Synopses & Reviews
"What happened to the passion we started with?
Why aren't we as close as we used to be?"
PROBLEM: If you are a woman who is unfulfilled in your marriage...if you feel unheard or overburdened...if you quietly live in a state of slow-burn resentment...
PROBLEM: If you are a man unhappy that your partner seems so unhappy with you...if you feel bewildered, unappreciated, or betrayed...
This book offers a solution
Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real -- drawing on his pioneering work on male depression -- gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, no other relationship book is as straight talking or compelling in its innovative approach to healing wounds and reconnecting partners with a new strength and understanding.
"Real is attuned to the characteristics of contemporary marriages and demonstrates insight into both male and female perspectives....This is a well-balanced and exciting new addition to the marriage-manual genre." Publishers Weekly
Drawing on his experience with hundreds of couples, the author of the bestselling I Don't Want to Talk About It explains how both men and women can escape the roles tradition has assigned them and develop the skills that lead to intimacy learning how to hold the relationship in regard and how to speak, listen, negotiate, and stay on course.
About the Author
Terrence Real is the author of the national bestseller I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression. A family therapist and lecturer for more than twenty years, he is a member of the senior faculty at the Family Institute of Cambridge and director of the Gender Relations Program at the Meadows Institute in Arizona. For more information on Terrence Real, visit www.terryreal.com.
Table of Contents
- Love on the Ropes: Men and Women in Crisis
- Echo Speaks: Empowering the Woman
- Bringing Men in from the Cold
- Psychological Patriarchy: The Dance of Contempt
- The Third Ring: A Conspiracy of Silence
- The Unspeakable Pain of Collusion
- Narcissus Resigns: An Unconventional Therapy
- Small Murders: How We Lose Passion
- A New Model of Love
- Recovering Real Passion
- Love?s Assassins: Control, Revenge, and Resignation
- Intimacy as a Daily Practice
- Relational Esteem
- Learning to Speak Relationally
- Learning to Listen: Scanning for the Positive
- Staying the Course: Negotiation and Integrity
- What It Takes to Love