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Good Fences Make Good Neighbors
In the perennial favorite Boundaries, Anne Katherine introduced the concept and importance of personal limits. In Where to Draw the Line, she takes the next step with a practical guide to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in a wide range of situations.
With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we'll protect what we value or that we'll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. Unlike defenses, which isolate us from our true selves and from those we love, boundaries filter out harm.
This book provides the tools and insights needed to create boundaries so that we can allow time and energy for the things that matter -- and helps break down limiting defenses that stunt personal growth. Focusing on every facet of daily life -- from friendships and sexual relationships to dress and appearance to money, food, and psychotherapy -- Katherine presents case studies highlighting the ways in which individuals violate their own boundaries or let other people breach them. Using real-life examples, from self-sacrificing mothers to obsessive neat freaks, she offers specific advice on making choices that balance one's own needs with the needs of others.
Boundaries are the unseen structures that support healthy, productive lives. Where to Draw the Line shows readers how to strengthen them and hold them in place every day.
Synopsis
From the acclaimed author of the perennial favorite
Boundaries, Where to Draw the Line is a practical guide to establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in many different situations.
With every encounter, we either demonstrate that we’ll protect what we value or that we’ll give ourselves away. Healthy boundaries preserve our integrity. Unlike defenses, which isolate us from our true selves and from those we love, boundaries filter out harm.
This book provides the tools and insights needed to create boundaries so that we can allow time and energy for the things that matter—and helps break down limiting defenses that stunt personal growth. Focusing on every facet of daily life—from friendships and sexual relationships to dress and appearance to money, food, and psychotherapy—Katherine presents case studies highlighting the ways in which individuals violate their own boundaries or let other people breach them. Using real-life examples, from self-sacrificing mothers to obsessive neat freaks, she offers specific advice on making choices that balance one’s own needs with the needs of others.
Boundaries are the unseen structures that support healthy, productive lives. Where to Draw the Line shows readers how to strengthen them and hold them in place every day.
About the Author
Anne Katherine, M.A., is a certified mental health counselor, speaker, and the author of Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin and Anatomy of a Food Addiction. She lives near Seattle, Washington, where she leads programs for recovery and healing.
Table of Contents
ContentsMultitudinous Gratitude
1. What Are Boundaries?
2. Time Boundaries
3. Defenses versus Boundaries
4. Communication Boundaries
5. Setting Boundaries on Defensiveness
6. Boundary Violations
7. Setting Limits on Attack
8. Anger Boundaries
9. Making Amends
10. Friendship Boundaries
11. Gossip Gossip Gossip (or Triangulation)
12. Intimacy Boundaries
13. Holiday, Birthday, and Celebration Boundaries
14. Sexual Boundaries
15. Gender Boundaries
16. Divorce Boundaries
17. Possession Boundaries
18. Parent Boundaries
19. Spiritual Boundaries
20. Tidiness Boundaries
21. Dress and Appearance Boundaries
22. Boundaries for Illness and Chronic Conditions
23. When Someone Is Dying
24. Autonomy Boundaries
25. Food Boundaries
26. Internet Boundaries
27. Therapist Boundaries
28. Your Safe Country