Synopses & Reviews
Synopsis
The book that will change your relationships for the better
How MEN & WOMEN FIT, finally understand your partner with the 3 Brains theory brings a revolutionary new way of looking at interpersonal relationships and how we as men and women can change our communication and social skills.
The 3 Brains theory (Head, Heart and Gut Brain) it is based upon connecting research that is done over the last 70 years. How our brains developed from early times, how they make decision and even more important in which hierarchy and how they communicate with each other.
In this book you will discover how our 3 brains determine your and yours partners life, how they are in charge of our emotions, decisions, communication, listening skills and how we handle conflicts. So actually, how successful, meaningful and happy/healthy all of your relationships are.
You will understand how our Head Brain provides us with logic and creativity, how our Heart Brain is the connector with other people and "drives" us with emotions like love, hatred and compassion and last but not least how our Gut Brain is in command of our survival and therefore, is able to overrule the other two. It is the "ME' Brain. This is the killer of a healthy relationship if it is in command.
I guide you through the 5 reasons why we are setup for having troubled relationships:
1. We misunderstand how our Minds (1 vs 3 brains) Really Work
2. Our Gut and Heart Brain disagree about "ME" and" US" in Making Decisions
3. The Equality Problem: We have been taught to dominate or to submit
4. Gender Stereotypes: The Mars/Venus fallacy, the Hoax of Feminine and Masculine Traits
5. We Underestimate the Power of Trauma/Abuse and Bullying
And more important how to overcome those in the 17 rules and solutions for dealing with the 3 Brains.
Furthermore I touch the topic how our 3 brains develop in children and teenagers and how to deal with that.
Just like the topic we all like to know to how our 3 Brains are connected with sex or love making.
We can all learn what our preference is, and also recognize which is our partner's, friend's, colleague's or manager's dominant brain.
The beauty is we can educate our 3 Brains, they are not set in stone. My promise: Happy Healthy Relationships are possible
Christoffel Sneijders
What people said about it:
Ma Teresa Alonso Ja n Owner & Founder of TLeadGo
This book is a great guideline to build emotional connection and happiness.
It brings a different perspective regarding gender differences and relationships, applicable not only to loving relationships but to family, business and friends' relationships.
It really breaks up the stereotypical thinking, so much needed to navigate with the speed of change in our current environment.
We really need more than ever, to support and complete each other, embrace diversity, have an open heart, connected mind and feel centered.
Leadership is all about being in coherence in the way we think, feel and act, which has a direct impact on the way we relate to others.
By understanding how our three brains work, we understand ourselves and the ones around us is a better way and contribute to have healthier relationships, a healthier society.
Thank you Christoffel for your contribution to make the world a better place to live.
Highly recommended reading
Margaret Lawlor Executive Officer at Down syndrome WA:
Your book is fantastic christoffel and would higly recommend and you are so full of amazing insight and knowledge
Synopsis
The book that will change all your relationships for the better, personal and business
Why?
How many times have you been in conversation with a partner or loved one, and felt that you just couldn't get through to them?
You both understood the words, but neither of you was hearing the other? Like your brain was turned off. It's frustrating. Disappointing. And it happens all the time.
How many times, after a conflict or disagreement, have you felt that it would have been different if you knew then what you came to understand later?
Why is it so hard to have a happy, healthy relationship?
You would think that cutting-edge science would not be needed to address this question. After millions of years of evolution and tens of thousands of human societies, you'd think we'd have worked out by now how to understand, and get along with, one another. Philosophers and poets might have some insights, and I don't want to tread on their turf.
However, as a therapist, coach, and associate professor of the science of behavioral organizational leadership and communication, I wonder what we have unlearned across the years, or what have we learned that is not actually true?
Why do people say the things they do? How do some words excite our emotions and others turn them off?
What is the connection between that gut-wrenching or passionate feeling in our heart, and our communication and interactions? And how can science have proven we react to stimuli seconds before we are consciously aware of them? Who is in charge inside us?
That is this book about, it is built around crucial new insights into the science of human thinking in an easy way to understand and with clear solutions.
Current research has upended the notion that we have in our heads a single powerful mind that is home to our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. In fact, science now tells us that we have not one, but three centers of thought and memory Each one perceives, interprets, and reacts to the world in a distinctly different way.
In addition to our well-known 'thinking' brain (which we will call the 'Head Brain'), we have a 'feeling' brain (which we will call our 'Heart Brain') and a third brain - at our core - whose job it is to keep us safe. We will call this 'self-preservation' brain the 'Gut Brain'.
In this book you will discover how our 3 brains determine your and yours partners life, how they are in charge of our emotions, decisions, communication, listening skills and how we handle conflicts. So actually, how successful, meaningful and happy/healthy all of your relationships are.
We can all learn what our preference is, and also recognize which is our partner's, friend's, colleague's or manager's dominant brain.
The beauty is we can educate our 3 Brains, they are not set in stone. My promise: Happy Healthy Relationships are possible
Christoffel Sneijders
Synopsis
Discover the breakthrough concept of how our three Brains can prevent or enable our relationships to succeed and flourish.
Learn groundbreaking communication
techniques you can use with your partner, beloved ones or colleagues. For every personal or business relationship this is the guide to success.
Why?
How many times have you been in conversation, and felt that you just couldn't get through to them?
You both understood the words, but neither of you was hearing the other? Like your brain was turned off. It's frustrating. Disappointing. And it happens all the time.
How many times, after a conflict or disagreement, have you felt that it would have been different if you knew then what you came to understand later?
Why is it so hard to have a happy, healthy relationship?
You would think that cutting-edge science would not be needed to address this question. After millions of years of evolution and tens of thousands of human societies, you'd think we'd have worked out by now how to understand, and get along with, one another. Philosophers and poets might have some insights, and I don't want to tread on their turf.
However, as a therapist, coach, and associate professor of the science of behavioral organizational leadership and communication, I wonder what we have unlearned across the years, or what have we learned that is not actually true?
Why do people say the things they do? How do some words excite our emotions and others turn them off?
What is the connection between that gut-wrenching or passionate feeling in our heart, and our communication and interactions? And how can science have proven we react to stimuli seconds before we are consciously aware of them? Who is in charge inside us?
That is this book about, it is built around crucial new insights into the science of human thinking in an easy way to understand and with clear solutions.
Current research has upended the notion that we have in our heads a single powerful mind that is home to our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. In fact, science now tells us that we have not one, but three centers of thought and memory Each one perceives, interprets, and reacts to the world in a distinctly different way.
In addition to our well-known 'thinking' brain (which we will call the 'Head Brain'), we have a 'feeling' brain (which we will call our 'Heart Brain') and a third brain - at our core - whose job it is to keep us safe. We will call this 'self-preservation' brain the 'Gut Brain'.
In this book you will discover how our 3 brains determine your and yours partners life, how they are in charge of our emotions, decisions, communication, listening skills and how we handle conflicts. So actually, how successful, meaningful and happy/healthy all of your relationships are.
We can all learn what our preference is, and also recognize which is our partner's, friend's, colleague's or manager's dominant brain.
The beauty is we can educate our 3 Brains, they are not set in stone. My promise: Happy Healthy Relationships are possible
Christoffel Sneijders