Synopses & Reviews
"Love and money. Romance and the ultimate romance killer. Somewhere between the first date and the first shared utility bill, money nudges into a relationship, creating a threesome that is sometimes harmonious, sometimes hard to deal with."
Deborah Knuckey, from Conscious Spending for Couples
Money may not be the root of all evil, but conflicts over money can be the greatest source of trouble in a relationship. Arguing over money aggravates the frustrations, fears, and control issues in any relationship, and those hot-button issues can, in turn, make it more difficult to manage money sensibly. If this syndrome sounds familiar, Conscious Spending for Couples is here to help.
In this commonsense guide, money coach Deborah Knuckey applies her "Conscious Spending" approach to help couples strengthen their financial relationships. Conscious Spending is the art of aligning how you use your money with what you truly valueminimizing the money spent on things you enjoy less to free up money for what you enjoy more. Knuckey examines how men and women differ in the way they handle money and how these differences can prevent a couple from moving toward financial bliss. She then introduces practical tools for effective money managementbased on interviews with couples from a wide variety of backgroundsexploring real financial interactions and getting down to the root of what works and what doesnt in a diverse group of financial situations involving couples.
To help navigate the complicated relationship between a couples financial and emotional lives, Knuckey introduces the "Three Rules for Financial Bliss" that focus on how you and your partner can establish a fair and strong financial foundation. Next, she outlines the "Seven Skills for Financial Harmony"skills that will help couples become conscious of their money and create an abundant future. Working together, you and your partner will learn how to:
- Plan together
- Create a simple structure
- Establish good financial habits
- Communicate through conflict
- Invest for strong returns
- Create a safety net for two
- Get help when you need it
Knuckey will also guide you and your mate as you take a detailed look at the four biggest decisions you will make in your financial livessuch as buying a house and retiringand find ways of approaching these decisions that will work for both of you.
Simple quizzes and checklists help you determine what needs changing in your financial relationship and how to make those changes as painless as possible. Conscious Spending for Couples gives you the skills and confidence to use money to create joy and harmony in both of your lives.
Review
"a perfect book for newlyweds or any couple mired in debate over whether to spend or save." (Bookpage, January 2003)
Synopsis
Praise for CONSCIOUS SPENDING FOR COUPLES
"Deborah Knuckeys book should be included in every couples wedding registry. Conscious Spending for Couples will help newlyweds, couples, and families to understand what is needed to be on top of their financial game plan, and gives easy, creative, and hands-on advice on how to work as a team to achieve financial success. She does an excellent job of showing why money is such a point of contention for many couples, yet provides plenty of anecdotes and solutions to help every couple find their financial bliss."
Don M. Blandin, President, American Savings Education Council (www.ASEC.org),
creators of the Choose to Save® program (www.ChooseToSave.org)
"Deborah Knuckeys book helps couples deal with money in an emotionally intelligent way. She links critical communication skills with good money management in an inspiring, easy-to-read guide."
John Gray, PhD
Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"Conscious Spending for Couples is a must-read for couples who want to make their money work for them. This book shows readers how to use simple money management concepts to improve their financial well-being. In addition to financial advice, Conscious Spending for Couples addresses the emotional money issues that often keep couples from reaching their financial goals and enjoying their relationship."
Kelvin Boston, host of PBSs Moneywise and author of Smart Money Moves for African Americans
"Conscious Spending for Couples is a must-read for those pondering marriage, newlyweds whove already taken the plunge, and old fogies already sitting on the porch in rocking chairs. A powerful underlying message of Deborah Knuckeys book is that respect between two people is necessary to have a functional relationship around money. She leaves no stone unturned, covering everything from why its important for couples to stay debt-free to how NOT to argue about money."
Juliette Fairley, author of Cash in the City: Affording Manolos, Martinis, and Manicures on a Working Girls Salary
Synopsis
Includes bibliographical references (p. 303-305) and index.
Synopsis
Praise for CONSCIOUS SPENDING FOR COUPLES
"Deborah Knuckey's book should be included in every couple's wedding registry. Conscious Spending for Couples will help newlyweds, couples, and families to understand what is needed to be on top of their financial game plan, and gives easy, creative, and hands-on advice on how to work as a team to achieve financial success. She does an excellent job of showing why money is such a point of contention for many couples, yet provides plenty of anecdotes and solutions to help every couple find their financial bliss."
-Don M. Blandin, President, American Savings Education Council (www.ASEC.org),
creators of the Choose to Save program (www.ChooseToSave.org)
"Deborah Knuckey's book helps couples deal with money in an emotionally intelligent way. She links critical communication skills with good money management in an inspiring, easy-to-read guide."
-John Gray, PhD
Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"Conscious Spending for Couples is a must-read for couples who want to make their money work for them. This book shows readers how to use simple money management concepts to improve their financial well-being. In addition to financial advice, Conscious Spending for Couples addresses the emotional money issues that often keep couples from reaching their financial goals and enjoying their relationship."
-Kelvin Boston, host of PBS's Moneywise and author of Smart Money Moves for African Americans
"Conscious Spending for Couples is a must-read for those pondering marriage, newlyweds who've already taken the plunge, and old fogies already sitting on the porch in rocking chairs. A powerful underlying message of Deborah Knuckey's book is that respect between two people is necessary to have a functional relationship around money. She leaves no stone unturned, covering everything from why it's important for couples to stay debt-free to how NOT to argue about money."
-Juliette Fairley, author of Cash in the City: Affording Manolos, Martinis, and Manicures on a Working Girl's Salary
About the Author
DEBORAH KNUCKEY is a writer, money coach, and speaker. Her "Conscious Spending" approach, highlighted in her first personal finance book The Ms. Spent Money Guide (Wiley), has been featured on Oprah and in USA Today. Knuckey has an MBA from UCLA and has worked as a consultant at McKinsey & Co., and as a financial reporter at News Corporation. She writes regularly for Washingtonian magazine and lives in Washington, D.C. Her Web site is www.deborahknuckey.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction.
PART ONE: LOVE AND MONEY.
Chapter 1. Conscious Couples and Financial Harmony.
Chapter 2. Understanding Each Other's Point of View.
Chapter 3. Managing Your Money Styles.
Chapter 4. Creating Financial Harmony.
PART TWO: THREE RULES FOR FINANCIAL HARMONY.
Rule 1. If You Don't Got It, You Can't Spend It.
Rule 2. Follow the 80:20 Rule.
Rule 3. Even Big Kids Get to Play.
PART THREE: SEVEN SKILLS FOR FINANCIAL HARMONY.
Skill 1. Planning Together.
Skill 2. Creating a Simple Structure.
Skill 3. Getting into Good Habits.
Skill 4. Communicating Through Conflict.
Skill 5. Investing for Strong Returns.
Skill 6. Creating a Safety Net for Two.
Skill 7. Getting Help When You Need It.
PART FOUR: FOUR LIFESTYLE DECISIONS THAT MAKE OR BREAK YOUR FINANCES.
Decision 1. Where You Live.
Decision 2. What You Drive.
Decision 3. Whether You Have Children.
Decision 4. When You Retire.
Epilogue.
Bibliography.
Other Resources.
Index.