Synopses & Reviews
As a popular advice columnist in the UK, Barbara Jacobs never suspected she'd be the one needing the relationship advice. But when she fell in love with Danny, a man with Asperger's Syndrome, she quickly learned to expect the unexpected. In this book, Barbara candidly delves into the dynamics of their relationship. She lovingly compares Danny to Mr. Spock, a character who thrives on logic rather than emotion, while admitting that she was quite opposite. Join Barbara and Danny on their tumultuous journey in love, and learn about Asperger's along the way through figures, diagnostic guidelines, quotes and surveys by other couples, and more. If you love someone with Asperger's, or have Asperger's yourself, you can learn a lot from this book. Note: This book addresses some mature topics.
Helpful chapters include:
- The Handsome Stranger Syndrome
- First Steps in a Parallel Universe
- Other-wired
- Bringing Up Baby
- A Working Model
- Breakthrough
- Nuts and Bolts
Review
“A searingly honest account of the difficulties faced when people who are differently wired come together!”
David Potter, National Autistic Society
Review
“It is a must for all those with an autism spectrum disorder in their midst!”
Christopher Gillberg, Advisor to the World Health Organization
Review
“When Barbara met Danny, she immediately recognized that he was not a typical young man and certainly not her equal in terms of social understanding. . . . Danny found in Barbara his mentor, social interpreter and someone to mother and father him. . . . The story of their relationship is written in the style of a conversation between the author and the reader as though you are best friends. Barbara discovers Danny’s diagnosis after she fell in love with him, and her journey of exploration, of a parallel universe inhabited by those similar to Mr Spock, who prioritize logic and facts over emotion and intuition, is a fascinating and entrancing story. The reader will become knowledgeable in the nature of Asperger’s Syndrome, not only from reading about Barbara’s observations, insight and experiences but also from reading her review of the academic literature and the quotations from other adults with Asperger’s Syndrome. She has also conducted a small survey of couples where one partner has Asperger’s Syndrome to compare experiences, and provide a list of resources for more information and support. . . . Those who have Asperger’s Syndrome will also value Loving Mr Spock."
About the Author
Barbara and Leonard Jacobs have studied culinary arts for over two decades with an emphasis on natural vegetarian based meals. They have managed restaurants, studies with master chefs, and taught cooks to hundreds of students.Tony Attwood is a practicing clinical psychologist with more than 25 years' experience. He has worked with over 2000 individuals of all ages with Asperger's syndrome. He presents workshops and runs training courses for parents, professionals and individuals with AS all over the world and is a prolific author of articles and books on the subject.
Table of Contents
Chapter One: The Handsome Stranger Syndrome
Sixty characteristics of Asperger’s Syndrome
Chapter Two: First Steps in a Parallel Universe
Asperger’s Syndrome can be confused with . . .
Asperger’s Syndrome can include . . .
Chapter Three: Other-wired
The AQ test
Chapter Four: Bringing Up Baby
Asperger questionnaire
Chapter Five: A Working Model
Aspergers and employment
Chapter Six: Breakthrough
Asperger’s Syndrome diagnostic criteria
Chapter Seven: Nuts and Bolts
Negotiating Relationships with Asperger’s