Synopses & Reviews
At thirty-nine, movie critic Mary Pols knew she wanted to have a baby. But never not in a million years on her own. To take on the physical, emotional, and financial challenges of motherhood without a perfect soul mate/husband would be absurd, kind of like not bothering to use a condom during a one-night stand with an adorable but jobless guy ten years her junior.
Pols spends the ensuing weeks despairing over everything, from the financial nightmare of single motherhood to the end of her hopes for a traditional life. Not the least of her worries is finding the right way to drop the bombshell on loved ones, including her five siblings and eighty-four-year-old father, who has a German temper and an Irish Catholic attitude toward babies out of wedlock. Yet faced with the frightening, lonely truth that this might be her only chance at motherhood, she plunges ahead with the pregnancy and an Odd Couple version of a co-parenting relationship that looks like one more disaster in a long line of romantic disappointments. But even as she tries to give her son's young father a radical makeover, she realizes that his devotion and love for their child matters more than his spotty resume or his inability to remember to put oil in the car. With humor, insight, and compelling honesty, Pols reveals what it means to compromise in the name of love and to find joy in an accidental life, suddenly brimming with purpose.
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"Sharp, witty and slightly self-deprecating, [Pols] alternates clever, camera-ready one-liners with intense self-revelations about parents, children, love and family." San Francisco Chronicle
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"Astutely witty...will grip you to the very last page. This is a feminist tale for our age." Heidi Julavits, author of The Uses of Enchantment
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"It's funny, intimate, wise, and real, and we get to root for fortysomething Mary, her twentysomething coparent, Matt, and their little son, Dolan, now four." Elle
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"A page-turner by someone who stopped waiting for Mr. Perfect." Kirkus Reviews
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"[Pols writes] with humor and grace....It's rare to find such honesty, even in an account so personal. (Grade: A-)" Entertainment Weekly
About the Author
A native of Maine, mary pols lives with her son, Dolan, in Northern California. A former staff writer for the Los Angeles Times, the Seattle Times, and the Los Angeles Daily News, she was the film critic for the Contra-Costa Times for nearly a decade. She has taught at the University of California-Berkeley and was a Knight Fellow at Stanford. She is working on her second book.