Synopses & Reviews
Dr. Joshua Coleman is a caring psychologist who nonetheless isn't afraid to tell the truth: not all marriages can be joyful at all times, but that isn't a cause for divorce, especially with children involved.
Even if your marriage is never going to be the one you dreamed of, you can still live happily ever after. Dr. Coleman provides wise and compassionate advice on becoming a happy person in an unhappy situation.
In this groundbreaking work, Dr. Coleman also teaches readers how to:
- Reduce out-of-control conflict in the home
- Let go of the fairy-tale marriage ideal and create a better reality
- Accept change in your partner and make peace with what you can't change
- Maintain domestic harmony in times of crisis
Unhappy husbands and wives finally have an alternative to the devastation of divorce. And by maintaining imperfect harmony, each parent has the opportunity to love, to care for, and to teach his or her children "full-time."
Review
"This is a radical book. It challenges some of the most dearly held American beliefs about marriage and long term relationships. It challenges adults to examine themselves and their marriages for ways to change in order to remain good parents and viable family units for their children. It assumes, in a matter of fact, professional and upbeat manner that it's desirable and possible to overcome and learn to live with serious relational problems that most in our modern culture would consider grounds for separation and divorce. And it offers the astounding idea that having a marriage characterized by such 'imperfect harmony' can be part of a satisfying, happy life."
-From the foreword by Julia Lewis, co-author of The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce
Synopsis
Dr. Coleman posits a controversial theory: you can have a happy life, regardless of the state of your marriage. To expect happiness in a modern marriage is wishful, foolish thinking. Not all marriages can be joyful, or even meaningful, but that isn't a cause for divorce--especially with children involved.
Synopsis
Not all marriages can be joyful or even meaningful, but that isn't a cause for divorce, especially when children are involved. In his groundbreaking work, Dr. Coleman teaches his readers how to reduce out-of-control conflict in the home and let go of the fairy-tale marriage ideal.
Synopsis
Includes bibliographical references (p. 219-226) and index.
About the Author
Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., is a psychologist with practices in San Francisco and Oakland, California. He is on the training faculty of the San Francisco Psychotherapy Research Group and has served on the clinical faculties of the University of California at San Francisco/Mt. Zion Hospital Crisis Clinic and the Wright Institute Graduate School of Psychology. He has been a frequent contributor to the
San Francisco Chronicle and currently writes a column for
TWINS Magazine. He is a member of the Council on Contemporary Families and the National Council on Family Relations. Dr. Coleman lives with his wife and twin boys in the San Francisco Bay Area.