diseaseandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Have a Good Friend with AIDSandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;What You Say to the Person Who Has Just Suffered a Lossandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Someone Loses a Loverandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Parent Loses a Childandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Your Friend Has a Miscarriageandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 19: Making Things Right: When You've Really Messed Up. Send Rosesandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Making Amendsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Your Guests Have Arrived But You Have Mixed Up the Dates and Not Realized Tonight is Your Sit-Down Dinner Partyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Commit a Serious Gaffe in Making Introductionsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Control That Temper!andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;PART 6:THE KEY TO GOOD COMMUNICATION: MORE THAN ELECTRONICSandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 20: How to Be an Interesting Conversationalistandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Two V's: Voice and Vocabularyandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Force of a Dynamic Vocabularyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Can We Start a Literacy Crusade in the Workplace?andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Small Talkandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When Not to Make Small Talkandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;So What Are You Going to Talk About?andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;If You Don't Want to Be a Boreandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Extricating Yourself from a Conversational Dilemmaandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Conversational Heroandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Handling Prying Personal Relationship Questionsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Art of Giving and Receiving Complimentsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Compliments as Icebreakers When Conversation Has Bogged Downandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Know How to Accept a Complimentandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Notice a Friend's Physical Change for the Better -- or If You Notice It's a Change for the Worseandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 21: Great Telephone Manners at Homeandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;How You Sound Affects How People See You and Feel Toward Youandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;It's Important to Teach Telephone Manners to the Children, Which Means You Have Good Ones Yourself!andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Telephone Security When the Kids Are Homeandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Office Telephoneandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Taking Good Messagesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Dealing with a Well-Mannered Answering Machineandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Good Manners for the Answering Machine Owner (or Voice Mail User)andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Advice to the Person Leaving a Messageandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;A Caution About Answering Machinesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Cell Phone Etiquetteandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 22: Classic Correspondence: Writing Good Letters and Notesandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When an E-mail Isn't Appropriateandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Old-Fashioned Letterandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Helpful Hints on Letter Writingandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Writing Good Lettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Negatives to Watch Out Forandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Letters That Fit the Occasionandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Business Lettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Thank-you Lettersandlt;BRandgt;Letters of Complaintandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Letters of Referenceandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Letters of Congratulationandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Catch-up Lettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Letters of Apologyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Condolence Lettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Love Lettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Notesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Greeting Cards and Holiday Messagesandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Christmas Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Holiday Newslettersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Personal Stationery You Useandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Single Stationery Half Sheetsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Correspondence Cardsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Letter Paper for Everyday Useandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Very Nice to Haveandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Monograms -- Single and Marriedandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;The Electronic Revolutionandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Tech Manners in the Midst of New Signals, Flashes, Dashes, Squeaks, Vibrations, and Above All, Unidentifiable Noisesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Best Part of This New Societyandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Yes, E-mails Have Their Own Etiquette, Tooandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;E-mails: Wing-footed Messengers of Speedandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Beepers and Pagersandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Speakerphoneandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Bandgt;Chapter 23: Addressing People Properlyandlt;/Bandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How Should You Be Addressed?andlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Change Your Nameandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;When Writing Letters or Speaking to Someoneandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Writing to People with Professional Titlesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Using "Ms."andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When a Man Is a Jr., Sr., 2nd, 3rd, or 4thandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Using "Messrs."andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Addressing Envelopes for Invitationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;When You Don't Have a Clue About the Person to Whom You Are Writingandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The Southern Use of "Sir" or "Ma'am"andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Calling People by Their First or Last Namesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;How to Address Specific Groupsandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;United States Officialsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Addressing Womenandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;"The Honorable" -- A Title of Respect in Americaandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The British: Our Friends with Many Titlesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Diplomatic Protocol with Other Nationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Western European Titlesandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;The United Nationsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Military Rankandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Religious Officialsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;Foreign Professionalsandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;For Questions Relating to Protocolandlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Afterwordandlt;/Iandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;BRandgt;andlt;Iandgt;Indexandlt;/Iandgt;