Synopses & Reviews
Families, schools, and communities can prepare children and teens to THRIVE through both good and challenging times. Building Resilience in Children and Teens offers strategies to help kids from 18 months to 18 years build seven crucial Cs” competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control so they can excel in life and bounce back from challenges. The book describes how to raise authentically successful children who will be happy, hardworking, compassionate, creative, and innovative. Dr. Ginsburg reminds parents that our goal is to think in the present and prepare for the future, to remember that our real goal is to raise children to be successful 35-year-olds. Its about more than immediate smiles or even good grades; its about raising kids to be emotionally and socially intelligent, to be able to recover from disappointment and forge ahead throughout their lives. The stable connection between caring adults and children is the key to the security that allows kids to creatively master challenges and reach their highest potential. This book offers concrete strategies to solidify those vital family connections.
Resilience is also about confronting the overwhelming stress kids face today. This invaluable guide offers coping strategies for facing the stresses of academic performance, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure, and family tension. Young people too commonly survive stress by indulging in unhealthy behaviors or by giving up completely The suggested solutions offered here are aimed at building a repertoire of positive coping strategies. Kids who have these healthy strategies in place may be less likely to turn to those quick, easy, but dangerous fixes that adults fear. The book includes a guide for teens to create their own customized positive coping strategies.
The second edition of this award-winning book continues to focus on parents, but now also offers wisdom about how schools and communities can best support families. It is updated throughout and entirely new chapters offer strategies on how best to: support military families, confront the negative portrayal of teens, prevent perfectionism and support authentic success. Finally, the book now guides parents how to recharge and rebound when their own resilience reaches its limits.
Synopsis
Confronting the overwhelming amount of stress kids face today, this invaluable guide offers coping strategies for facing the combined elements of academic performance, high achievement standards, media messages, peer pressure, and family tension.
The handbook acknowledges that adolescents commonly survive stress by either indulging in unhealthy behaviors or giving up completely, and its suggested solutions are aimed at strengthening resilience. The proposed plan enables kids from the age of 18 months to 18 years to build the seven crucial Cs”competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and controlneeded to bounce back from challenges.
A variety of approaches are featured such as building on natural strengths, fostering hope and optimism, avoiding risky behaviors, and taking care of oneself physically and emotionally. With new chapters on perfectionism, the negative portrayal of teens, military families, and what parents can do when resilience has reached its limits, this examination also includes two personalized guides for creating customized strategies.
About the Author
Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MSEd, FAAP is an associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine and practices adolescent medicine at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia. He is the author of But I'm Almost 13!: An Action Plan for Raising a Responsible Adolescent and the coauthor of Less Stress, More Success: A New Approach to Guiding Your Teen Through College Admissions and Beyond. He lives in Philadelphia.
Table of Contents
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments
Preface
Part 1 Resilience and Stress
Chapter 1 Why Resilience?
Chapter 2 Stress and Its Effects
Chapter 3 Ingredients of Resilience: 7 Crucial Cs
Chapter 4 Not Letting Others Undermine Your Childs Resilience (or Psyche You Out!)
Part 2 Competence and Confidence
Chapter 5 Getting Out of the Way
Chapter 6 The Value of Play
Chapter 7 Noticing, Praising, and Criticizing
Chapter 8 Authentic Success
Chapter 9 Thinking Clearly
Chapter 10 No More Lectures
Chapter 11 I Get It!”
Chapter 12 Changing Behavior Step-by-step
Chapter 13 Shifting the Blame to Save Face
Chapter 14 Media Literacy
Chapter 15 Not Being Broken
Chapter 16 Building Confidence
Part 3 Connection, Character, and Contribution
Chapter 17 Connection
Chapter 18 The Art and Importance of Listening
Chapter 19 Strengthening Family Ties
Chapter 20 Widening the Circle
Chapter 21 Some Cautions About Connection
Chapter 22 Supporting Resilience in Military Families
Chapter 23 Character
Chapter 24 Contribution
Part 4 Coping
Chapter 25 Getting a Grip on Stress
Chapter 26 Taking Action
Chapter 27 Taking Care of Your Body
Chapter 28 Taking Care of Your Emotions
Part 5 Control
Chapter 29 Styles of Discipline
Chapter 30 Positive Discipline Strategies
Chapter 31 Increasing Kids Control
Chapter 32 Delaying Gratification and Trusting Their Decisions
Chapter 33 One Rung at a Time
Chapter 34 Not Everything Is Within Our Control
Part 6 When Resilience Is Challenged Beyond Reasonable Limits
Chapter 35 Extreme Circumstances
Chapter 36 Turning for Help
Chapter 37 When Your Own Resilience Reaches Its Limits
Part 7 Especially for Communities and Individual Teens
Chapter 38 Community-based Resilience-building Strategies
Chapter 39 Just for Kids: A Personalized Guide for Managing Stress
Parting Thoughts
Resources
Index