Synopses & Reviews
What happens when love strikes twiceand the second time it does you are already satisfactorily, even happily, married? Michelle Banyon has a successful career as a lifestyle guru and “efficiency consultant.” She lives in Manhattan with her kind but thoroughly overworked international-lawyer husband. They are the perfect twenty-first-century couple: successful, self-sufficient, and understanding of the all-too-frequent absences that can sometimes make theirs a virtual marriage.
While lecturing in Texas, Michelle literally runs into Wilson Collins as shes backing out of a parking space. The handsome Texan is badly banged up, and Michelle performs one kindness after another as she tries to help him. A friendship blooms and, almost as quickly, love does, too. Unlike everyone else in Michelles life, Wilson has simple needs and desires and, to her immense surprise, she finds that she is someone very different when shes with him. Its not that she doesnt love her husbandshe does. She just happens to love two men, and the second one wants to marry her, too.
Confessions of a Bigamist is a romantic, thought-provoking novel that explores the question: Could you be happy living two entirely different lives?
About the Author
Kate Lehrer is the author of three previous novels. She lives in Washington, D.C.
Reading Group Guide
1. Lehrer chooses a Tennessee Williams quote as a prefix to the novel: “What is the victory of a cat on a hot tin roof? I wish I knew…Just staying on it, I guess, as long as she can.” What is Michelles personal “hot tin roof” and do you think she succeeds in staying on it until the end of the novel? If not, what forces propel her to jump down?
2. As young people, Michelle and Steve solidify their relationship over an unexpected pregnancy, only to withstand the tragedy of a miscarriage and a protracted illness that leaves Michelle infertile. How has their sense of surviving bad fortune colored their marriage? Where do you see Michelle still mourning “not just our little child, but all possible future children”? How does this issue complicate Michelles attitude toward her sister and her late mother–both of whom Michelle sees as un-nurturing and perpetually harried? Is Michelle being more than coy when she calls Daisy Strait Enterprises “my baby to fuss over”?
3. Michelle meets Wilson in front of a Brancusi sculpture of a bird. She is enthralled by the purity of the piece: “The bird embodied simplification, the radical reduction of an idea to its essence.” What is the “idea” in Michelles life that she longs to reduce to its essence? Why does she quickly link Wilson with her desire to pare down her life? Do you think she unfairly stereotypes him (she notices his “bear-cuddly” physique and “blue work shirt” immediately) as the opposite of the sophisticates she surrounds herself with in New York?
4. Steve is both a calming, structural influence in Michelles life, and a source of low-grade, continual stress. She describes him as “more a pouncer than a pacer…always alert, anticipatory, focused.” How has her long partnership with Steve molded Michelles personality? In what ways does Wilson offer her a different relationship dynamic? Which man brings out the better side of Michelle? If you were a trusted friend of Michelles, which partner would you steer her towards and why?
5. How does the author use various settings–the sparse New York apartment, the ramshackle Rollins house, the uptight Indiana home, the lavish Amazonian jungle–to explore facets of Michelles psyche?
6. Michelle Banyon is a sophisticated urbanite with straight hair, flawless designer clothing, subdued makeup, and polished taste who cherishes her privacy and is self-conscious among friends. Daisy Strait is a straight-talking, no-fuss firecracker with a sensible up-do, red lipstick, glasses, and confidence in spades among strangers. Mickey Collins is a spunky, outdoorsy gal with rustic taste in decorating, a hearty appetite, tousled hair, and a mostly-denim wardrobe, who appreciates girl-talk over lunch. Define three aspects of your own personality. Name and describe them.
7. Throughout the novel, Michelle seeks a voice of her own, and an arena in which to be clearly heard. In her New York social circle, she feels peripheral and mute, a mere provider of punctuation marks in our friends conversations. As Daisy Strait, she is articulate, but scripted and predictable, which ultimately leaves her flat. Around Wilson and the Texans, she tends toward dramatic outbursts, uncharacteristic arguments and passionate statements (I have ravenous appetites, I believe in indulgence.) It is a shocking and revelatory discovery, then, when she suddenly realizes that Steve had never heard me speak, nor expressed any interest in doing so. This is a major breakthrough in her analysis of her marriage. Why doesnt she cling to this realization later, when she is struggling so hard to make a decision?
8. Michelle often comments on the pressure of expectation. “My awareness of others expectations never left me.” In her final decision, do you think Michelle is conceding once again to the expectations of others? She meets with both men, planning to first confess to Steve and then say goodbye to Wilson. But Steves question, “we keep enduring, dont we?” elicits from her the answer, “Yes, we do.” And Wilsons exuberant “Mickey, honey! Come home!” results in her running into his arms. Is she pleasing herself first, or them?
9. Lehrer has said that bigamy is a metaphor for ambiguity. Can you think of the ways ambiguity and its resulting tension plays out around you, in our society, in your own life? Think of the tension that often occurs between freedom vs. security, intimacy vs. privacy, kindness vs. truth. Is ambiguity a necessary state?